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 Posted: Tue Nov 18, 2014 7:52 pm
Hello,
How did you know who you are as a person? Was it someone else who made you realize, or was is a feign you had since you were little.
For me it was knowing I wasn't like a girl/female. I knew by heart I wasn't a girl since I was a child. No one made me realize. It took myself to know who I am and appreciate it.
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Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 2:54 am
 (I really need new gifs soon) For me i sorta knew I was female, but i guess i just kept denying it because I didn't want to be different. Only when someone started liking me and I started liking them back then i realized I was female.  Then it clicked and it all made sense to me.
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Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2014 5:36 am
ZephyAlurus (I really need new gifs soon) For me i sorta knew I was female, but i guess i just kept denying it because I didn't want to be different. Only when someone started liking me and I started liking them back then i realized I was female. Then it clicked and it all made sense to me. That's interesting. It took me to be called Mark instead of Mia to realize, "ooh yeah. I'm definitely a dude." but I'm going to say "fantastic" to you . You're a very beautiful woman who deserves all the respect in the world .
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Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 12:20 am
Markscyther That's interesting. It took me to be called Mark instead of Mia to realize, "ooh yeah. I'm definitely a dude." but I'm going to say "fantastic" to you . You're a very beautiful woman who deserves all the respect in the world .  For me I've actually called a part of me, Zephy for at least 3-4 years before i realized. I'm actually quite amazed at how oblivious I've been.
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Gerald the Lord of Naught
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Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2014 8:50 pm
For me, I was just ******** about, said, "Hey, how would it affect me if I got my friends to use a different pronoun to refer to me?" asked them to actually use the pronoun "it" for a little while, realized I even liked being referred to as an object more than a masculine human, and did some soul-searching. I had always had some body image issues, but I only realized why then.
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Posted: Sun Dec 07, 2014 2:53 pm
For me the moment of epiphany happened one evening when I was watching Steam Powered Giraffe videos on youtube and wandered onto Bunny Bennet's channel, where they had posted a video entitled 'It Gets Better'. Bunny basically put into words what I'd felt all my life (except for me it was the other way around). I was so pleased and relieved that what I was (and still am) secretly going through was a legitimate thing, and that I wasn't the only one feeling this way. Since then trans stuff seems to be appearing everywhere!
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Posted: Mon Feb 09, 2015 7:28 pm
Its been a long time coming for me, small bits and pieces throughout life. When I was younger I knew I wasn't a girl, not the way other girls were but I wasn't a boy either. For a long time that feeling of differentness just sort of bugged me, I wanted to be neither but I ignored it. Recently I was talking to a friend whose spouse begain transistioning and mentioned that I didn't feel like I had a gender and wondered if there was a word for it. That led me to discovering the agender and neutrois communities. I had heard of nonbinary but only in the context of 3rd gender or genderfluid individuals. Finding the non-binary side that applied to me felt like a huge weight off my chest and made sense of a lot of feelings I had been experiencing my whole life.
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Posted: Sun Apr 05, 2015 1:21 am
I kind of knew when I was about 4 or 5 that I wasn't like the other kids. I liked girls and boys. I was taught that I was a girl so I should like girly things at school, but that always bothered me. Teachers would always give me pink things when I wanted the blue things. I found out the terms around August of last year and now I identify as Genderfluid or Genderqueer (both definitions describe me). I haven't told my family about what I identify as, but I'm kind of glad my mom didn't push feminine things on me. I grew up as a 'tomboy' and my mannerisms are not feminine at all I think my mom knows how I feel, but she doesn't know about my whole gender identity. If anything, she probably thinks that I'm a Bisexual female. I don't know.
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Posted: Fri Apr 24, 2015 12:55 pm
When I was six, I was in YMCA camp. I had trouble connecting with girls, even though I liked dresses, and I'd rather play in the mud with the guys of my class and throw the head of barbie dolls at the girls. (I was a messed up child obsessed with death because I was used to it! ANYWAYS.) So, we were all lined up, and there I was standing between my best buds (They called me Moe rather than Monica, suited me better) and the guys were called to get ready to swim. It was only my third day there so I hadn't changed yet or done anything where they separated girls and boys. Instantly I followed my friends and a counselor grabbed me and had a stern talking with me, and then my mom. I think that was the first big thing that should have tipped people off, because I was seriously confused why I should have gone with the girls. I remember saying, "But I am a boy!" and that caused a who pot of trouble for me.
I guess I've always known but after that I really, REALLY tried to be as girly as possible. I started to try to force myself to fit in with the other girls because my mom was all, "You're a girl not a boy deal with it! Sdhfzkjeisd!!" So, yeah. x3
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Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2015 5:08 pm
I heard from some friends at camp that cis people could use neutral pronouns as a form of spreading awareness. Maybe on a subconscious level I knew, because I decided I would start using them because maybe I was only using she/her/hers because I wasn't aware of any other pronouns.
So I go home and start using ae/aer/aers before quickly switching to Spivak (ey/em/eir). Then I realised that I felt better using those pronouns then I had my assigned ones. After a while figuring I was a demigirl, then thinking I might be genderfluid, I came to realise that I am a genderflux demiboy, where some days I feel agender but still male, and others I feel male but still agender (I can't describe it that well).
So in less than a year I went from thinking I was cis to realising who I am, I think. Frankly, I still have some doubts and wonder sometimes if I'm using labels as a way to stand out. Most of the time, I don't think that, though.
Sorry for rambling.
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Posted: Sat Nov 28, 2015 4:43 am
To make a long story, someone had pointed out that I was bi(sexual). When I first found out, I was in denial. Then, after about a year and a half, I came to realize that the person who pointed what my sexual orientation was. Finally, I accepted myself. Before I was able to admit it, I went though a rather short period of coming to terms with it.
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