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Why haven't you come out yet?/Why are you afraid/hesitant to come out?
What do you think will be your parent's/sibling's reactions when you come out?

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I've come out to my parents but not the rest of my family.

I hadn't planned to come out to my parents until I started transition, but as it was, my dad sussed me out. Considering I'd been 'cross-dressing' and generally acting male for ages, it was kind of obvious. He'd kept bringing it up here and there for the past month or so, and I had been thinking about coming out. As it was, he finally mentioned the dreaded t-word, and being too cowardly to spit it out there and then, I wrote a note.

The following morning, my dad spoke to me. He said that although he hadn't experienced anything like that himself, he was trying to understand my situation, and was fine with it - after all, I'll still be the same person if I have a sex change. Occasionally he makes little jokes about it (like when I found I had no pockets on my suit and my mother suggested I take a handbag - I was protesting, and my dad suggested I put the money in my sock and put it down the front of my trousers).
My mother, meanwhile, has not said a word on the subject, apart from to tell me off for being silly when I reject anything girly. Basically, she's in denial. But at least she hasn't got angry.

As for my other relatives, I plan to only tell them after I start transition - really, when it's quite obvious. I imagine they'll react like my parents, in either being accepting or just not talking about it. It does scare me a bit, but it won't be the end of the world for me. I'm probably quite lucky; I'm very grateful for how they've taken it, especially how cool my dad is with it all.

I came out................and one part of it was a pleasant coming out. The part about coming out to my friends.

But the second part was horrible. I told my parents and they freaked. If it wasn't for my grandpa I'd probably have been disowned long ago. sweatdrop

i came out to my brother, and he is still dealing with it. he's really cool about it and is supportive of me.

Wait till your on your own and try again. If things go wrong, just leave...