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I don't think chivalry is quite dead. It may seem dead because of how many modern men act toward women, but there are a few men in the world who are still chivalrous(sp?) toward women and girls. I do not have kids (I'm 14 years old) but when I am much older and I do have kids I want to teach chivalry to them.

Lol you've got that right

courtesy towards women

the medieval principles governing knighthood and knightly conduct

the code of behavior associated with medieval knighthood.

the qualities idealised by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honour, fidelity, and defence of the weak.

I don't think chivalry is completely dead, but it has decreased a lot.

I'm kind of torn myself, but I like someone elses uidea here (Baleigh of the Moon, was it?).

When I have children, girl or boy, I'm going to teach them the importance of it. I mean, a girl can hold the door open for a guy too, or for other people in general. I think I'll teach any son I may have to be kind and respectful of women, to realize they are strong too, and are capable of much, but every now and then it's nice to do something for them, like holding a door open, or giving them flowers, and taking their hand as they geto ut of a vehicle, etc.

I'll teach any daughter I may have to take a boys' offering of a hand or an open door graciously, but to not expect it all the time, and to make sure it is well known that they are every bit as capable of doing those same things for themselves, and in return for others.

This is the 21st century, after all.

I get what you mean; I don't think it's right for her to stifle what makes her sons what they are; boys!

I wasn't suggesting that all girls should be tom-boys and all boys should be flamboyant ^^; (I know you said it didn't really have anything to do what someone else said, but I thought I'd put it in anyway), but rather that if a girl likes hotwheels, and a boy likes to play with cabbage patch dolls or something that they should be allowed to do so.

By doing what she's doing (not letting her boys play with boy things when they want to) she is repressing (or suppressing? Are those words interchangeable here?) they're natural masculine energies, and though they are subdued now, they'll go out of control when they rebel against her. They'll have far more of it later on if they're refused the right to release it now. Same goes for girls; if a father, or even a mother, forces her girl to be more masculine, she'll be far too feminine later.

I also semi-agree with the other point you made; due to evolution over the ages, males have more muscle mass than women, but it does not make them better. In a sense, we balance each other out. Men are stronger, and thus, eat more than we do to keep the muscles mass. They were the original hunter/gatherers of caveman times, (I can't remember the scientific term >.>) and protected their mates and children.

The women protected their children too (much as other mother animals do) but we have more aerodynamic bodies. We're built smaller than guys so that we can dodge danger more efficiently. We can put up quite a fight if we need to, but we're more the flight type.

But, we also have both energies within us. Girls have a dominant feminine energy, and some masculine, whereas it is vice versa for men.

I don't need a man to protect me, but I feel safer when my fiance is near.

Basically, I think both genders should respect each other for what they are. If we wish to strive for more (if a women wants an equally strong muscle mass to a man, or a man would rather be more stream-line like a women) then I also condone that. Our personal goals are our own, after all.

But, you're right. My children will be free to choose. I played with ninja turtles, hotwheels, video games, etc. But I also owned barbies, my little ponies, and prtend kitchens and make-up sets.

I got the best of both worlds, and it helped me develop a sense of self, even though it was difficult being caught between the two genders.

It made for a more challenging experience, and a worthwhile one, I might add.

Exactly; 3nodding I've also seen it work in other ways, too. If a girl is forced to be overly girly, she will rebel, and go full-out tomboy, and if a boy is forced to be too macho, he will likely wind up flamboyant.

It doesn't always happen, but it has.

As for me, I'm still the same old tomboy deep inside, but I'm a woman too, and I'm not ashamed of it. I'm a bringer of life, I'm more emotionally adept than most men, I have my talents as well.

No shame in any of it; regardless of gender, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. It's what makes us who we are, and shapes our future.