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 Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 3:12 pm
what do you do when you feel like you can't see someone you love. Here's what's going on.
I'm going out with someone I love very much. I've never felt the same way about anyone and i've known her since January and we started going out June 29th. So We got to know eachother very well before we went out. I've seen her a couple times outside school where we could spent time together alone.
I can barely talk to her anymore because when I talk to her in person, I feel safer and I can say more then on the phone. And seeing in person is better then on the phone. Well, I see her for about 20-30 Minutes in the morning depending when the bus gets there. Then when I spend a little time with her and i mean little cuz no-one gives us time to talk without being all over one of us, I can barely talk about anything serious because all the people around.
Alot of them actually do listen to what people say and eavesdrop. Then I get to see her for maybe 3 minutes total between classes throughout the day. In the 20-30 minute mornings, some people bring her with them for a bit to talk or she goes to talk to them for a bit so I don't get to see her that much then either and barely talk to her. Than even on the phone She gets only 30 minutes a day. I'm not supposed to call long distance cuz the money on house phone.
Since she's long distance, I can't really call her much and I can't use minutes on cell cuz my parents complain, even if it's only 25 minutes. So she has to call me. Since I had money and didn't have the cell to call her since she also has Cingular cell, then I called her for a bit. It wasn't much. So when I was asked about it I said how much is it and I'd pay for it. but my moms loving bf said that it didn't matter the cost, I wasn't supposed to call long distance and since I can't mind I can't use the phone at all. So there goes the phone even.
And we've been planning her to come over to my house for about 2 weeks. Well, Her friend that sees her everyday even more then me, wants her to go with her camping. They've been camping about three times in the past month. So Our plans got blew off for another camping trip, and when she's gonna I can't talk to her anyway, even if I did by a miracle get to use a phone.
So I can barely talk to her, I never get to see her barely, if I do there are a bunch of people around, and now she's talking to someone that has a bad history. here's his history:
--Cheated on every girlfriend in the past 4 years at least
--Uses girls to only get in thier pantz and makes them feel bad to get what he wants (manipulizes them)
--Made her do some things before by making her feel bad
--(yes he's a p***k)and he started talking ot her and he says he likes her and he's gonna try something since he lives up the street and friends with her brother
--Recently been trying to get her to go up there,even when nobody else is there.(he's one of the people you can picture that gets put in jail for raping an 80 year old lady)
She also used to like him for about 7 years.
So I'm to the point where I get high paranoia i'm going to lose her or he's gonna force her to do something against her will. I've actually been to the point where i'm starting to revert back to my old ways. I've actually started to get more quiet, seem alot more depressed lately, Lose interest in everything I do, so That's why I haven't been on here as much, and feel like she doesn't want to be near me or doesn't like me that much anymore.
Does anyone have an suggestions what I should do about this because I'm really not wanting to be like I used to and i'm pretty much like I used to be. Also, not to insult anyone but since there is always at least one person that skims through this and doesn't read everything, please read the whole thing before you comment.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 4:34 pm
My suggestion is take the initiative and grab her by the hand and tell her to just come with you. Take her to a place where people won't bother you so much so you can talk to her. So far tell her how you feel and how you feel about the current happenings about the stuff you discussed above. Also about the jackass its time to be alpha male and try to get him away from her as much as possible. I'll relay more on this, just right now im soo tired
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 5:09 pm
Aikichii My suggestion is take the initiative and grab her by the hand and tell her to just come with you. Take her to a place where people won't bother you so much so you can talk to her. So far tell her how you feel and how you feel about the current happenings about the stuff you discussed above. Also about the jackass its time to be alpha male and try to get him away from her as much as possible. I'll relay more on this, just right now im soo tired That's what I was thinking of doing. I talked with Marik and he said I should do tht too.I was gonna talk to her this weekend about it but that kidna gotten blown off. She knows what she did abotu the camping thing cuz she was in tears and said it was a really sh*tty thing to do. I tried to make her feel better about it. I also like that you didn't say to break up, most people would just say break up or she doesnt care about me. I'm glad People on here think farther then what most people do.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 5:58 pm
Like I said and Aiki said man. Just try what me and Aiki have mentioned and hopefully things turn out well
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Lucifer H. Marik Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 6:27 pm
Yeah well.....
I gues I got a soft spot for romance
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 9:31 pm
You should tell her how you feel. I think if she loves you, she'll listen to your reasons and come with you.
You COULD ask her friend to leave her alone for a bit so you can have a chance to be with your girlfriend.
