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 Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:00 am
ok guys hi in new on here and i wanted to know from anyone here if they can help me out with a friend of mines thats in some troulbe sad shes been with htis guy for bout a month now, and she says she loves him...ok tha i can understand, but the inthg is she had sex with him already and the thing is the boy's parents found out about it last night and told her parents that her and the boy should get married and now there getting married on monday and she doesnt want to get married so early in life but i tihnk its the boys fault for all this cuz the kid wanted to marrie her already and she said to wait, so im gusseing he told his parents and his parents came to her house last night and her parents aboout it
its a big mess and she wants out of it, i wanan help along with my bestfriend and boyfriend, but we have no idea wut to do shes getting married in 2 days and we have nuthing, plz anything will do, and if anyone heres wiccan and would like to talk bout it vai pm feel free to pm bout this prolbem thnx alot guys
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:39 am
I think the parents might be bluffing. Wedding's cost a lot of money, and anyways, she's too young to get married. She must atleast be 18 in the US to get married. And they must also take into consideration if they were to get a divorce, how much would end up coming out of thier pockets. PLUS, she could always say no. She cannot be forced to get married to someone. When the preacher askes if she will take him to be her lawfully wedded husband, she can say no. Hopefully, this will give both you and youe friend some comfert.
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 9:46 am
Sundey I think the parents might be bluffing. Wedding's cost a lot of money, and anyways, she's too young to get married. She must atleast be 18 in the US to get married. And they must also take into consideration if they were to get a divorce, how much would end up coming out of thier pockets. PLUS, she could always say no. She cannot be forced to get married to someone. When the preacher askes if she will take him to be her lawfully wedded husband, she can say no. Hopefully, this will give both you and youe friend some comfert. well its not gonna be like a REAL wedding and all just the signing papers crap saying ur maried and all and u could get married here if both the parents say its alright they just need to sign papers its a pain in the a**
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 10:01 am
Your friend could contact social services, to see if she has any rights to fight them on this topic. They might not take her away, and just give her help. This also might be a matter of religion, with the lose of virginity, would then be marrige to that person. In my opinion, forces marrige, is just like slavery. I can see where the guy would be all for this, because in this case, he would have the control in this relationship. She should talk to him, and say it's over. The parents couldn't do anything about them getting a divorce.
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Posted: Sat Aug 05, 2006 10:06 am
yea i see where ur going with this, i will tell her that see wut she can do i mean ur right...lets just hop it works cuz her moms pissed out of her mind for wut she did and her parntes can be foruceful if they want to be, but i thnik its all a matter of the boy, i know hes the one that set all this up, but i cany say anything cuz i have no proof behind it, but lets see wut can be done cuz her parntes r thinking of kicking her out of the house after they wed and stuff cuz of wut she did
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 8:12 am
Yeah. If she doesn't want to get married, then she doesn't have to. It's unlegal to force her to marry someone she doesn't want to. Though, it IS legal to marry if you're under 18, if you have parental concent (just a little note). All I can say is that you need to have her tell her parents straight up, "No, I'm not going to marry. Period. End of discussion." Her parents might be pissed, but they can't force her. o:
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