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 Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 9:43 pm
Wow...so...where to begin.
I'm so confused.
I grew up in a VERY sheltered home and area. It's a very religious community. I remember growing up having all boy friends and wanting to be the male hero in my favorite shows (I wanted to be Peter Pan and Aladdin and most of all Prince Phillip because let's face it he's AWESOME) I remember asking my mum vague questions about why I couldn't do certain things and she'd say "because you're a girl" and I'd tell her "that's dumb. Can I be a boy, then?"
I think that the parents tried to squish that thought out of me. They painted my room pink against my will, lined my walls with teddy bears and dolls, and controlled all of the clothes that I bought and wore.
So, the thought did drift out of my mind.
After I got out of the house I became a typical rebellious little b***h, became pagan, chopped all of my hair off, etc. (It's grown back now, though...)
Rather recently, I realized that I do in fact like girls. I have a wonderful girlfriend, but I'm still NOT HAPPY.
...Then I ran across a random thread about FtM.
And...I dunno. I can't help but think "Would it make me feel this confused if there wasn't a chance?"
I dunno, I think I just need someone to talk to. ;_;
Thanks for listening, reading, whatever, to my rather disjointed rant...
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 1:55 am
Well, if you still want to be a male, think it through for a while, when your ready, maybe tell your girlfriend about your desire to be the opposite gender?
Its up to you, really.
If you need to talk to anyone anytime, I'm here (:
I sort of know what you mean, my mother laughed at me and asked me loads of embarrassing questions when I told her I was transsexual, she doesn't like the idea of it personally, but is still willing to let me get put on testosterone.
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:35 pm
lol, my parents would never speak to me again. XD
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 1:32 pm
Cayden face lol, my parents would never speak to me again. XD
My mother tries to take control of my life alot, and telling her about my transsexuality was a bit embarrassing indeed. Also the fact she continues to ask questions is a bit embarrassing too.
Maybe.. one day sit one of them down, the one you think will understand the most, and then tell them, and talk them through why you feel this way.
They are going to find out one day, so its best to go through with it.
Its not going to be easy though, however, it depends where your confidence levels are and everything. (:
good luck!
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Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 4:40 pm
Transsexual Testosterone Cayden face lol, my parents would never speak to me again. XD
My mother tries to take control of my life alot, and telling her about my transsexuality was a bit embarrassing indeed. Also the fact she continues to ask questions is a bit embarrassing too.
Maybe.. one day sit one of them down, the one you think will understand the most, and then tell them, and talk them through why you feel this way.
They are going to find out one day, so its best to go through with it.
Its not going to be easy though, however, it depends where your confidence levels are and everything. (:
good luck! Thanks ^^ Of course I'm not quite sure, yet...it's still running about a gazillion miles an hour around in my head. Suddenly being uncomfortable with my body ever since puberty makes so much sense ._. XD But they're super religious, so the moment I explained what it was they'd probably just tell me to leave and never come back...so it'll have to wait until I'm completely independent. XD
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 12:21 am
Well first of all, depending on your age and where you live, if you are below 16 they are not legally allowed to throw you out the house. You have to stay with your parents at least until the age of 16.
Also, your parents could get into big trouble for that level of preducism/discrimination against you, as they should respect you as their child, and its in the childrens act that your parents must consider your opinion whether they like it or not.
Like I said, the process of coming out to your parents is definitely a difficult one, I for one, have a similar problem, my family are all strict christians, and my mother has bipolar (so she takes things out of proportion and denies that she's wrong alot of the time.)
Just take it slow, maybe drop a few hints or something, and if you get a bad reaction to those, wait a while.
I can't really say more than that, good luck (:
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 5:52 pm
Thanks ^^
I'm actually in my early twenties, sadly enough XD
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 5:07 am
Cayden face Thanks ^^ Of course I'm not quite sure, yet...it's still running about a gazillion miles an hour around in my head. Suddenly being uncomfortable with my body ever since puberty makes so much sense ._. I'm glad I check this forum every once in a while to help people. . . ANYWAY- I remember feeling like this. Of course, I've met many cisgendered females who have felt the same. The only way to know, really, is to think on it alot. Realize it won't solve all your problems, and will create new ones. Realize that it's a hard road to choose- from hormones to surgery. But if all of these, in your mind, is worth "becoming" male and being recognized as such, then, well, you're probably trans. I'm always here to talk to, as is the rest of the guild. We're amazing. Promise. wink
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 1:46 pm
I am going to give you what I consider to be my Grade A, Highest Class, Gold Standard advice. It's what I believe that everyone should try to do when they are beginning to become overwhelmed, and I find that it works in most situations.
Relax. Don't panic, don't worry, don't think about things too much. The more you think, the more you begin to obsess, the more you over-speculate and doubt yourself.
You are you.
It doesn't matter, in the long run, if you are Transgendered or not. If you are, don't worry, there are ways to make life easier. So long as you are true to yourself, you will be happy.
No matter what the outcome is (and you may not know truly for days or years), just relax and feel free to ask any questions on anything you like. This guild is open to everyone.
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