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 10:48 pm
*Goes green with envy but feels happy for Corpse nonetheless... Also wishes for the best*
mrgreen mrgreen
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 7:12 am
I am going to talk with her about it all. about 15 minutes after Aiki respinse and decided on everything She called and was going to the park and wanted to meet there. Her brother will be there but about half the time we are left alone. He doesn't hang all over her or anything...at least i hope not. xp
well anyways, I when I told her tha I got a bit of advice from my counselors (I concider azalia counseling), Her first thought was i was gonna break up with her. But I told her i wasn't, she has nothing to worry about right now at all. So then I told her aiki's advice of what I should do for telling her and she said ok but I told her i'll tell her sometime at school and lead her away from everyone to talk for a bit to tell her how I feel cuz her bro was there.
and talking about those things in a movie rental place was kidna wierd. That's where i talked to her alone first that night and why I wasn't home Marik, srry sweatdrop . Butshe knows about that and when she told me she was going camping earlier that day, I had a look on my face that I didn't notice, and she was in tears cuz she didn't know what was going in my head and she caused my depression at the time.
It wasn't her, it was mostly everyone else around. But I told her what went through my head at that time was when you have nothing to do and you look forward to seeing ur gf over the weekend, then all the sudden it gets blown where you can't see her.
I found another way to think of it, she can come over on other weekends, but she can't go camping every weekend. But we spent a couple hours yesterday together, half time her bro was in his really loud rap music stressed so he didn't really pay attention in the car while we talked for a bit. None the less, we got to see eachother, I got her feeling better about it, and she gets to go camping still. It may not of been long, but not everything goes the way you want it, and I'm in a very good mood now. And thank you Karrobher
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:12 am
corpsedeath I am going to talk with her about it all. about 15 minutes after Aiki respinse and decided on everything She called and was going to the park and wanted to meet there. Her brother will be there but about half the time we are left alone. He doesn't hang all over her or anything...at least i hope not. xp well anyways, I when I told her tha I got a bit of advice from my counselors (I concider azalia counseling), Her first thought was i was gonna break up with her. But I told her i wasn't, she has nothing to worry about right now at all. So then I told her aiki's advice of what I should do for telling her and she said ok but I told her i'll tell her sometime at school and lead her away from everyone to talk for a bit to tell her how I feel cuz her bro was there. and talking about those things in a movie rental place was kidna wierd. That's where i talked to her alone first that night and why I wasn't home Marik, srry sweatdrop . Butshe knows about that and when she told me she was going camping earlier that day, I had a look on my face that I didn't notice, and she was in tears cuz she didn't know what was going in my head and she caused my depression at the time. It wasn't her, it was mostly everyone else around. But I told her what went through my head at that time was when you have nothing to do and you look forward to seeing ur gf over the weekend, then all the sudden it gets blown where you can't see her. I found another way to think of it, she can come over on other weekends, but she can't go camping every weekend. But we spent a couple hours yesterday together, half time her bro was in his really loud rap music stressed so he didn't really pay attention in the car while we talked for a bit. None the less, we got to see eachother, I got her feeling better about it, and she gets to go camping still. It may not of been long, but not everything goes the way you want it, and I'm in a very good mood now. And thank you Karrobher
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:42 am
AnimeRavenLaura corpsedeath I am going to talk with her about it all. about 15 minutes after Aiki respinse and decided on everything She called and was going to the park and wanted to meet there. Her brother will be there but about half the time we are left alone. He doesn't hang all over her or anything...at least i hope not. xp well anyways, I when I told her tha I got a bit of advice from my counselors (I concider azalia counseling), Her first thought was i was gonna break up with her. But I told her i wasn't, she has nothing to worry about right now at all. So then I told her aiki's advice of what I should do for telling her and she said ok but I told her i'll tell her sometime at school and lead her away from everyone to talk for a bit to tell her how I feel cuz her bro was there. and talking about those things in a movie rental place was kidna wierd. That's where i talked to her alone first that night and why I wasn't home Marik, srry sweatdrop . Butshe knows about that and when she told me she was going camping earlier that day, I had a look on my face that I didn't notice, and she was in tears cuz she didn't know what was going in my head and she caused my depression at the time. It wasn't her, it was mostly everyone else around. But I told her what went through my head at that time was when you have nothing to do and you look forward to seeing ur gf over the weekend, then all the sudden it gets blown where you can't see her. I found another way to think of it, she can come over on other weekends, but she can't go camping every weekend. But we spent a couple hours yesterday together, half time her bro was in his really loud rap music stressed so he didn't really pay attention in the car while we talked for a bit. None the less, we got to see eachother, I got her feeling better about it, and she gets to go camping still. It may not of been long, but not everything goes the way you want it, and I'm in a very good mood now. And thank you Karrobher LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:49 am
Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura I'm glad to hear that everything turned out alright. 3nodding Sorry that I wasn't on earlier to give you some advice, but it seems you had about the best advice as it was. biggrin Golly, was this like a 'boys only' thread? o__o; I'm feeling a little out of place, lol. Oh well, most probably just me. Again. xD Gah, go back to sleep, Laura. LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
True, true...
