*thinks back to a particular
post she made awhile ago*
It is totally possible to hate your parents and having responded to my post I know you can believe that I very much understand where your coming from on this. Hate is a strong word yes, but its a feeling that is constantly changing...sometimes dads just do everything wrong and you hate them to no end and sometimes their great and you forget for awhile about all the bad things they have done to you. There is a very big difference between doing what is necessary as a parent and just being a total a** and it sounds like both our dads are the later
evil The only thing I can say to you is don't let it get to you. I know it does and it will, but you shouldn't let his actions make you so upset. Don't let him control your life like that. He will
always do things that make you upset, I will not sugar coat it...more misery is what you have to look forward too. But there will be calm times mixed in and even good times which should
never be over looked. You just have to let it roll off your shoulders and learn to put it in the past quickly or it will leave you angry, upset, and spiteful for days.
Just take a few breathe and say "you know what, why should I let this bring
me down? Its not even worth the time and pain. I have better things to do with my life and my time." But don't think "I'm better than this" or "I'm above this" because that's going down another road with a bad ending. Also never think "well I know the truth, I understand, and he's just stupid." When it comes to what
you think, you have blinders on. Every one thinks they understand who they are and what they want and what is happening blah blah "oh my friend would never do that, I've know her for 5 years..." or "he did that just to spite me I know it"...the fact is you
don't know, you just
think you know and so believe that your right. Again that leads down to a very bad ending. You have your views and your dad has his, they don't match sure, but that doesn't mean either of you are right or wrong.
You just have to come to terms with the fact that you two will always disagree and one of you has to step up and say "alright fine we disagree but that doesn't me we should waste our time yelling and doing things out of spite and being angry about it." When he does something that makes you made, understand that you do things that make him mad. The only way to get along is to be civil like you would be with a customer, don't get into anything deeper, but still be courteous and friendly you know?
Oh but its her father blah blah blah.... parents are not saints and sometimes are very very bad when it comes to their kids being older and having their own lives. Really I think some parents should only be allowed to keep their kids up to the age of 10 lol cause after that things can get nasty... anyways I have typed enough lol but know that I am always here for you hun if you need to vent about irritating fathers
3nodding Oh and btw, I
completely get the whole making 6.50 and they expect you to pay for everything omg do I get that -.-
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