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 Posted: Wed Feb 17, 2021 5:00 pm
In the past I was a shy, I had low self esteem and self confidence, I was a lonely person.
I had difficulty to break up the ice and make friends, I always let the other to come to me to talk... I was too shy and I just didn't know what to do or say.
Now, I'm less shy, my self-esteem is better, my confidence is okay. The fact that I no longer have to socialize at school helps. It just sucks to always eat alone , not knowing who to team up with or to talk during break.
It was difficult for me in some times because I didn't have friends to back me up when people start to ill talk about me like how I was weird and stuff.
In some period of my life my mental health was bad I was a weirdo, always mad, or sad.
I tried to consult in my early twenties. I saw a psychologist twice. All I did was talking and cry. Answering the psychologist question. I left the session feeling unresolved. The psychologist never told me what to do or anything to help me feel better so I never went back. Also, I didn't really look for help because it costs money to consult a therapist/psychologist or whatever. They charge over 100$ per hour...
I'm glad I went over this, now that I'm out of school. I'm no longer a ''reject''.
I'll work on myself, to be better and have a better future. When my mental health suffer, I will not be my better self. So, I'm thinking what to do to keep myself sane...
What do you to become a better person, solve your inner problem and have a good mental health ?
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Posted: Mon Feb 22, 2021 2:25 pm
I also had the same problems, which developed in secondary school (high school.) I was shy, had very low self-esteem (which culminated in developing eating disorders) and if my 3 friends weren't around - then I was on my own and lonely. :/
I wish that I had someone - an adult - explain to me that that "social time" in my life was not important. That I wouldn't even see 95% of those people ever again, nor even remember a lot of my year group's names! lol (I have moved far away.) My parents weren't really interested in my school life, so I didn't get this advice from them. I only learned this myself many, many years later when I was looking back on my school years...
I am glad you are feeling more confident yourself and your self-esteem is higher. 3nodding
When my mental health suffered because of my [then] eating disorders it was difficult - but over the years I have learned to accept my body the way it is, and to try and keep it healthy so I can obviously work, and walk (which I enjoy) and hopefully have a long life with my partner. So, just really going back to the basics and thinking: "I am grateful I can walk", "I am grateful I can clothe/wash/feed myself" etc, because there are people my age out there that cannot do these things.
As for other problems I try to think about them objectively and discuss them with good friends and/or my partner. I never bottle things up because that makes me feel worse.
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Posted: Mon Feb 22, 2021 2:37 pm
n o i r i s t I also had the same problems, which developed in secondary school (high school.) I was shy, had very low self-esteem (which culminated in developing eating disorders) and if my 3 friends weren't around - then I was on my own and lonely. :/
I wish that I had someone - an adult - explain to me that that "social time" in my life was not important. That I wouldn't even see 95% of those people ever again, nor even remember a lot of my year group's names! lol (I have moved far away.) My parents weren't really interested in my school life, so I didn't get this advice from them. I only learned this myself many, many years later when I was looking back on my school years...
I am glad you are feeling more confident yourself and your self-esteem is higher. 3nodding
When my mental health suffered because of my [then] eating disorders it was difficult - but over the years I have learned to accept my body the way it is, and to try and keep it healthy so I can obviously work, and walk (which I enjoy) and hopefully have a long life with my partner. So, just really going back to the basics and thinking: "I am grateful I can walk", "I am grateful I can clothe/wash/feed myself" etc, because there are people my age out there that cannot do these things.
As for other problems I try to think about them objectively and discuss them with good friends and/or my partner. I never bottle things up because that makes me feel worse. I think it was hard because I didn't know who to talk about my problem... I was anxious about many things... I had a cousin that seemed to care... I liked her like a big sister. However, I realized in the end, she was just trying to be kind and everyone is a bit selfish , get annoyed, have other priorities, we didn't get along .. and just like friends that come and go... She left. I felt pretty bad also because I didn't get along with my family. With time I found a special someone that care about me. whee
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Posted: Tue Feb 23, 2021 3:56 am
In the last year we've come face to face with a pandemic, the escalation of racism & hate crimes, mass unemployment and homelessness, the damaging effects of social media, catastrophic weather events and horrific acts of terror. A lot of people are doing unwell. Depression, cancer, suicide, obesity, substance abuse and insomnia rates are skyrocketing due to stress and people not taking care of themselves. I advise you get rid of toxic people from your life and take a break from social media - everyone needs to detox from that stuff. Keep in touch with a couple good friends or close relatives and take things one day at a time. Some things that help me relax and break free of negative thoughts is to play some music, do chores, and work my way through a to-do list, tackling smaller and easier tasks first to help strengthen my motivation. Eating right and forcing myself to get some exercise in helps too. People scoff but things like yoga, tai chi or qi gong can really help elevate one's mood. It's amazing how powerful that mind-body connection is. Things like caffeine and junk food trigger anxiety and exhaustion. Once you focus on your own well-being, you gain a lot of confidence. That positive energy radiates and makes it easier to connect with others too. There are a lot of free pandemic hotlines to speak to a mental health professional about depression during this period if you really need it. You can remain anonymous. Friends and family can be supportive but they just don't have the training and qualifications to help you if you're suffering from conditions like depression or anxiety. That can also lead to friends becoming more distant because they feel like they're unable to help you and it causes them to feel bad. I think a lot of people get in this funk where they live in a loop like a broken record. It's just not healthy or safe to let that kind of negativity fester.
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2021 5:35 pm
Dark Mage with 0 MP In the last year we've come face to face with a pandemic, the escalation of racism & hate crimes, mass unemployment and homelessness, the damaging effects of social media, catastrophic weather events and horrific acts of terror. A lot of people are doing unwell. Depression, cancer, suicide, obesity, substance abuse and insomnia rates are skyrocketing due to stress and people not taking care of themselves. I advise you get rid of toxic people from your life and take a break from social media - everyone needs to detox from that stuff. Keep in touch with a couple good friends or close relatives and take things one day at a time. Some things that help me relax and break free of negative thoughts is to play some music, do chores, and work my way through a to-do list, tackling smaller and easier tasks first to help strengthen my motivation. Eating right and forcing myself to get some exercise in helps too. People scoff but things like yoga, tai chi or qi gong can really help elevate one's mood. It's amazing how powerful that mind-body connection is. Things like caffeine and junk food trigger anxiety and exhaustion. Once you focus on your own well-being, you gain a lot of confidence. That positive energy radiates and makes it easier to connect with others too. There are a lot of free pandemic hotlines to speak to a mental health professional about depression during this period if you really need it. You can remain anonymous. Friends and family can be supportive but they just don't have the training and qualifications to help you if you're suffering from conditions like depression or anxiety. That can also lead to friends becoming more distant because they feel like they're unable to help you and it causes them to feel bad. I think a lot of people get in this funk where they live in a loop like a broken record. It's just not healthy or safe to let that kind of negativity fester. Good point. Thank you for the advice.
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Posted: Wed Feb 24, 2021 7:11 pm
Gratitude practices, regular exercise, and eating healthy are a few things that I find helpful.
I personally find it worthwhile to have the professional support of a therapist and a psychiatrist. I know that not everyone needs this. If it is something that's if interest but cost prohibitive, there might be options. Recovery education centers or community behavioral health agencies may offer some free or low-cost services, including wellness groups/ classes and peer support. There are therapists that offer free consultations or reduced rates on a financial needs base.
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