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 Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 5:03 am
Okay, here is what's going on. My 17 year old daughter is always angry. I don't know how to get her to realize that things will get better. It's gotten so bad, that she doesn't even want to go out with her friends or her family anywhere. I'll give you a little background on the situation:
1. We moved from a big city to a small town.
2. I had to take her out of school because it had a really bad mold issue, and now she's finishing at home.
3. She feels as if all of the people in our town are snobs.
4. She is 100% tomboy, but yet is upset because the boys don't like her for more than just a 'friend'.
5. She is an artist and is very perceptive; she would rather observe people and situations instead of always talking.
6. The other kids think she's strange, but actually she's shy.
How do I get my daughter to see that there is nothing wrong with her .... HELP!!!!! stressed sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 5:51 am
bohemian babie Okay, here is what's going on. My 17 year old daughter is always angry. I don't know how to get her to realize that things will get better. It's gotten so bad, that she doesn't even want to go out with her friends or her family anywhere. I'll give you a little background on the situation: 1. We moved from a big city to a small town. 2. I had to take her out of school because it had a really bad mold issue, and now she's finishing at home. 3. She feels as if all of the people in our town are snobs. 4. She is 100% tomboy, but yet is upset because the boys don't like her for more than just a 'friend'. 5. She is an artist and is very perceptive; she would rather observe people and situations instead of always talking. 6. The other kids think she's strange, but actually she's shy. How do I get my daughter to see that there is nothing wrong with her .... HELP!!!!! stressed sweatdrop She sounds a lot like me. I'm 17 in a few months... Well, maybe boys do like more than just a friend, but they don't want to ruin a good friendship. Something like that happened to me. However, our feelings were mutual. maybe, you could try subtle things... make suggestions... or take her out places. I rather listen then talk, it lets me understand where a person is coming from... things like this take time. support her and reassure her. if you feel she's losing grip with friends, gentle nudge towards them, so she doesn't lose them completely. I'm no parent, so i don't really understand. But I can put myself in your shoes, and i feel that you must be terribly worried for her. hope it goes well. Also, if she's a fellow gaian, feel free to pass on my username. I don't mind if she wants to talk. Good luck! Hope I've helped! (sorry about bad grammer, it's really late here....)
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 10:28 pm
~Angelic_Fallen~ bohemian babie Okay, here is what's going on. My 17 year old daughter is always angry. I don't know how to get her to realize that things will get better. It's gotten so bad, that she doesn't even want to go out with her friends or her family anywhere. I'll give you a little background on the situation: 1. We moved from a big city to a small town. 2. I had to take her out of school because it had a really bad mold issue, and now she's finishing at home. 3. She feels as if all of the people in our town are snobs. 4. She is 100% tomboy, but yet is upset because the boys don't like her for more than just a 'friend'. 5. She is an artist and is very perceptive; she would rather observe people and situations instead of always talking. 6. The other kids think she's strange, but actually she's shy. How do I get my daughter to see that there is nothing wrong with her .... HELP!!!!! stressed sweatdrop She sounds a lot like me. I'm 17 in a few months... Well, maybe boys do like more than just a friend, but they don't want to ruin a good friendship. Something like that happened to me. However, our feelings were mutual. maybe, you could try subtle things... make suggestions... or take her out places. I rather listen then talk, it lets me understand where a person is coming from... things like this take time. support her and reassure her. if you feel she's losing grip with friends, gentle nudge towards them, so she doesn't lose them completely. I'm no parent, so i don't really understand. But I can put myself in your shoes, and i feel that you must be terribly worried for her. hope it goes well. Also, if she's a fellow gaian, feel free to pass on my username. I don't mind if she wants to talk. Good luck! Hope I've helped! (sorry about bad grammer, it's really late here....) i agree and i make the same offer as anjellic fallen
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 10:38 pm
Gosh, you poor thing. You have my support. I think you're on the right track by supporting her and not getting angry with her. Sounds like she may be doubting herself and the path in which she has embarked. Is there an art club or something that you could both join and spend time with other people while still supporting each other? Maybe sit in a place where you both can observe the world and play a guessing game as to what people's home lives are like, or what they maybe doing at the moment. I think with your love and reassurance, she'll see that she is a wonderful and worthwhile person. Hold in there.
