HI!!! It's my first time back to gaiaonline in years, and i forgot i was still apart of this guild!!
As we get older, obviously we all learn more about ourselves and our identities change constantly. Over the years I'd accepted myself as a bi woman, but more recently - the past few years or so - have been somewhat of a transition in identity for me. I identify as a feminine nonbinary person now, and prefer the term lesbian or sapphic.
I've been thinking about it a lot as of late, and talking to more and more people about it, but I always find there's so much conflict around what the term "lesbian" truly means. I've known people who use it strictly for love among AFAB (assigned female at birth) people and can be very trans-exclusionary; i've known people who on the contrary, use it to mean loving feminine peoples of all types, whether they are trans, identify as NB, etc.; and I've heard everything in between.
There's a whole lot of gatekeeping in the LGBTQ+ community and though i do feel comfortable labeling myself a lesbian, I've had other queer women in the community tell me that since my partner is a feminine-nonbinary assigned male at birth person, that I have no right to the term.
I just wanted to know all of your thoughts on all of this. I've been using the term "sapphic" more, but using the term "lesbian" has felt so right for me.
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