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Ok so a bit of back story. In this past august (so nine months ago about) A guy messaged me on myspace, we started talking, reeaaaally hit it off. He lives in Toronto, which is about two hours away from me. I like him, he likes me but we are not going out, for a few reasons. A) both of us don't agree with online relationships, we think they make you closed to other (more local) possibilities and because you can't have dates or go out anywhere...you can't even truly have the title "dating" or "going out" therefore you can't be boyfriends. And B) in the middle of July, I'm moving to Australia, for those of you with no sense of geography, that is on the other side of the world....almost exactly.

We've never met, though we have talked extensively about it and have thought about it...it's just never been convenient or plausible. Now, in about 68 days, three of my friends are taking me to the Gay Pride Parade in Toronto. So obviously we WILL take that opportunity to meet. I've known this guy for 9 months, and have developed very strong feelings for him, it's not like I met him a few weeks ago and am risking my personal safety.

What I AM worried about is what the hell I'm supposed to do and say. I mean I will probably be with my three friends, probably in Starbuck's or another cafe (we always talked about going out for coffee and how much we would love it). I'm just worried that he will walk in, and I will be completely speechless and sit there with a stupid look on my face. WHAT SHOULD I DO?! Any ideas, stories, and slaps into reality would be greatly appreciated!

And I am fully aware that was not a BIT of a back story...so no need to point that out!

Explain what? We understand eachothers points of view, we know whatt he future hold (or...doesnt hold lol) All im worried about it how i should like, prepare for meeting him. What to say etc.

Although since I talk to ya on MSN all the time, you have probably heard my two cents, but I forget.

I think that you should just be yourself though. Ya might be nervious, but ya shouldnt have to worry about anything. Whenever I meet a guy I like I always sit there with a stupid silent look on my face. But if you are normally talkative, talk like you would to any of your friends. If you feel like you are making a fool of yourself, you should try not to. Either he will like how open you are with him, or else he doesnt like how you are normally. With relationships ya cant force anyone to like ya, and you shouldnt persuade them indirectly of such. If you can act yourself and have someone love you for it, you will have a very happy and long relationship.

But then there is the matter of having long distance. This might sound a little mean and cold and pessmistic, but I speak from multiple instances of personal experience. I didnt used to think this way, but long distance will NEVER work. It will be emotionally painful for the both of you, and then something somewhere with someone will break. He will either cheat on you, and you probably will never find out about it and think you have a perfectly healthy relationship, he might be torn between you and another guy, he might lose interest altogether, or he might do something stupid due to he fact he misses you so much.