I am reposting this topic so that it can be reread and resigned BY EVERYONE! Because this is a very important topic and WILL NOT BE TAKEN LIGHTLY!
Phantomdarkrose
This is taken directly from one of the pages I like on Facebook: Farore the Goddess of Courage. It's regarding a message she got from one of the people on the page who told her that she's an idiot, she's worthless, she hides behind a cutsie cartoony picture because she's so fat and ugly, uglier than the cats she posts, and that she should do everyone a favor and just kill herself.
"Why are you getting so uppity about that guy?"
It's less uppity and more irritation. I'm seeing more and more insults like this to other users (which I would prefer directed to me rather than you guys) and myself, and general dickery showing up here. I've also seen a HUGE spike in 'kill/cut yourself' posts, which are not tolerated under any circumstances.
Here is why:
There are people here, on other pages, in real life, and other sites who put up with abuse daily. People are bullied or harassed, and may even hear that kind of thing in real life, too! That's not okay. Why I treat responses like that so seriously is kind of like the rumour phenomenon. Eventually, you'll hear something so much you may begin to believe it.
That's what I find terrifying, and I care about you guys too much to even risk it being here. I've opened my inbox to people who need to talk, or a shoulder, and I've learned a lot. I don't want one jerk pushing one of the users on my page to injure themselves.
People come online to escape real life. We come online to have fun. Imagine if you're bullied every day, and someone tells you to kill yourself when you're just having fun. "Wow," you might think "I can't even post on the internet properly.". God forbid that this person may also be depressed, or have suicidal tendencies!
GOD FORBID they listened to you.
Who does anyone think they are to tell someone to injure or kill themselves. This place is supposed to be positive. I want you guys to feel safe here. Sassing people is fine, civil arguments are fine.
I treat comments like that seriously because I care about you.
I don't want any of you hurt, or wanting to hurt yourself.
I don't even want you feeling bad about yourself. Even if I don't like someone I get upset if they're hurting or melancholic because it's unpleasant for everyone.
I'm hearing a lot of 'Depressed people need to just get over it'.
This, like anxiety spectrum disorders being thought of as 'cowardice' is a common misconception. Depressed people often do want to just get over it, and the fact that they can't can actually drag them lower. I've seen it happen, and personally experienced it.
What's happening when someone is depressed, is that the serotonin does not stay in the neurotransmitter receptors long enough before it undergoes re-uptake (in simplest terms, it is re-used). This means that the body can not actually make much or any use of this neurotransmitter, which is one of the reasons for the persistent gloomy mood. Unfortunately, many situational circumstances can affect their mood as well (as they can have 'good' days) which makes it a bit of a roller coaster ride.
But people with depression, as with many mental disorders, can not simply 'control' it, unfortunately.
tl;dr If you don't have anything nice to say that you can't phrase in a civil manner, shut the heck up.
If I or any of the other admins (crew/captain) of the guild find out that ANY of you have pulled some bullshit stunt like that and harrassed, threatened, demeaned, told someone to kill themselves or that they should do it, or otherwise intentionally harmed ANYONE in this guild, you are going to be out faster than you can blink.
There is a ZERO s**t TOLERANCE policy here. You do this, you break this rule, you're out. No questions, no judge, no jury, no chance of coming back ever. You're done.
Consider this your one warning.
If anyone has problems with something like this, you don't have to deal with it alone. Come to one of us.
Ava850, imbutercupwheresmywestley, nero reinkest, and myself. We are here for all of you. I'm constantly on the site, so is nero. Buttercup and Ava are also available, our fearless leader does have a tendency to vanish sorry Ava (I understand and is fixing this) and leave things in the hands of the guys who say "F*ck it, let's go crazy with ideas" Nero and myself but who still manage to take care of everything that goes on here, and I can't speak for everyone, but if any of you have any issues, you can always let me know. My inbox is always open and I will keep all cases confidential.
"Why are you getting so uppity about that guy?"
It's less uppity and more irritation. I'm seeing more and more insults like this to other users (which I would prefer directed to me rather than you guys) and myself, and general dickery showing up here. I've also seen a HUGE spike in 'kill/cut yourself' posts, which are not tolerated under any circumstances.
Here is why:
There are people here, on other pages, in real life, and other sites who put up with abuse daily. People are bullied or harassed, and may even hear that kind of thing in real life, too! That's not okay. Why I treat responses like that so seriously is kind of like the rumour phenomenon. Eventually, you'll hear something so much you may begin to believe it.
That's what I find terrifying, and I care about you guys too much to even risk it being here. I've opened my inbox to people who need to talk, or a shoulder, and I've learned a lot. I don't want one jerk pushing one of the users on my page to injure themselves.
People come online to escape real life. We come online to have fun. Imagine if you're bullied every day, and someone tells you to kill yourself when you're just having fun. "Wow," you might think "I can't even post on the internet properly.". God forbid that this person may also be depressed, or have suicidal tendencies!
GOD FORBID they listened to you.
Who does anyone think they are to tell someone to injure or kill themselves. This place is supposed to be positive. I want you guys to feel safe here. Sassing people is fine, civil arguments are fine.
I treat comments like that seriously because I care about you.
I don't want any of you hurt, or wanting to hurt yourself.
I don't even want you feeling bad about yourself. Even if I don't like someone I get upset if they're hurting or melancholic because it's unpleasant for everyone.
I'm hearing a lot of 'Depressed people need to just get over it'.
This, like anxiety spectrum disorders being thought of as 'cowardice' is a common misconception. Depressed people often do want to just get over it, and the fact that they can't can actually drag them lower. I've seen it happen, and personally experienced it.
What's happening when someone is depressed, is that the serotonin does not stay in the neurotransmitter receptors long enough before it undergoes re-uptake (in simplest terms, it is re-used). This means that the body can not actually make much or any use of this neurotransmitter, which is one of the reasons for the persistent gloomy mood. Unfortunately, many situational circumstances can affect their mood as well (as they can have 'good' days) which makes it a bit of a roller coaster ride.
But people with depression, as with many mental disorders, can not simply 'control' it, unfortunately.
tl;dr If you don't have anything nice to say that you can't phrase in a civil manner, shut the heck up.
If I or any of the other admins (crew/captain) of the guild find out that ANY of you have pulled some bullshit stunt like that and harrassed, threatened, demeaned, told someone to kill themselves or that they should do it, or otherwise intentionally harmed ANYONE in this guild, you are going to be out faster than you can blink.
There is a ZERO s**t TOLERANCE policy here. You do this, you break this rule, you're out. No questions, no judge, no jury, no chance of coming back ever. You're done.
Consider this your one warning.
If anyone has problems with something like this, you don't have to deal with it alone. Come to one of us.
Ava850, imbutercupwheresmywestley, nero reinkest, and myself. We are here for all of you. I'm constantly on the site, so is nero. Buttercup and Ava are also available, our fearless leader does have a tendency to vanish sorry Ava (I understand and is fixing this) and leave things in the hands of the guys who say "F*ck it, let's go crazy with ideas" Nero and myself but who still manage to take care of everything that goes on here, and I can't speak for everyone, but if any of you have any issues, you can always let me know. My inbox is always open and I will keep all cases confidential.
