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 Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 8:31 am
Realtionships, why they've ended, tell me of your break up(s)
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Posted: Mon Apr 23, 2007 8:55 am
So I was dating this amazing girl. We had so much in common, same interests and everything. I loved her. But when I left for three days to go home and see mom and dad she spent time with this one guy that I forbid her to see
-wait, I know your thinking, "'forbid her to see' who does this guy think he is?"
well, I was being protective. This guy at work asked her out to go to the hotsprings and later tells her to go naked, all in like one weekend. And I said "Yo, This guy knows about us, he's asking to see you naked, promise me you won't hang out with him, not till I can be there, he sounds creepy" and so she promised, and he kept on talking to her and I made her re-promise every so often, K, back to the story
she spent time with this one guy that I forbid her to see, and lied about it..... She had slept at his house with a mutual friend, invited him to sleep at her house, they went to the beach together, baby sat, and went to dinners togetherm They spent almost every waking, AND SLEEPING second together! and she said afterwards: "KJ, Look, I love you, and I will delete him from my myspace and my IM, I won't talk to him, even at work, I want you! I'm sorry that I hurt you!" and I said: "Is there anything else I should know about Matt? (said coworker thats hitting on her) and my Girlfriend whom which I loved said: "I swear, Theres isn't anything else you need to know about Matt" and I said, "No other times you've hung out? no other things he's said, no other places you've gone?" and she swore "NO! The only time I hung out with him was while you were gone
Turns out she lied
She went out to Dinners with him, Watched Movies, and Went to the Mall with him all within the month or two before I left, on Days that I was doing Clinical. and on those days I used to come home, Tired and usually kinda upset at how the day went, and I would be uuber happy to see her, and we would kiss and hug and I'd eventually ask, every day after clinical at some point or another, "Did Matt try to hang out with you today? Did he say anything else that I should know? any more Naked Hotsprings Trips he's trying to plan with you?"
She lied to my face, in my eyes, looked me in my eyes and said "No, I didn't really even talk to him today"
Worse off, you know what I said, about how I got back and she got rid of him from her life.... I find three days later a secret myspace of hers, private profile, but it had a picture of her, she shows it to me, and its just like her original myspace, exactly the same, except this one was friends with Matt........
She says nothing happened with him..... But why would a girl lie for two months about a guy, break promises for him, and worst off, she made him promise not to tell me that they hang out. So when I would ask him about it he would say: "I'm not talking to Sabrina, her and I are just friends, we don't talk much" when it turns out that he was frequenting her house, watching movies with her, taking her to the mall, and paying for her Dinners.......
But it still gets worse, one other person has known about this, that mutual friend that was her said alibi for that sleepover she had with him, Rosemary, She knew too, and never told me.....
When I got back from my trip I had to ask specific questions, like, "Rosemary, while I was gone did Sabrina break her promise, did she hang out with Matt?" and "Rosemary, god Rosemary, please don't tell me that she went to his house" and "ROSEMARY! you have to tell me, DID SHE SPEND THE NIGHT THERE!"
and I asked, after I got back, from both of them, if there was anything else, but now I find out that they've both been lying to me, and not just that, but they told Matt to lie to me.....
She says nothing happened, that the worst of it was poking each other in the arms, that he didn't flirt...... poking is kind of flirting...... Taking a girl out to Dinner, walking through the Mall with her, Watching movies together, yeah, thats not typical dating stuff is it? NO WAIT! It is!
I got played
betrayed
tricked
decieved
lied to
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electrondude Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 8:49 am
yeah, My now EX- girlfriend is crazy. Last night she came over and took back physical pictures and demanded that I delete all of our pictures from my computer, she wanted me to have no trace of having dated her, wanted to wipe 6 months of our relationship away, and I was pissed and told her to leave and not come back till she was calm.... she came back 15 minutes later, just as insanely mad, and told me she loved me, but then told me to delete her pictures still... I think she wanted me to walk up to her and hold her in my arms again. I told her "If you wanted to fix things you had yesterday and today" and she said "Its still today isn't it" and she said that at 11:15PM, she had 45 minutes to prove me to that she cared enough to make another go at our relationship worth it. She should have fixed things from the moment I caught her in yet another set of lies. But she didn't. and I broke up with her, she got sooo mad, and then soooo drunk. I went to her house to help her and was puked on and yelled at. Then the next morning I left her 3 or 4 voicemails that she never returned... even though at the end of all of them I said "Call me back, leave me a voicemail....... So either she wants us over and came over last night "wanting me back" so that she could tell people that she tried or she really did want me back and made a piss poor effort at fixing our last few months that I had been lied to about.... I loved her.... But last night I didn't want to see her since she wasn't telling me something heart to heart, she told me to get off my computer so she could sit in front of it and delete pictures of us when we were happy.... and I almost wouldn't mind losing pictures of her from after Matt came into the picture.... cause that was us when she wasn't lying, but you know what dear reader, I don't regret those 6 months now. Sabs and I had fun at first and then normal kinds of hitches cause some wakes, but in the end. I learned alot about her. and about life. Yesterday at Clinical I was there when they delivered a baby, there was a complication and it was almost kinda scary, but I realized there, seeing other new families, babies being born, that I wasn't ready for that kind of thing, that scares that comes with babies, The hours of Labor that the woman of my life will endure for the sake of making a new life for us to take care of. Last night Sabrina couldn't sit her a** down and talk to me, she was shaking and yelling and crying and she's made me feel that way too, Thats not love, when your losing control of yourself, when your hands are shaking.... thats something bad... something really bad that I don't want to feel again.. so she's gonna have to change if she wants me in her life...
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Posted: Fri May 04, 2007 11:11 pm
So I don't know if your actually gonna read this, but get this, At work, people have been talking about us hella, and then asking me s**t, and your talking to them and all? I talked to Alena for a second, told her I wasn't sleeping with a coworker, she told me that she's not giving into our drama and that she still likes me all the same as she would had we never dated, so that was reassuring, but still... I don't know who your talking to, but they're talking at work about us... and I don't really care to be honest if they are, I just worry about what you say... they say you want me back, and if you do, I'm flattered, I really am, thank you, it means something to me, but also, Too many mistakes, We need to move on.... as in not talk about one another, or two one another.... and 'sides.... According to people at work you still love me and miss me, you haven't texted me in like 2 days, and when you did your words were "Gina farted in your honor" and I took that as an insult, then you later that day said you missed me, and I was relieved to realize that your last text wasn't in sarcastic anger but a strange kind of highschoolish humor. But its all over. I'm trying to stop thinking about this, us, I'm working out, taking lexapro, and watching my blood pressure, since our breakup its been above 135/90 at all times! 140/96 the first time it was checked! I even had Kristi, the RN take it, she told me to lay down and not stress out, I didn't tell her much about us, just that we had a lot of problems and lies that I will NEVER get over, and I won't.... I miss your friendship, I do, and I'll always miss you and the fun we had, but come on! You were sneaking around behind my back reading messages and telling people to lie!!! Since noone from work will be seeing this ever you don't have to try and deny it and make yourself out to be something great, just let it be, leave me be, and I will eventually get over what you did to me.....
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