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Posted: Fri Apr 27, 2007 10:42 pm
Amethyst_Crystal Gosh, you poor thing. You have my support. I think you're on the right track by supporting her and not getting angry with her. Sounds like she may be doubting herself and the path in which she has embarked. Is there an art club or something that you could both join and spend time with other people while still supporting each other? Maybe sit in a place where you both can observe the world and play a guessing game as to what people's home lives are like, or what they maybe doing at the moment. I think with your love and reassurance, she'll see that she is a wonderful and worthwhile person. Hold in there. i lso think that what am has said too has great value and again i offer mi support
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 5:36 am
~Angelic_Fallen~ She sounds a lot like me. I'm 17 in a few months... Well, maybe boys do like more than just a friend, but they don't want to ruin a good friendship. Something like that happened to me. However, our feelings were mutual. maybe, you could try subtle things... make suggestions... or take her out places. I rather listen then talk, it lets me understand where a person is coming from... things like this take time. support her and reassure her. if you feel she's losing grip with friends, gentle nudge towards them, so she doesn't lose them completely. I'm no parent, so i don't really understand. But I can put myself in your shoes, and i feel that you must be terribly worried for her. hope it goes well. Also, if she's a fellow gaian, feel free to pass on my username. I don't mind if she wants to talk. Good luck! Hope I've helped! (sorry about bad grammer, it's really late here....) Thank you for your advice! 3nodding biggrin
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Posted: Sat Apr 28, 2007 5:50 am
diamonds and pearls Amethyst_Crystal Gosh, you poor thing. You have my support. I think you're on the right track by supporting her and not getting angry with her. Sounds like she may be doubting herself and the path in which she has embarked. Is there an art club or something that you could both join and spend time with other people while still supporting each other? Maybe sit in a place where you both can observe the world and play a guessing game as to what people's home lives are like, or what they maybe doing at the moment. I think with your love and reassurance, she'll see that she is a wonderful and worthwhile person. Hold in there. i lso think that what am has said too has great value and again i offer mi support Great Ideas! whee I definitely will look into some art clubs. 3nodding The thought of just the two of us having a mother/daughter day sounds like fun, we haven't really done that in years. smile 4laugh
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Posted: Mon Apr 30, 2007 10:46 pm
bohemian babie Great Ideas! whee I definitely will look into some art clubs. 3nodding The thought of just the two of us having a mother/daughter day sounds like fun, we haven't really done that in years. smile 4laugh I hope all goes well. My daughter loves to go lingerie shopping with me and we often go on nature walks together.
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Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 2:25 pm
I was just the same as a teenager. What can I say - growing up makes it easier!. I got a great job, a great car, a great bloke.. and life just seems so much better - but I'm still me!
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 1:37 am
Amethyst_Crystal bohemian babie Great Ideas! whee I definitely will look into some art clubs. 3nodding The thought of just the two of us having a mother/daughter day sounds like fun, we haven't really done that in years. smile 4laugh I hope all goes well. My daughter loves to go lingerie shopping with me and we often go on nature walks together. What can I say, mum? I like spending time with you... ninja And doing things with you is awesome fun! heart how's your daughter going, Bohemian?
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Posted: Tue May 08, 2007 11:50 am
bohemian babie Okay, here is what's going on. My 17 year old daughter is always angry. I don't know how to get her to realize that things will get better. It's gotten so bad, that she doesn't even want to go out with her friends or her family anywhere. I'll give you a little background on the situation: 1. We moved from a big city to a small town. 2. I had to take her out of school because it had a really bad mold issue, and now she's finishing at home. 3. She feels as if all of the people in our town are snobs. 4. She is 100% tomboy, but yet is upset because the boys don't like her for more than just a 'friend'. 5. She is an artist and is very perceptive; she would rather observe people and situations instead of always talking. 6. The other kids think she's strange, but actually she's shy. How do I get my daughter to see that there is nothing wrong with her .... HELP!!!!! stressed sweatdrop as a youth leader i see that she needs some positive reasurance. i was a scocial outcast in highschool so hmmmm.... shyness... i know my ball room dance class cured me of most of my shyness... i can acualy talk to girls face to face lol....
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Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 8:36 am
~Angelic_Fallen~ Amethyst_Crystal bohemian babie Great Ideas! whee I definitely will look into some art clubs. 3nodding The thought of just the two of us having a mother/daughter day sounds like fun, we haven't really done that in years. smile 4laugh I hope all goes well. My daughter loves to go lingerie shopping with me and we often go on nature walks together. What can I say, mum? I like spending time with you... ninja And doing things with you is awesome fun! heart how's your daughter going, Bohemian? Thank you for asking biggrin Well she's still angry, but since I told her that I'm seeking the advice of my fellow Gaians cool ; it seems to have made her feel a little better to know that people care smile . We actually spent this last Saturday shopping for summer clothes together and had a lovely lunch (her father came along too and bought her a basketball 3nodding ). I'm hoping that this Sunday we can go fishing pirate .There is still a lot of work to be done as far as her confidence, but at least now we're starting to get her to talk to us. 4laugh
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Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 9:31 am
Lord Duke as a youth leader i see that she needs some positive reasurance. i was a scocial outcast in highschool so hmmmm.... shyness... i know my ball room dance class cured me of most of my shyness... i can acualy talk to girls face to face lol.... I know that she loves to draw and take pictures. Where we live has a university and a small community college; maybe they'll have some weekend classes she would like. Thanks 4laugh
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:09 am
bohemian babie Thank you for asking biggrin Well she's still angry, but since I told her that I'm seeking the advice of my fellow Gaians cool ; it seems to have made her feel a little better to know that people care smile . We actually spent this last Saturday shopping for summer clothes together and had a lovely lunch (her father came along too and bought her a basketball 3nodding ). I'm hoping that this Sunday we can go fishing pirate .There is still a lot of work to be done as far as her confidence, but at least now we're starting to get her to talk to us. 4laugh Well done all of you. It's a long road but it sounds like you're well on the way. Chin up and keep smiling.
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Posted: Sun May 20, 2007 5:45 pm
I am sure you will find something at the community college. I enjoin observing people to and I like to take pictures. I go to the zoo, I like to take animal and people pictures, you could do that together while talking about all the people you see. Maybe the library will have a photography group you two could join together. Good luck with this. She really isn't a kid anymore and not quite grownup. 17 is a tough age.
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