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Violet_Abyss Vice Captain
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 Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 11:35 pm
-- and it still knocked me off my feet.
Okay, so I haven't been on Gaia much lately, mostly because I'm just stressed. So, my dad (who is divorced from my mom - I don't live with him) is living in a house that technically belongs to my grandma, and she recently decided to sell it and come out here to do so. So, my dad had gotten out of jail/long term rehab about a year ago in May, and he had been acting... weird. Meeting a lot of crazy people, he lost a ton of weight, and got this weird hobby/obsession with rocks. So a couple of weeks ago. (Maybe three?) He was arrested for having Meth in his system. (Not dealing it though, but he might have had it on his person?) My grandma is freaking out and he keeps begging her to bail him out. (She can't, and wouldn't if she could, but it makes her feel really guilty - it's just cruel really.) He keeps calling me, and it's like, he tries to act all normal. At the moment I really wish he would just leave me alone, but it's like, I feel bad just saying that? My dad is really an amazing lier. Even when he says things I've heard a thousand times before like, "Oh I feel horrible, oh, I'll never use again..." I want to believe it, even though I don't. Basically anyone who isn't me or my mom or my sister will believe him. They'd probably believe him even if he told them the moon was made of cotton. We're pretty sure that he's probably going to be in for a while this time, though, which is good. u_u The whole situation just sucks. My whole family could use your prayers/good thoughts.
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Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 2:16 am
I'll pray for you, and I'll try to think of something usful to while I'm at work, but that sounds really rather crap.
I suppose all I can think of is to still pray for him, and love him in a Christian way. Which doesn't mean you have to even like him, or what he's doing. By the sounds of what he's doing, perhaps it might be better for his well-being if he wasn't bailed out. I know that sounds weird, but at least people can keep an eye on him there - make sure he doesn't try anything stupid.
As for giving up - if he's into drugs he needs a heck of a lot of support to get out of it. But he really needs to -want- to stop, first. He needs to make that choice to get out of it, and that'll take time. If he does want to stop it, I don't know whether this works in the US, but doctors here can help in the way of providing substitute drugs in safe amounts, where an amount that gives no withdrawal effects is used, and then is steadily decreased. This sounds heavy, but doctors can also refer to mental health teams (for drugs-related issues anyway, but also about the rocks), and other community support; getting out of drug abuse takes a long time, and a lot of effort. But it's something he needs to decide for himself.
In the meantime, support each other as a family, and if it gets too much, you might want to look at support groups (even just their literature) created for people in your situation.
So, yeah. sweatdrop
Hope you're ok. ♥
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Violet_Abyss Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 4:10 pm
Nemithena I'll pray for you, and I'll try to think of something usful to while I'm at work, but that sounds really rather crap.
I suppose all I can think of is to still pray for him, and love him in a Christian way. Which doesn't mean you have to even like him, or what he's doing. By the sounds of what he's doing, perhaps it might be better for his well-being if he wasn't bailed out. I know that sounds weird, but at least people can keep an eye on him there - make sure he doesn't try anything stupid.
As for giving up - if he's into drugs he needs a heck of a lot of support to get out of it. But he really needs to -want- to stop, first. He needs to make that choice to get out of it, and that'll take time. If he does want to stop it, I don't know whether this works in the US, but doctors here can help in the way of providing substitute drugs in safe amounts, where an amount that gives no withdrawal effects is used, and then is steadily decreased. This sounds heavy, but doctors can also refer to mental health teams (for drugs-related issues anyway, but also about the rocks), and other community support; getting out of drug abuse takes a long time, and a lot of effort. But it's something he needs to decide for himself.
In the meantime, support each other as a family, and if it gets too much, you might want to look at support groups (even just their literature) created for people in your situation.
So, yeah. sweatdrop
Hope you're ok. ♥ Thanks. smile It's like though, this is all stuff I know, really. I mean, he's been like this all my life, and my mom never really tried to lie to me about it. And I sure think he needs to stay in jail for a while this time. The year he served a couple of years ago clearly didn't do any good, so maybe more time will. And also it's like, he does well in a really structured setting like that. People... respect him? He's really smart, and well, old. Last time he helped a bunch of people get their GED... he really liked that. Also, I mostly brought up the rock thing because that sort of obsessive repetitive behavior (like cutting down rocks) is a classic symptom of Meth, as is losing weight. I don't know if he can stop. He's been to so many rehab centers that I think he's immune to them or something. I don't know if he's capable of being that honest with himself.
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