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Growing up, thinking about the past

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Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 8:26 pm

When I was 18, I already felt mature because I was serious in what I do. I was a good student. I also listen well to what my mom wants. Like for example, she didn't want me to go to bar or clubs. I never went. I was in college, felt stress to get good grades, I didn't know what I would do for a living. I was single for a very long time. I wanted to find love, but I was also very pessimistic.

10 years later.
I'm still a student. I'm still living with my mom. I don't feel like an adult because I am not in a situation where I can live on my own.

I feel sad.

I had expectations. When I was 18, I would never thought I would still live with my mom, working and studying so that in the future I won't live in the ghetto.

Reality does not equal to expectations. I knew that since my twenties crisis. Because when I got my first bachelor degree at 23 , I couldn't find a decent , stable job. I read articles on life crisis to feel better.

Anyways, I just want to say that I feel sad . I'm 28 and I don't feel like I'm a adult. I'm not living the life I thought adulthood would be.

Posted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 8:35 pm

I'm 35, my mom and I are living together. I'm trying to get back to school to do Welding classes. Don't feel bad.

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Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2018 9:35 pm

My life isn't what I thought it would be by this age, either. I'm 32 and I just feel like an overgrown college student... stressed out all the time, broke most of the time, feeling like I need an advisor, etc. stressed In a lot of ways I almost felt like more of an adult 10 years ago too.
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Posted: Sun May 05, 2019 6:17 pm

Miss_XxAriaxX

I can empathize with this. I feel like I've been in constant crisis mode since my late 20s as well. Now, I'm 31 and realize I have hardly traveled outside of this state except on a few occasions when I went with someone else who was paying, I have an Accounting certificate that's no good, and I'm living in a trailer that is falling apart because we can't afford to fix it. My husband and I both suffer from numerous mental health disorders and I may never bear children because I have PCOS and haven't had a cycle in probably 2 years now.

If it were a different economy, a different, better country, I don't think we'd have these problems. It's why I often dream about leaving the States and living somewhere else, but that too takes money we don't have. I stay in a constant fog of depression, feeling as if I may actually die in this hole having done nothing productive with my life.

Extreme poverty has stripped us of a good life.