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 Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2015 12:15 am
Id rather vent to the guild then assume anything and do something stupid over a misunderstanding. But whats bringing me down is the fact that I shut down my feelings towards someone I like, but when they leave, it comes back. I guess I tend to shutdown my feelings because I was cheated on in the past. I can help others but not myself. Is that sorta giving up?
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2015 10:34 am
iVagabond Id rather vent to the guild then assume anything and do something stupid over a misunderstanding. But whats bringing me down is the fact that I shut down my feelings towards someone I like, but when they leave, it comes back. I guess I tend to shutdown my feelings because I was cheated on in the past. I can help others but not myself. Is that sorta giving up?  I don`t know if you were expecting an answer or just wanted to be able to vent privately but i thought i should give it a try. Here`s my theory: the person becomes like an old toy. You love knowing it there so it`s easy to shut it out of your life because you think that if you want it back for a while, it will just be there waiting for you. So when they leave, you just feel panic that you can`t have access to it if and when you`ll want to and that`s what triggers the feeling of loss and that you really want that thing otherwise you won`t be happy. I don`t think you`re giving up. Maybe you`re just avoiding things that will make you unhappy because without them you can live normally and it`s natural for us to want to not be unhappy. I wrote this thinking that you were looking for answer. I don`t want to poke my nose where it doesn`t belong. I hope you feel better soon.
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:07 am
naruhina247 iVagabond Id rather vent to the guild then assume anything and do something stupid over a misunderstanding. But whats bringing me down is the fact that I shut down my feelings towards someone I like, but when they leave, it comes back. I guess I tend to shutdown my feelings because I was cheated on in the past. I can help others but not myself. Is that sorta giving up? I don`t know if you were expecting an answer or just wanted to be able to vent privately but i thought i should give it a try. Here`s my theory: the person becomes like an old toy. You love knowing it there so it`s easy to shut it out of your life because you think that if you want it back for a while, it will just be there waiting for you. So when they leave, you just feel panic that you can`t have access to it if and when you`ll want to and that`s what triggers the feeling of loss and that you really want that thing otherwise you won`t be happy. I don`t think you`re giving up. Maybe you`re just avoiding things that will make you unhappy because without them you can live normally and it`s natural for us to want to not be unhappy. I wrote this thinking that you were looking for answer. I don`t want to poke my nose where it doesn`t belong. I hope you feel better soon. Actually I was expecting an answer, I was asking for reassurance. And, you were amazingly on point, and couldn't have said it in any better way. I appreciate your theory, and making an effort to help me out. Thank you so much.
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2015 11:22 am
iVagabond Actually I was expecting an answer, I was asking for reassurance. And, you were amazingly on point, and couldn't have said it in any better way. I appreciate your theory, and making an effort to help me out. Thank you so much. I`m glad i could be of help. emotion_hug
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Posted: Wed Mar 25, 2015 6:32 pm
I appreciate your help. Thank you. emotion_hug naruhina247 iVagabond Actually I was expecting an answer, I was asking for reassurance. And, you were amazingly on point, and couldn't have said it in any better way. I appreciate your theory, and making an effort to help me out. Thank you so much. I`m glad i could be of help. emotion_hug
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2015 12:44 am
iVagabond Id rather vent to the guild then assume anything and do something stupid over a misunderstanding. But whats bringing me down is the fact that I shut down my feelings towards someone I like, but when they leave, it comes back. I guess I tend to shutdown my feelings because I was cheated on in the past. I can help others but not myself. Is that sorta giving up? I think that there is a difference between giving up and just needing time to heal... And even if you were 'giving up' who said it has to be permanent? My advice is to take things slow, take some time on your own sorting through your feelings (if that's what you need), try not to force yourself to rush into something you aren't ready for. *Virtual hug*
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Posted: Sun Mar 29, 2015 12:49 am
Esselean iVagabond Id rather vent to the guild then assume anything and do something stupid over a misunderstanding. But whats bringing me down is the fact that I shut down my feelings towards someone I like, but when they leave, it comes back. I guess I tend to shutdown my feelings because I was cheated on in the past. I can help others but not myself. Is that sorta giving up? I think that there is a difference between giving up and just needing time to heal... And even if you were 'giving up' who said it has to be permanent? My advice is to take things slow, take some time on your own sorting through your feelings (if that's what you need), try not to force yourself to rush into something you aren't ready for. *Virtual hug* Thank you for the advice. I appreciate it a lot. And I will keep that in mind For sure.
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