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 Posted: Mon May 27, 2019 4:27 pm
When did you first find out you were LGBT even if you didn't have words for it?
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Posted: Tue May 28, 2019 9:32 pm
Probably when I was 11-12. I knew I was bi/queer when I was 13 thanks to the internet. I've always been very outspoken about my support for the community but when I fooled around with a girl and she outed me to everyone at my middle school. It was scary but I got desensitized and just rolled with being out. Haven't looked back ever since.
As for being non-binary, I'm 28 and just realized last November! Looking back at all the things I did growing up it seems soooo obvious. Because of how much it's been drilled into me, at the moment I still identify as a woman, too, but that might change someday. Who knows, lol.
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Posted: Wed May 29, 2019 1:49 am
I had an inkling for as long as I can remember. It was just so weird to me, even as far back as kindergarten, that people expected me to find my soul mate among only half of the population. Surely there was an equal chance they could be in the other half...
I was sure of it around... 12 or 13, I think, but this was well before pansexuality was a reasonably well-known concept.
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Posted: Wed May 29, 2019 4:02 pm
Technically, when I was 24 was when I found out for sure because that's when I realized that I am transgender. However, I had been showing obvious signs since I was about 11.
I was a major tomboy, I thought that if a tomboy didn't legitimately want to be a boy then you were a just a poser, and would regularly get happy if people gendered me male.
I'm also not open these days about being trans since I'm stealth in my community, so it's funny when I tell people that I've always known I liked men but realized I was gay at 24.
I've known since I was at least 5 that I've been interested in men and only men. Which, of course, means that when I came out as trans at 24, I effectively also came out as gay.
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Posted: Wed May 29, 2019 10:18 pm
I was 13. Accidentally kissed my friend. Ended up REALLY liking it.
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Posted: Thu May 30, 2019 12:28 am
OMGoodness ummm i knew i was "different" since i was little (because i went to the special need classes etc.) but how old was i when i was lesbian.....well i guess 11-12 because i didn`t like guys(even through i dated some and a had guy friends) but i always wanted to hang out with girls that like the same things i like I even found out a girl that was in my last class who was teaching how to speak Japanese and getting me into Anime(which i was ALREADY INTO) she wanted to kiss me but didn`t because she was afraid i be scared we talk on Facebook and i told her she should of because i wouldn`t had push her away i would maybe kiss her back she was shocked and blush about what i said but the funny thing is she wanted to do it on the last day of school when we graduate ^J^
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Posted: Fri Jun 14, 2019 1:48 pm
I know this probably doesn't sound AWESOME, but I found out when I was 13 and finally allowed to join Tumblr. I live in the deep south, where no one even talked about LGBTQIA+ people. It was my first exposure to it. And I became a very accepting person for it. I fiddled around with a lot of different labels, from bi to pan to nonbinary to finally, finally accepting that I'm a demigirl genderfae lesbian. It makes me happy to finally know who I am.
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Posted: Sun Jun 16, 2019 6:22 am
I guess I've always known on some level even as a kid. Some of the first celebrity and fictional crushes I had as a kid were with guys(though I probably would not have referred to it as such), and honestly the first crush I remember ever having on another person was with a boy I had in my first grade class. But I grew up in a very conservative Christian household, so I always repressed that as a result. I didn't really come to terms with my bisexuality until I was about 12 or 13, after I met a few other LGBTQIA+ students who were out and proud and I began to accept that it's not something sinful or hurtful.
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Posted: Fri Jun 28, 2019 1:26 pm
I had a series of realizations & coming-outs.
When I was very young I was gender non-conforming. I didn't adhere to the stereotypical gender norms people tried to ascribe to me. I got a lot of comments about when I was going to grow out of my "phases" regarding how I dressed vs. my perceived gender. I remember being angry that there were only girls and boys, and I had to be forced to be separated from people based on how others saw me. And that started in preschool. I hated being separated by gender or being forced to wear clothes that felt weird.
In middle school, I had a lesbian friend & she & another friend of mine started dating. Around that time, I realized I was bisexual. I liked "both genders," but being lgbtq was baaad & biphobia was so real. Trying to come out as bi was impossible. You were either "totally gay or not." So I got stuck in the straight camp for another 4 years.
In college, I moved to a slightly bigger city & some LGBTQ people my age found me & took me to the GSA. I hadn't come out to myself, but being around other LGBTQ people made it feel okay. I went with the GSA to Creating Change 2012 & met THOUSANDS of lgbtq people, especially trans and gnc people.
