Should we break up???

[Inzec]

Hello everyone..ik this probably isnt the best place to be asking for an answer but im honestly starting to run out of options and losing my mind over this. As of today (8/15/16) me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 Months. In the beginning we were head over heels for one another and always had a great time even when we did absolutly nohting.as time went on, month 7-now, we have been growing apart slowly. Everyday there is an arguement, and most of the time its over stupid little s**t that doesnt even matter.We as of 10 minutes ago got off the phone after having a discussion about the state of our relationship. Im not saying im hella smart or whatever but for while know i could just tell that he want really into the relationship anymore. A little bit of backstory..i tend to be emotionally abusive and manipulative..sometimes on purpose ..sometimes it just happens and i dont find out i was being that way until later on. I suffer from depression and social anexity.. and he has honestly been the most amazing support system i have ever had. He has helped me with it so much and been so great and understanding about it all. Now that u have a little background it will be easier to understand as i felt that he is still with me cuz he feels obligated to do so that-a-way i dont go back to my depressive anti-social state, and after talking to him tonight he confessed that that is true but that is not they whole reason he is with me...idk if this whole paragraph or whatever made sense as like i said before i just got off the phone and as u can imagine it was hared and i have been crying. i promised him to try to stop all the arguing and to try to be better for not only him but also myself. What do u guys think ..is it worth fighting for should i try to be with him or should i just let this relationship go..idk what to do anymore as this has been going on for aqhile now..i just need advice  

[Inzec]

Well I guess if I'm asking for advice I should day the whole story. Sorry in advance as I'm typing this on my phone so there may be a lot of typos. St. Patrick's day of this year we spent the day blah blah and that night I went on his snapvhat... I found flirtious messages between him and someone else. That other person also sent him not n***s but pics of him in underwear etc. after that we took like a 2 week break. Flash forward to 4 months later, he was talking to this same person BUT not the way they talked before. I saw the messages and it was more like catching up and stuff. When he cheated on me with this person I asked for him to not talk to him (was I wrong to do that). Anyways after all that we took another break, like 2 days and he explained that yeah he messed up thebfirstbtime but he just wanted to be friends with this guy and like I said they never talked like they had before once again.. I actually messaged the guy asking wtf was up and if he new that he was in a relationship. Anyway the whole point I'm trying to get to is I was in love with my boyfriend and when I saw those messages it tore me down. I told him I can forgive but I can't forget.. And when I saw he was talking to the same guy again that's when the wall came. I started being more aggressive more distant as I was trying to detach myself emotionally so that if something like this happened again it wouldn't hurt as much.but in doing so that created the problem that I face right now.. Me and him both feel very sorry for everything we have done to each other as I cannot say I have treated him the best. We just don't know where to go from here.. I suggested we give urbane more month and see where it goes from there.. Would y'all say that's an okay thing to do??