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Today was my first day at work and I had fun meeting my new fellow employees and getting everything all cleaned up in the store (not opened yet). So I come home and go out to eat and have a good time with my BF, having an all around good day. Then my dad comes home and asks me "how was it working for the guy?"

I started my sentence with "fine, we're not actually open yet..." and all hell broke loose. My dad kept complaining that I was answering him and just being argumentative or something while I kept trying to finish my sentence which would have been "we're not actually open yet so we didn't work in the whole serving customers sense...blah blah" you know having an actual conversation?

But because I wasn't giving him one word answers in the 2 seconds he wanted them he got all pissy. I told him he should let me finish and so he was like 'ok fine' and proceeded to stand there with his arms crossed just oozing that 'hurry the ******** up, what an idiot' kind of attitude so I told him I wasn't going to talk to him if he was gonna be an a** about it.

Which of course caused him to go on a rant about how I am oh so young and think that just because I have a BA in Psychology that I can tell how people feel from body language blah blah...no I think this is my father who I have lived with for 25 years and so know exactly how he is.

So when I won't answer him again cause he was being an a**, he got even more pissed off and ranted about how he only wanted to know how my day was and when I said 'I was trying to tell you...' he cut me off and started in on 'no you weren't, you were just repeating the same crap that had nothing to do with anything blah blah' and finished with 'I just wanted to know about the young but now I don't even want to know."

He slammed the door and walked off after that but then came back two mins later, acting all sweet, "so how was work"... I was near tears at the time [mind you because of this man I CANNOT handle yelling and start to cry when I get frustrated]. So I again try to answer his question by saying what I had been trying to say all along but he just got pissed again and asked why I was all upset when I was just being an idiot [not his words but I can't remember exactly what he said].

Blah blah more yelling from him about how I couldn't even answer his simple question and me trying to say that I was trying to...finally he walked off saying "don't even come near me anymore." Needless to say I was crying and shaking and having trouble breathing for like 20 mins with Chris, BF, giving me hugs and such.

But this is my father, thats how he always has been. He has such an a*****e-ish attitude and he doesn't even realize...then he asks me why I am upset when the whole argument is "my fault". I take things directly as they are said to me...he said "how was it like working for the guy" and I tried to say "we hadn't been working in the technically sense of having customers and all that, we had just kinda hung out and cleaned up for a bit." Yet since I "contradicted" him by saying we hadn't worked [cause he didn't let me finish the rest, thats all he heard], he thought I was being the a** I guess.

I was all ready for a conversation too...a normal, generic conversation about how much fun I had had at work that morning...but I couldn't even get passed the first question. And my dad remains blissfully unaware of any of this and will continue to be bad at me for causing the argument cause I didn't want to answer him [or so he will think]...

This all just goes to further my recent feelings that I am surrounded by people who can't hear me [not counting online people btw]. I am screaming inside at the top of my lungs and absolutely nothing seems to be reaching them. Everything I say is taking to be insulting or rude or whatever when, had they actually been listening and paying attention, they would know that was definitely not what was intended.

I don't know...I just needed to clear my head cause I have to go to bed really soon and I do not want to go to bed feeling like this when I have to be at work at 9am tomorrow. I know you guys will all offer hugs and such and I thank you in advance cause I don't plan on coming back to this thread as living it in the past is best...as you can understand. So thanks for letting me clear my head of all this negativity and for just giving me a place I feel comfortable doing it smile

Love ya all!

*hugs*