There, I came out as trans, changed my name and pronouns, and had my first queer kisses and crushes and experiences. I came back home to the Southeast US & had a completely "new" identity and perspective on myself.
Later, I came out as a binary trans person, feeling like I had to fit into the binary in order to transition. I started HRT & changed my name legally. Some time into HRT (1 year and a half), I got approved for a gender-affirming surgery. After that I started to realize that I don't actually identify as a binary gender at all. And now I use the words non-binary & queer to describe myself. Language cannot describe my experiences with gender, so I just use those two words because they are nebulous.
So, I'm queer & trans. Transqueer. Tranarchist.
Ask me anything!
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Posted: Fri Aug 02, 2019 1:33 am
4~5 years old now I’m 27
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Posted: Sun Aug 04, 2019 11:13 am
I first realized I wanted to be a girl back in middle school, but it wasn't until February of this year that I accepted that I am a trans girl and realized I was LGBT. Thought I was a cishet dude for years, I find it I'm neither, I'm a proud trans lesbian
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Posted: Sat Oct 12, 2019 9:38 am
I didn't really "found out", it was more like a long process. At first, when I was 12, I thought I was pan, then gay, then straight. Then I stopped thinking about it. Then at 15 I thought I was ace, then straight, then bi and now I know I'm a lesbian. I was so confused because everybody was already dating etc. and I didn't even know who I liked lol
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Posted: Sat Oct 19, 2019 9:34 pm
I've kinda always been attracted to women, for as long as I could remember. When I was young on Halloween night, me and my mom went to go pick up my best friend. We arrived at her front door, and I kissed her on the lips in front of her mom--- then was banned from seeing them anymore LOL... her mom was furious, but I didn't know any better. My mother isn't exactly a great mom, but she didn't really tell me that being gay was wrong. So I never really thought much of it. Growing up I got into art, I drew women, and then women loving women. I watched yuri, and fantasized about Women knights saving princesses. I made all these thick stories on paper, and hung up my art in my bedroom. My mom cornered me and tried to tell me "It's okay to be gay." And I wasn't particularly in denial, but I knew the negative stigma, and while I loved women, I continued to insist I was as straight as a stick. later in life I came to love myself a bit more, and while my grandmother was hospitalized after a surgery, I kind of blabbered out that I was gay and really into women and not men at all, despite dating my previous ex boyfriend for five years almost. It was like all this pent up pressure that I had held in for years finally released. Everyone suddenly back pedaled and got angry with me. My grandmother and uncle and aunt were all giving me speeches about how I was going to burn in hell and that I should love men. meh. Later in life I choose to identify as a bisexual, I have dated men and held a romantic attraction which is my primary reason. I'm not particularly attracted to the male body, and more so the female, but that's okay. and then much much later I found more comfort in Nonbinary. I'd always struggled with pronouns, and referred to myself as both a guy and a girl. But, I've always found most my comfort in referring to myself as neither. For the most part I am happy now, I only found out that I am non binary/Asexual more recently, and I am still figuring things out, but this is where I am comfortable with myself currently. Ik labels aren't everything, but having the comfort of knowing who I am and why I feel the way I do, and that I am still valid-- its a comfort I am happy to have. I want to save for surgery eventually, and make more LGBTQIA+ friends!!! so I hope to find some in joining this group biggrin
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Posted: Wed Oct 23, 2019 3:45 am
I definitely didn't start questioning until about 12 / 13- the latter being the age I identified as bisexual.
(This was mostly due to the fact that back then when I was in elementary going into
middle school you were either gay / lesbian, straight, or bisexual. There was no such thing as pan, omni, ace, aro,
separating romance from sex, or anything.)
But long story short, I thought I was bisexual for the longest time. Going into high school that definitely fit the best
(as there also wasn't anything other than male or female back then). But then after I graduated and the
internet blew up more and gave more people freedom to come up with labels, I found out
pansexual and asexual were actual things when I was about 19 / 20?
I then identified as panromantic for a while, but then just last year I read up on omniromantic and that fit me much better than bi or pan
ever had- the only issue being that I don't wanna use omni because it sounds made up and makes my label even longer than it has to be (which yes,
I know, I don't need a label but it helps me a lot with my identity).
Now I'm comfortable with just calling myself queer and ace, probably gnc or some s**t as well. But it took me years to figure myself out.
(Also, I went though more labels than the ones listed. I won't bore y'all with that though.)
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