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 Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 7:22 am
I've been claiming myself as bisexual for a very long time. However, recently, all my relationships with men have been lying, cheating, stupid STUPID worthless wastes of time. For example
1)One year relationship with a guy, Patrick. We fell in love and i nearly killed myself (at least i tried) when we broke up. Now he doesn't give a s**t and is dating this girl Britt (who he started dating 2 months after the breakup)
2) most recent, started REALLY liking a guy to find out he's just playing with my head, and Alicias, and Molly's...while he already has a girlfriend. He also told my friend Misha that a girl named Hilary shot herself in the head because of him...he didn't even go to her funeral.
3) Father figure of course is never there. He also calls my mom a fat slut, and calls me stupid, disrespectful, dirty and other various things. He left when I was 6. I didn't see him at all for 2 years, he got married, didn't invite me to the wedding, and now he's just...a complete a** (but i have to deal with him)
4) A big figure of mine, growing up, was an older cousin Eric. But when i was 5, Eric started molesting me. He molested me multiple times and raped me once..(and the guy at #2 claimed i was a sick ******** for sleeping with my cousin)
My question is...is it possible for me to go from being bisexual to lesbian based on the relationships with men in my life?
Hope you all read this, sorry its so long. Also, this is RARE for me to open up so much but i feel you're all trustworthy people so...hope ya don't let me down 0_o
anyways, please help in any way that you can. Thank you sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 7:27 am
3nodding It's called soming out hun... Lesbians tend to go through a phase of being bi, before they realise they're lesbian. I'm coming out atm, and it's confusing as hell, thank god I have my Lady Kitty to help heart
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Falcon Samilka Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Jun 20, 2005 6:30 pm
Well, I've had bad relationships with both sexes, believe me it wasn't pretty, but well, I decided to just be straight, females make me feel weird somehow..But I have gay/bi/lesbian friends so i learned not to be a flamer. I'd drop kick any flamer that crosses my friends..old or new..Lol domokun
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 6:16 am
Of course it is! Its normal actually. Most Bisexuals convert to just like one sex, be it straight or liking the same sex.
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 6:24 am
I believe you can't change your sexuality, but you can discover. I was straight for the first 11 years of my life. Then I discovered I was attracted to females as well. I didn't change, I discovered. 3nodding
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 6:26 am
Bloody October I believe you can't change your sexuality, but you can discover. I was straight for the first 11 years of my life. Then I discovered I was attracted to females as well. I didn't change, I discovered. 3nodding Nicely put.
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Falcon Samilka Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jun 23, 2005 6:27 am
Falcon Samilka Bloody October I believe you can't change your sexuality, but you can discover. I was straight for the first 11 years of my life. Then I discovered I was attracted to females as well. I didn't change, I discovered. 3nodding Nicely put. Thank you. I tried. sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Feb 13, 2006 2:46 pm
Bloody October Falcon Samilka Bloody October I believe you can't change your sexuality, but you can discover. I was straight for the first 11 years of my life. Then I discovered I was attracted to females as well. I didn't change, I discovered. 3nodding Nicely put. Thank you. I tried. sweatdrop thats exactly the way i figured i am bi. only i was 12...
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Posted: Mon Mar 13, 2006 10:35 am
Personally, it sounds like there may be a problem lying within you, not men (except your father and cousin, obviously). Getting to know yourself before you go into a bunch of relationships or decide "I don't like men anymore" just because of a few bad experiences isn't the best idea. You've got to learn to respect yourself, otherwise ANY man or woman, etc. will take advantage.
But I do think it is possible to 'change' sexuality. People change their minds all the time. I thought I was straight, then I thought I was bi, then gay, and now I know I'm pansexual. *laugh*
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Posted: Sun Nov 26, 2006 4:20 pm
[ Mingcaro ] Of course it is! Its normal actually. Most Bisexuals convert to just like one sex, be it straight or liking the same sex. Most bisexuals do not convert to one sex. Being bisexual you will normally have a prefrence whether it will be members of the opposite sex, or members of the same sex. But this does not mean that they move from being bisexual, to being gay or straight. There are many married bisexuals I know who get awfully frustrated at people thinking like this. I am guessing that Tr!xe is young, and like many young people she is going through a very difficult time trying to figure out who she is. There may be a chance that she is slowly coming out of a grey area, and realising that she is infact gay, and not bisexual. But she may also be reacting to how she has been treated. Tr!xe - The problems that you have had with your father and cousin are serious indeed. Have you sought help for it? Have people to talk to (in real life - people who are around you alot)? As for the time that you have had with you 'boyfriends', all I have to say is that growing up you rarely find someone worth being with. And until you and the potential partners around you have matured, you are likely to be hurt. Sometimes it never seems like it is worth it, and you start to realise why you put yourself out there if someone is likely to just walk all over you. But you have to still hold onto hope, that someone decent will come along eventually, you just have to wait until the right time. As for if these situations have made you change from being bisexual to being gay, it is possible. It is also possible that you have been going through a confusing time in your life and that you mistook being bisexual for being gay. You don't mention any relationships with females. Have you had any? To be honest I believe that everyone is born with their sexual prefrences, and that they aren't really gained over time.
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Posted: Fri Dec 08, 2006 6:22 am
I'm sure all men aren't (excuse my language) pricks like most of the guys you mentioned, otherwise we would all be lesbians and thus the world would be far less populated. Bide your time don't expect 'them' to show up right away. There is someone for you, just keep smiling and thinking of the day when you will find 'them'. Its all about the additude. People love people who love themselves. Its true. XD
And I hope you find who your looking for.
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