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 Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 3:09 am
I'm already out to three friends, but they rarely ever congregate with the following group of friends. Which sucks in my opinion.
So today was probably the best day I've had in a very very long time.
It was my friend Hannah's birthday party.
My usual friend were there, but also a few who I havent seen all summer were there. Like, my friend Adam. God I love that kid (not sexually... well... mostly... lol) He is the most unhomophobic guy you could ever meet. The moment he saw me he jumped on me and hugged me, then tried to grab my nipples (he does that sort of thing to everyone, except the n****e grabbing for girls. lol)
So I spent a lot of time with him at the party. But also, something I was trying to avoid, I was with my friend Matt a lot of the time after Adam left. I have a weird history with Matt. He's my best friend, and a while back I thought I loved him (tho actually now I come to realize I love him as much as humanly possible, but only as a friend), so I kinda screwed up our friendship by always wanting to be around him and being annoying and clingy. But it never actually ended, which I'm happy about.
Anyway, so he and I dont talk a ton, but we had a really awesome conversation about sushi.
So basically the vibe (or in Adams case, the completely obvious implying of) that my friends really love me, no matter how I've thought I screwed myself up because of depression and my being a self proclaimed horrible and selfish person (I was depressed a lot also), and would be absolutely fine with it. I just feel like it's a good time to tell everyone
I mean, I've gotten that vibe before, but never with Matt. And I've never been around Adam that long really and I know he'd never leave my side as a friend, and he's one of the best anyone could ever ask for. He also has a lot of influence in my group of friends, which would be good for me. ninja
So yeah, I know no one really cares about my life and stuff (except my friends lol ^^), I just felt like talking about it because I'm bored and happy. lol
So yeah
What was it like when you "knew it was the right time" to tell everyone, unless of course you were hurled out of the closet, in which case, what was that like?
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 12:31 pm
With my friends it was easy, because they kind of already knew, but they weren't sure, they didn't care, at all, except for a few girls who liked me. (i didn't find THAT out until like junior year!)
With my parents it was harder because they decided to go through my room and my computer, and so they sort of forced it out, but then my psychologist and psychiatrist told them that they have to be nice to me, or else they'll have to pay another HUGE hospital bill.
Anywho, tell the people you KNOW won't be upset, who will be supportive, and then see who they think you should tell, and get some advice from them, they probably know your friends better than we do.
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 4:25 pm
mickiINsweden With my friends it was easy, because they kind of already knew, but they weren't sure, they didn't care, at all, except for a few girls who liked me. (i didn't find THAT out until like junior year!) With my parents it was harder because they decided to go through my room and my computer, and so they sort of forced it out, but then my psychologist and psychiatrist told them that they have to be nice to me, or else they'll have to pay another HUGE hospital bill. Anywho, tell the people you KNOW won't be upset, who will be supportive, and then see who they think you should tell, and get some advice from them, they probably know your friends better than we do. Yeah Theres a few people I definitely want to tell first. Dont worry about me, I've been called a strategic genius before, so I will know what to do.
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 4:56 pm
well in that case, Good luck!
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Shizuki Kisuke Vice Captain
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Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 10:14 pm
I think its great to come out to people and such. I dont flaunt it, but I dont deny being gay for me. It doesnt change things for the most part, people will either love you for it or otherwise hate you. More often then not, you will have more hate then love on an across the board look at people's perspectives. However, it also becomes much easier to find a boyfriend. The greatest risk lies therein with one's own parents. Look at how they will react. Dont just come out cause you believe in honesty and that its the right thing to do. You just might end up hating life for it. xD
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 2:54 pm
It was easy for me, everyone accepted it and accepts me. My friends feel even closer to me than they did before cause I am not trying to be something I am obviously not. I have not told my dad and sister yet, but I know they r ok with it, just cause thats how my family is and lucky for me I am not the first to come out in my extended family. I haven't really found it any easier to find a boyfriend, but thats cause I am picky. I have found that alot more guys hit on you when you are out, but then again so do alot of girls, its kinda wierd.
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 4:56 pm
YAY!
ok i got that out. I think its an AWESOME idea to come out. I didnt do it all at once, it actually took me about a year or more to tell everyone. All you really need to do is tell people if it comes up in convorsation...thats all I did. The first person i came out too I'd met that day at a party and spent the entire night with her and she told me she was bi so i told her i was gay....mygod i was shaking SO bad and like totally paranoid someone would find out lol.
After that I just told a few more people....then more and more and more...then i decided to change my sexuality on Myspace and just let people notice that. I also told the ones that did know that it wasnt a secret anymore and after that a few of my friends would talk about it openly with other people around it it just spread. It was a really good way to do it case the only pressure was how to tell the one person not how to tell everyone at once.
Most of your friends will realise that you are still the same person you always have been on not freak out. Most girls will be ok with it too....they may even get closer. I've had an unusal experiance with my male friends though...the first one i told was my best firned i also told him i was in love with him....he was flattered an APPOLOGISED for not being able to love me back....thats a very rare thing i think.
Basiaclly id say take it one step at a time...tell the ones you trst the most first.
CIAO!
Lomi
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Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 9:45 pm
i find it easy to come out to my freinds. they dont see me any different at all. as far as my mom. she swears that im some straight hooker thats had sex with a ton of girls. i dont even think she would believe me if i told her. and it is alot more fun when your out to people. you can let go.
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 2:29 am
two of my friends know, and i told mum last night. it was sorta weird but then it was good cause she said she was fine with it.
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Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 5:48 pm
eek OMG My name's Adam. XD
My coming-out to my parents didn't go so well. Not with my dad. It was HORRIBLE. My mama seemed to accept it, but recently I've been noticing her problems with me....
I guess with my friends, they already knew. I never had to officially come out and be like "SO GUESS WHAT, GUYS?"
My friend Ema has been my best friend about it. I mean, she's never questioned it, she never exactly points it out to me, and she doesn't even flinch when I say stuff about a relationship I might be in. Same thing for another friend, Jessica. They both give me support when I have relationship problems like I'm no different than a straight guy with a girlfriend.
If not for my friends, I'd probably be a very feminine closet-homsexual right now.
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