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 Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2014 4:35 pm
Hello, my name is Emily and I am a lesbian. I have a bisexual girlfriend and we are currently living in MS(Part of the bible belt). Everywhere we go, someone complains about PDA, even when I'm at home and it's making me extremely uncomfortable in public. So everytime my girlfriend Laura touches me in public I get scared... My parents say they accept me but when other people are around to visit, they tell me to not have PDA. I'm wondering if it's because they want to save their reputation and friends, or if it's because they're protecting me....I'm confused at this very moment and I'm also scared. All this PDA in all honestly is making me rethink myself and make me ashamed of myself....but when I am the lesbian I am I am extremely happy....
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Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2014 4:53 pm
I think you need to decide what's best for you.
If PDA is something you are comfortable with doing and so is your girlfriend then go for it.
But if other's opinions of you is something you're worrying about then maybe not so much? Don't let someone dictate to you what you can and cannot do.
PDA makes me uncomfortable no matter who it is but in your own home, it's NOT PDA.
PDA is PUBLIC. Home is private. Family should suck it up to be honest haha.
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 9:06 pm
You said that when you are the lesbian that you are, you are extremely happy. You should be happy. You shouldn't have to rethink yourself and don't ever feel ashamed about yourself. I think that you should be yourself and you should be happy. Since you live in the bible belt though, safety could also be a concern. No matter what though, never feel ashamed about yourself.
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 10:29 pm
[quote="Dochilinoot"][quote="NNY041"][quote="Dochilinoot"][quote="NNY041"][quote="Dochilinoot"]^^i dont need blood lol.. being flesh and blood AND a reaper has its advantages... *rolls on top of you, but takes weight off of you by lightly floating* *big, long loving kiss* :heart:[/quote] *pulls you closer to my body and kisses longer*[/quote]*chuckles at lynx's comment* *makes you float up with him and turn so he his layin in the air on his back with you now laying on him* *zaps a bit with a deep kiss* *manages to get his blood in your mouth*[/quote] You sure know how to please a girl vampire.. hehe *holds arms around you and kisses your neck and jugular* I can smell your blood and feel it running through you *kisses you again* and its coursing through you so lovely...[/quote]*zaps you causing you to feed on neck* *continues the current of dark lightning through both bodies causing you to moan* *an demonic shadow of a wing wraps us both*[/quote] *the light within me wraps us in a purple glow and we continue to remain in the air feeding and loving with the blood of one another.. the continuous flow of the red life being fed upon*
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Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2014 10:31 pm
[quote="Dochilinoot"][quote="NNY041"][quote="Dochilinoot"][quote="NNY041"][quote="Dochilinoot"]^^i dont need blood lol.. being flesh and blood AND a reaper has its advantages... *rolls on top of you, but takes weight off of you by lightly floating* *big, long loving kiss* :heart:[/quote] *pulls you closer to my body and kisses longer*[/quote]*chuckles at lynx's comment* *makes you float up with him and turn so he his layin in the air on his back with you now laying on him* *zaps a bit with a deep kiss* *manages to get his blood in your mouth*[/quote] You sure know how to please a girl vampire.. hehe *holds arms around you and kisses your neck and jugular* I can smell your blood and feel it running through you *kisses you again* and its coursing through you so lovely...[/quote]*zaps you causing you to feed on neck* *continues the current of dark lightning through both bodies causing you to moan* *an demonic shadow of a wing wraps us both*[/quote] *the light within me wraps us in a purple glow and we continue to remain in the air feeding and loving with the blood of one another.. the continuous flow of the red life being fed upon*
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2014 1:33 am
I think you should do what makes you comfortable. Do you want to publicly display your affection? If so, do it. I mean, if they are only saying that to you because you are a lesbian (which I'm assuming they are), then tell them that they can't do PDA with their significant others.
You deserve to be happy with yourself. If PDA makes you happy, then do it! Don't worry about anyone else. It's a personal choice.
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Posted: Wed Jul 09, 2014 3:41 pm
Oreos_are_Racist Everywhere we go, someone complains about PDA, even when I'm at home and it's making me extremely uncomfortable in public. So everytime my girlfriend Laura touches me in public I get scared... My parents say they accept me but when other people are around to visit, they tell me to not have PDA. I'm wondering if it's because they want to save their reputation and friends, or if it's because they're protecting me....I'm confused at this very moment and I'm also scared. All this PDA in all honestly is making me rethink myself and make me ashamed of myself....but when I am the lesbian I am I am extremely happy....
I agree with LIONHEART; at HOME you should be able to do minor PDA, like holding hands, hugging and cheek kissing.
(I mean, you do that with family, no?)
Publicly, however, other people may be a bit "put-off"
(I mean I get a little grossed out by even straight couples making out when I take the train to school xp )
You and Laura sound like a very cute couple heart
I am happy that you are comfortable enough to be yourself! Like Flickering Hope and Chromosexual said, do what makes you HAPPY! xd
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Posted: Tue Jan 19, 2016 2:01 pm
i think pda is cute...as for what your parents say...idk...tell them to back off (but in a polite way)...srsly...you're in a relationship, that's not something u have to or should hide.
if it's making you scared think of something your gf can do to help you...like if you're kissing and someone yells at you...maybe she can go directly to ear nibbling if that makes you feel good/better...you know what i mean?
have like a "safe action" to go to even if it's just a hand squeeze....or you could dual flip the person off...and go back to your pda...it doesn't really matter....tell those losers to suck it.
smile best wishes, elly
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Posted: Tue Jan 19, 2016 2:06 pm
I think everything has it's time and place. While holding hands, kissing, etc are totally fine in public places, doing it in excess, and intentionally making it known to the world is not okay. French kissing, body rubbing, anything of a sexual nature (unless it's done legally, in a legally specified zone (Amsterdam)), and the like should not be done in public.
EDIT: I should also point out that the PDA is not the underlying issue. The problem here is that you're LGBT in Mississippi. Go walk around for a while, and look for straight couples doing exactly what you do with your girlfriend. Now, tell me how many of them get called on their PDA. I'm willing to bet that number is close to zero.
My suggestion would be to keep doing what you have been doing, with the addition of carrying a non lethal pepper spray and pocket knife (if it's legal for you to do so). This way, if it is a safety issue, and you're backed into a corner, you have something to fall back on. The bible belt is a harsh place to live, but until people speak up for themselves, it won't get any better.
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Posted: Wed Jan 27, 2016 9:39 am
holding hands and stuff should be fine, just no full on making out and stuff
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