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 Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 1:40 pm
So all my friends know I wear "girls" clothes and just don't ask questions.
Though a few know it's more than that. But recently I moved back home for college (I'm 24). My mom kind of knows, but my dad doesn't. I want to be me, but for some subconscious reason I care about what my family thinks. My mom has been completely supportive. My dad is on the back burner somewhere.
I want to be fully out but, I'm for some reason "scared". I know I shouldn't be, sense I've yet to meet anyone that really cares about it. I want to go by my name, not by my birth name, but I'm not sure how to get that out there either.
I also want to start laser hair removal but, have no idea where to go.
I'm just so lost in my mind.
This is the first time I've opened up in a very very very long time. I'm horrible when it comes to emotional things. Not that I don't understand them, I've just stopped caring emotionally and hide them.
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Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 1:56 pm
I sympathize with what you're going through!
My dad thinks I'm homosexual and supportive of that, but my mom is completely clueless. I heard some really good advice on another forum that I'd like to share with you, and maybe it'll help.
If you want to have a conversation with your parents, focus on what is relevant to them for the first conversation. You don't need to describe your dysphoria or road to enlightenment for that first conversation. You can let them know you will be living as a woman and would like to be treated accordingly. That is really all they needs to know in a practical sense.
I heard this recommendation for someone who wanted to come out to their grandparents, but it made sense to me. I don't know if you feel this approach is right for you, but maybe it helps?
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Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 3:35 pm
Princess Lionheart So all my friends know I wear "girls" clothes and just don't ask questions. Though a few know it's more than that. But recently I moved back home for college (I'm 24). My mom kind of knows, but my dad doesn't. I want to be me, but for some subconscious reason I care about what my family thinks. My mom has been completely supportive. My dad is on the back burner somewhere. I want to be fully out but, I'm for some reason "scared". I know I shouldn't be, sense I've yet to meet anyone that really cares about it. I want to go by my name, not by my birth name, but I'm not sure how to get that out there either. I also want to start laser hair removal but, have no idea where to go. I'm just so lost in my mind. This is the first time I've opened up in a very very very long time. I'm horrible when it comes to emotional things. Not that I don't understand them, I've just stopped caring emotionally and hide them.  Why do you feel that it's odd that you care what your family thinks? Why do you think you can't be scared? These are all normal feelings and you shouldn't have to think of yourself has this heartless unbreakable wall.  I kinda feel the same as well. I want to start some of the stuff and I feel like my life is a mess, but i'll try to get it back together. Try using Google or going to some transgender help centres or something. Kinda hard for me to specifically tell you where to go when I'm not nearby.
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Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 4:29 pm
ZephyAlurus Princess Lionheart So all my friends know I wear "girls" clothes and just don't ask questions. Though a few know it's more than that. But recently I moved back home for college (I'm 24). My mom kind of knows, but my dad doesn't. I want to be me, but for some subconscious reason I care about what my family thinks. My mom has been completely supportive. My dad is on the back burner somewhere. I want to be fully out but, I'm for some reason "scared". I know I shouldn't be, sense I've yet to meet anyone that really cares about it. I want to go by my name, not by my birth name, but I'm not sure how to get that out there either. I also want to start laser hair removal but, have no idea where to go. I'm just so lost in my mind. This is the first time I've opened up in a very very very long time. I'm horrible when it comes to emotional things. Not that I don't understand them, I've just stopped caring emotionally and hide them. Why do you feel that it's odd that you care what your family thinks? Why do you think you can't be scared? These are all normal feelings and you shouldn't have to think of yourself has this heartless unbreakable wall. I kinda feel the same as well. I want to start some of the stuff and I feel like my life is a mess, but i'll try to get it back together. Try using Google or going to some transgender help centres or something. Kinda hard for me to specifically tell you where to go when I'm not nearby. Well, I find the notion of emotions just weird. I've been a very distant person since I was 16. A lot of bad things happened that made my brain that way. When I lived in another state away from my family, I was pretty much all the way out, then I moved back and everything seemed to just disappear.
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Posted: Thu May 08, 2014 5:51 pm
Princess Lionheart Well, I find the notion of emotions just weird. I've been a very distant person since I was 16. A lot of bad things happened that made my brain that way. When I lived in another state away from my family, I was pretty much all the way out, then I moved back and everything seemed to just disappear.  That's understandable. Before coming out to my parents I kinda closed off on them and didn't really communicate too much with them. When I eventually decided to come out to them I was really scared and worried about them as well. It's quite normal really I would say just embrace it x3 I too want to be addressed as Zephy too but sadly my family isn't quite at that point of acceptance yet. I know it'll take time for them so i'm just enduring it. Thankfully my dad understands (I think) and just calls me by my Chinese name which I have no problem with xD
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