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Interesting Autobiographer
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 Posted: Tue Aug 13, 2013 6:57 pm
My fiancé is an atheist. Most of the time he respects my faith but sometimes hurtful things are said and he doesn't realize it until it upsets me. I don't believe he's an actual atheist. He has a tattoo of the cross and Jesus' garments on his arm. I think when his ex wife did inexcusable, horrible things to him, he left his Christianity behind. I pray for him every night. He won't go to church with me and if I talk to him about it, he gets aggravated. What should I do?
I know in the Bible it says the woman should act meek and gentle, in hopes to turn her husband the same. (don't remember where it says that).
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Posted: Wed Aug 14, 2013 3:00 pm
You need to communicate with each other about things to be sure your relationship is ready for the next step of marriage in the future.
Don't be afraid to talk to each other about subjects that will affect how you decision make such as:
-Do we want children? If so, how many?
-How will we raise children?
-What discipline techniques will we use on our children?
-What discipline techniques are we against?
-Will I ever have to choose between church and spending time with you?
-How can we effectively handle our belief/religious differences while treating each other with respect and love?
Ask yourself (basically if you'd like, you can ask him some of these questions as well in conversation):
-How will I handle doing church activities without him joining me?
-Does he believe some things are right that I believe are wrong? (If you aren't sure, don't be afraid to ask) How will this affect our relationship?
-Is he interested in any activities that are un-Christian? Will he pull me into these activities and get me involved?
-Is my faith strong enough to be on God's side first and keep God in the center of the relationship at all times?
-Can we openly talk about our beliefs or do we need to keep our beliefs to ourselves?
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Is this the verse you are looking for?
1 Peter 3:1 NIV:
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,
It's possible to pray to God, read His word, and have hope that your fiance will turn around because by God's hand and your faith it can happen. At this point he isn't your husband, unless you've slept with him - then you have a spiritual connection.
If you aren't married at this point and you are his soon-to-be second wife, keep in mind some verses about the subject of divorce. Although, remarriage isn't exactly covered 100%, make sure you're doing the right thing. The verses to keep in mind about this are Luke 16:18 and Matthew 19:9. If his ex-wife is no longer living, then he is not bound to any of those because the marriage vows are separated completely.
Some people will probably use these verses that mention inter-faith marriages as being wrong and they should be taken into account since they are written and make sure to take a look at surrounding context, too: Deuteronomy 7:3 - 4; 2 Corinthians 6:14.
Keep in mind that marriage is a covenant in God's eyes. When two people married, they are entering a convenant. Marriage is a life decision that should be taken seriously! Make sure to pray about this and ask God if you should get married.
I know that I personally wouldn't date anyone who doesn't believe in God, or isn't of the same religion because I figured that generally the two people in that relationship will have a lot of stumbling points and they won't encourage each other to grow in their own beliefs, sharpen each other, and share their wisdom with each other. I suppose in a relationship where the other person wasn't a true Christian, I was afraid they would try to pull me down by their beliefs or get tired of my beliefs.
I generally say, "If you have any doubts, do not marry!" Marry when you are sure.
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