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I was very shy and nervous when I met my boyfriend's parents. I was afraid they didn't like me.

I don't think they love or hate me. My bf and I are now engaged so this is why I say they are my parents in laws.

I grew up in a family that we quarrel a lot and we are not close. I don't have that ''family love". For example, I know some people that are close to their cousins, aunts, uncles and parents and they get along pretty well.

I thought my in laws should like me... I will finally feel loved by a family.

However, it turns out that I find them annoying , we don't get along that well, and not even his sister.

Last time, I went to have supper at his grandma's house. I asked my fiance what I should bring and he just said nothing. I brought some fruits because I didn't want to come empty handed. His grandma didn't say thank you she just looked at them in a way that I felt she didn't like it.

I am going to be part of his family as his wife. There are many little situations just like the one above that makes me feel ''not loved''.

I felt hurt and sad. However, with some reflection, I shouldn't look forward them to love me.

I'm just going to have my family with my fiance/future husband and that will be the love I'm looking for.

I posted this in life issues because... I think it fits better than in chatterbox because it is more personal.

So, my issue is ''solved'' but I sometimes feel sad. Anyways, I almost burned something while writing this post because I forgot I was cooking something. gonk

You say the issue is "solved" but you are still obsessing over it. It's natural to want your in laws to like you. I was the same way with my in laws. Taking the fruit was nice. Some people are hard to win over Live your life with your husband. Win the love or at least respect of your in laws by working hard to make a home for your selves and making your husband happy.

Yeah, I think about it from time to time.
Thank you for your advice.