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:01 am
AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura I'm glad to hear that everything turned out alright. 3nodding Sorry that I wasn't on earlier to give you some advice, but it seems you had about the best advice as it was. biggrin Golly, was this like a 'boys only' thread? o__o; I'm feeling a little out of place, lol. Oh well, most probably just me. Again. xD Gah, go back to sleep, Laura. LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
True, true...Know whats wierd though. I was sparring this girl one time in martial arts and as usual I didn't hold back. Well needless to say I back handed her in he face after I had grabbed her arm with one hand and I did the back handing with the other, I was going to finish it when she screamed out saying stop you can't hit a girl like that. Then I am all like wtf and confuzzled. I had people starring at me as if I was a monster sad Maybe I did go too far but I though I was being fair because I would do the same to a guy.
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:31 am
Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura I'm glad to hear that everything turned out alright. 3nodding Sorry that I wasn't on earlier to give you some advice, but it seems you had about the best advice as it was. biggrin Golly, was this like a 'boys only' thread? o__o; I'm feeling a little out of place, lol. Oh well, most probably just me. Again. xD Gah, go back to sleep, Laura. LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
True, true...Know whats wierd though. I was sparring this girl one time in martial arts and as usual I didn't hold back. Well needless to say I back handed her in he face after I had grabbed her arm with one hand and I did the back handing with the other, I was going to finish it when she screamed out saying stop you can't hit a girl like that. Then I am all like wtf and confuzzled. I had people starring at me as if I was a monster sad Maybe I did go too far but I though I was being fair because I would do the same to a guy.
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:36 am
AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura I'm glad to hear that everything turned out alright. 3nodding Sorry that I wasn't on earlier to give you some advice, but it seems you had about the best advice as it was. biggrin Golly, was this like a 'boys only' thread? o__o; I'm feeling a little out of place, lol. Oh well, most probably just me. Again. xD Gah, go back to sleep, Laura. LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
True, true...Know whats wierd though. I was sparring this girl one time in martial arts and as usual I didn't hold back. Well needless to say I back handed her in he face after I had grabbed her arm with one hand and I did the back handing with the other, I was going to finish it when she screamed out saying stop you can't hit a girl like that. Then I am all like wtf and confuzzled. I had people starring at me as if I was a monster sad Maybe I did go too far but I though I was being fair because I would do the same to a guy. LoL "bull dyke". Just because you beat a guys a** you get called that? Thats just wrong really. s**t if anything I really respect that a women can kick a guys a** and going a little wierd on you but I kinda find it attractive hehehehe. Don't want no girly girl. Damn you arnold schwartzinager[sp?]
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 11:25 am
Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura Aikichii AnimeRavenLaura I'm glad to hear that everything turned out alright. 3nodding Sorry that I wasn't on earlier to give you some advice, but it seems you had about the best advice as it was. biggrin Golly, was this like a 'boys only' thread? o__o; I'm feeling a little out of place, lol. Oh well, most probably just me. Again. xD Gah, go back to sleep, Laura. LoL Laura don't feel secluded out cuz your not. To be honest I am not for that sexist thing, hence I was against the boy/girl forums. But then again people do need to talk with their own gender I suppose.
True, true...Know whats wierd though. I was sparring this girl one time in martial arts and as usual I didn't hold back. Well needless to say I back handed her in he face after I had grabbed her arm with one hand and I did the back handing with the other, I was going to finish it when she screamed out saying stop you can't hit a girl like that. Then I am all like wtf and confuzzled. I had people starring at me as if I was a monster sad Maybe I did go too far but I though I was being fair because I would do the same to a guy. LoL "bull dyke". Just because you beat a guys a** you get called that? Thats just wrong really. s**t if anything I really respect that a women can kick a guys a** and going a little wierd on you but I kinda find it attractive hehehehe. Don't want no girly girl. Damn you arnold schwartzinager[sp?]
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