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 Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 1:59 am
Has anyone had trouble with being stalked or has had family members stalked?
Our family is going through it now. Basically my eldest son's friend developed feelings for my daughter and got a little carried away with trying to woo her. He even tried offering a reward to my son to get my son to persuade his sister to go out with him.
We contacted the parents and have asked for him to not have contact with us in any form. The parents weren't really interested and couldn't understand why we were all upset.
Then this boy started sending abusive e-mails to my son blaming him for everything.
Anyway, I guess what I'm asking is how you guys have coped/coping? Please feel free to ask questions or to pm me. Please excuse me for being so brief, but it was hard enough to write what I did.
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 6:23 am
How scarey! I'd probably print out the e-mails if they were threatening and show them to his parents and explain that it's illegal what their son is doing so if they don't do something about it you may be forced to call the cops. That has to be terrifying for both your son and your daughter. I'm sorry.
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 7:49 am
I have never had to deal with your situation personally,but I do agree you should keep some kind of record.I also believe that not only should you contact his parent's,but that you call someone who professionally knows what to do.Maybe you can look into some types of organizations that deal with abusive situations.Even though it hasn't gone that far yet,they might have some really good suggestions about what you can do.Either way, it needs to be addressed.Unfortunately when you start calling the police they aren't really able to help much when it comes to domestic issues,and they might even make it worse.I hope you can get this resolved. sweatdrop heart
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2007 11:38 pm
i agree with ac comments about stalking it is not nice and i support her in her efforts to stop it
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:15 am
Arianah How scarey! I'd probably print out the e-mails if they were threatening and show them to his parents and explain that it's illegal what their son is doing so if they don't do something about it you may be forced to call the cops. That has to be terrifying for both your son and your daughter. I'm sorry. Thanx for your support. We have kept copies of the e-mails on the computer. Also the card that he sent my daughter for valentines day. We have offered proof to his parents but they don't want to see it. We have been to the police and have spoken of the incidents and they have been very supportive.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:21 am
bohemian babie I have never had to deal with your situation personally,but I do agree you should keep some kind of record.I also believe that not only should you contact his parent's,but that you call someone who professionally knows what to do.Maybe you can look into some types of organizations that deal with abusive situations.Even though it hasn't gone that far yet,they might have some really good suggestions about what you can do.Either way, it needs to be addressed.Unfortunately when you start calling the police they aren't really able to help much when it comes to domestic issues,and they might even make it worse.I hope you can get this resolved. sweatdrop heart Thanx for your thoughts. My daughter and son are both seeing a school counselor for help and I have a very supportive friend who often lends me a shoulder to cry on...thanx diamonds and pearls.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:26 am
Amethyst_Crystal bohemian babie I have never had to deal with your situation personally,but I do agree you should keep some kind of record.I also believe that not only should you contact his parent's,but that you call someone who professionally knows what to do.Maybe you can look into some types of organizations that deal with abusive situations.Even though it hasn't gone that far yet,they might have some really good suggestions about what you can do.Either way, it needs to be addressed.Unfortunately when you start calling the police they aren't really able to help much when it comes to domestic issues,and they might even make it worse.I hope you can get this resolved. sweatdrop heart Thanx for your thoughts. My daughter and son are both seeing a school counselor for help and I have a very supportive friend who often lends me a shoulder to cry on...thanx diamonds and pearls. your very wellcome Amethyst Crystal
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 12:58 am
diamonds and pearls your very wellcome Amethyst Crystal *BIG HUGS* 4laugh
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 6:15 am
Amethyst_Crystal bohemian babie I have never had to deal with your situation personally,but I do agree you should keep some kind of record.I also believe that not only should you contact his parent's,but that you call someone who professionally knows what to do.Maybe you can look into some types of organizations that deal with abusive situations.Even though it hasn't gone that far yet,they might have some really good suggestions about what you can do.Either way, it needs to be addressed.Unfortunately when you start calling the police they aren't really able to help much when it comes to domestic issues,and they might even make it worse.I hope you can get this resolved. sweatdrop heart Thanx for your thoughts. My daughter and son are both seeing a school counselor for help and I have a very supportive friend who often lends me a shoulder to cry on...thanx diamonds and pearls. Your welcome,I hope everything works well for them! 4laugh *sends big hug to Amethyst_Crystal also! 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 6:15 am
Do the parents realize that if they don't put an effort forth in trying to stop their son who is their responsibility from participating in illegal activities they are just as much to blame? I don't think I'd take no for an answer if they didn't want to see them. I'd probably show up with them in hand and say either we as parents get to the bottom of this or we have to call a judge in to get to the bottom of it.
Given I'm just in an uproar of a mood today after breaking up a fight at the bus stop and I don't even have kids in the school.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 11:27 pm
bohemian babie Your welcome,I hope everything works well for them! 4laugh *sends big hug to Amethyst_Crystal also! 3nodding Very much appreciated and thanx.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 11:37 pm
Arianah Do the parents realize that if they don't put an effort forth in trying to stop their son who is their responsibility from participating in illegal activities they are just as much to blame? I don't think I'd take no for an answer if they didn't want to see them. I'd probably show up with them in hand and say either we as parents get to the bottom of this or we have to call a judge in to get to the bottom of it. Given I'm just in an uproar of a mood today after breaking up a fight at the bus stop and I don't even have kids in the school. I read your thread about that and very well done. The parents were more worried about their standing in the community and having their son labelled a stalker. They threatened if we went to the police they would have us for slander. Of course we knew who were in the right. mrgreen His father rang to apologise to me and then had the nerve to blame an undiagnosed illness for his sons behaviour. At the age of 18, his son is no longer a child and my question is, why if you thought your child had an illness, wouldn't you get him diagnosed? I think the parent's need as much help as their son.
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2007 11:47 pm
Update: On Tuesday, I took my three kids into town to do the bills, shop and to have a meal out together. While I was in one shop, my kids were in another. Upon my arrival, I find my daughter standing in a corner looking terrified. My youngest son very close to her and my eldest son at the counter with the shop owner. They were all staring in the one direction...directly at my kids stalker. I got my daughter out as quick as I could and then messaged my great friend to tell him of the situation. Well, it just brought back a lot of the horrid feelings that we thought we had locked away and so the circle has begun again.
I would like to thank my fellow Gaians for allowing me to share/vent/heal and for your support.
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2007 10:32 pm
Amethyst_Crystal Has anyone had trouble with being stalked or has had family members stalked? Our family is going through it now. Basically my eldest son's friend developed feelings for my daughter and got a little carried away with trying to woo her. He even tried offering a reward to my son to get my son to persuade his sister to go out with him. We contacted the parents and have asked for him to not have contact with us in any form. The parents weren't really interested and couldn't understand why we were all upset. Then this boy started sending abusive e-mails to my son blaming him for everything. Anyway, I guess what I'm asking is how you guys have coped/coping? Please feel free to ask questions or to pm me. Please excuse me for being so brief, but it was hard enough to write what I did. Yes, Stalking is a difficult thing to go through. It's hard for me to explain the things that I have felt during my experience. I would like to thank My mother, Amethyst, for all her support as well as my two brothers and diamonds and pearls. Thank you all. I'm willing to share my experiences and/or feelings with those intersted, so feel free to pm me. Thanks guys. heart
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Posted: Fri Apr 20, 2007 12:29 am
You're most welcome. 4laugh
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