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Okay so it started off where she was going to have two babies at the same time. (Which means they would be twins.) Well some months into the pregnancy one of them came out to early. Then, today which is Sun, May 7th the other one died to. The two were actually supposed to be due on holloween. Now the first pregnacy she ever had was like...one month left and thats really what got her started into the whole spiritual thing. That was many years ago though. It has happened twice in her life, something that truly would scar her for the rest of her life. The reason why she can't have a baby physically is because one of the things in her body is very weak and it makes her have pregnancys early when they are not supposed to. I know for a fact that she has been working spiritually all these years for the moment of when she would have a baby that was healthy. Alot of my family does not understand of why this happens or the "real" cause of why god would let something like that happen. (My family is all chistian except for my aunt and me.) So being so strong in their faith they wouldn't understand. I think I sorta do but I don't get the exact reason behind it all.


Perhaps some of you could shed some light on this current situation as to why it keeps happening and the main reason of the cause. Logical reasons have already been dealt with but give me your beliefs as to why something like this would happen to a mother that has done nothing wrong but give love to this world. Please don't say it was by chance because anything that has happened twince is not by chance and has a reason behind everything as to why it happened twice. Please give your opinions honestly and throughly so that I may try and figure out this for my self.

Well the big part everyone is worried about now is that she is not talking to anyone. She was supposed to go to the doctor a day before it happened and when she went they never put the stitch up there to help the mustle stay intact. They didnt do that so then the day after she was rushed to the hospital in labor. Now whats happening is that my grandmother (my aunts mom and my mothers mom) is supposed to be coming up here to talk to her. Being this happened three times in count in seprate areas of life....(the two last being more closer together) she feels probley very very depressed because of this reason and possibly asking her self why she cant have a baby. Me and her used to be real close but now we are just so busy with our own lives we never have time to contact each other. But, now it seems as if shes going to give up hope. She is the only one on my moms side of the family that hasn't had a healthy baby yet. To her she may not understand why she cant even if they tell her for physical reasons. Overall its a very stressful thing right now for my family because all are greiving from the loss.

Well I think the question she is asking now is why she can't hold one. She won't talk to anyone...its like shes withdrawn because I mean wanting to have that excitment as a mother and then boom it takes it away from her. I think she is going through a personal battle right now where she has to figure out for her self of what to do. And your probley right about the believing in your self to have a baby because thats all part of the deal I guess. The will is the most strongest thing to. Its just that Im wonderin if I ever get the chance to talk to her about it of what I will say or do if and when it happeneds. My mom and her are being really close at this moment, not physically but mentally. My mom told me yesterday she could feel the devistation from my aunt. So thats why I think its a personal battle between my aunt and her own self because shes asking why and its like shes questioning if she can do anything now.