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 Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 9:36 am
I don't know if this topic has been done before, (and I hope this is the right place sweatdrop ) , but I'm wondering how all of you figured out your sexuality. Was there an 'aha' moment, or was it a gradual process? Did you have to experiment, or did you just sort of know?
I'd share my figuring it out moment, but I'm still horridly confused about my sexuality. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:05 am
long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:13 am
Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:16 am
Naioka Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
I suppose razz Its weird never having the ah-ha moment because what you described is always allowed for what I look like x- x but It was still different :S ;P
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:21 am
Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
I suppose razz Its weird never having the ah-ha moment because what you described is always allowed for what I look like x- x but It was still different :S ;P *can't see your eyes in the photo* =~=** How am I supposed to know what chu look like?! cat_ninja
Was yours gradual or more immediate?
Some girls tell me it's like 3...2...1... *splurge* >~<
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:22 am
Naioka Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
I suppose razz Its weird never having the ah-ha moment because what you described is always allowed for what I look like x- x but It was still different :S ;P *can't see your eyes in the photo* =~=** How am I supposed to know what chu look like?! cat_ninja
Was yours gradual or more immediate?
Some girls tell me it's like 3...2...1... *splurge* >~< I dont even have aphoto.... lol what do chu mean x- x
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 11:29 am
Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
I suppose razz Its weird never having the ah-ha moment because what you described is always allowed for what I look like x- x but It was still different :S ;P *can't see your eyes in the photo* =~=** How am I supposed to know what chu look like?! cat_ninja
Was yours gradual or more immediate?
Some girls tell me it's like 3...2...1... *splurge* >~< I dont even have aphoto.... lol what do chu mean x- x Nvm. I thought the little Asian kid transforming on your prof was u.
jkjk cat_whee I'll leave you 'lone now.
*crawls into a crate* cat_burning_eyes
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 11:33 am
Naioka Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero Naioka Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD
I think the "ah-ha" was for me that I was even allowed to like girls.
My feelings about my sexuality have been more gradual. After realizing I wasn't crazy for thinking girls were beautiful I've slowly grown more and more interested in such matters. cat_whee Maybe for some people it's instantaneous but for me, identity takes a long while to congeal.
I suppose razz Its weird never having the ah-ha moment because what you described is always allowed for what I look like x- x but It was still different :S ;P *can't see your eyes in the photo* =~=** How am I supposed to know what chu look like?! cat_ninja
Was yours gradual or more immediate?
Some girls tell me it's like 3...2...1... *splurge* >~< I dont even have aphoto.... lol what do chu mean x- x Nvm. I thought the little Asian kid transforming on your prof was u.
jkjk cat_whee I'll leave you 'lone now.
*crawls into a crate* cat_burning_eyes xDD whaaaaat hahaha nuuu dun leaves ;w ;
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 7:27 pm
It was definitely a gradual process for me and mislabeling myself a few times. I'm biologically male and when I first started to figure myself out I actually labelled myself as a gay man. I stuck with that label for a year and a half but something about it never really fit. Before I came out to myself as gay I had been questioning my gender identity and after awhile those thoughts came back so I had to really think about my gender identity seriously. After awhile I learned that I actually was transgender and I was unsure about my sexuality. I knew that I liked girls more than guys but I was still attracted to men. It was only recently that I came out to myself as bisexual.
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 8:51 pm
Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD Oh, I see. So this is sort of like an on-going process. How long have you been going through this, if you don't mind me asking? I hope you're able to figure it all out soon :3
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 8:57 pm
ElectricWinter85 Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD Oh, I see. So this is sort of like an on-going process. How long have you been going through this, if you don't mind me asking? I hope you're able to figure it all out soon :3 well been going on like the first signs of anything since 2 and a half years ago but more like seriously since a year and 6 months ago about give or take some months or whatever but as of recentlly a little more resolved, no answers but the answers I have idk its kinda like no matter what its not great but dont let my worries bring you down D; for most people its not so bad >.<
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 9:01 pm
Flickering Hope It was definitely a gradual process for me and mislabeling myself a few times. I'm biologically male and when I first started to figure myself out I actually labelled myself as a gay man. I stuck with that label for a year and a half but something about it never really fit. Before I came out to myself as gay I had been questioning my gender identity and after awhile those thoughts came back so I had to really think about my gender identity seriously. After awhile I learned that I actually was transgender and I was unsure about my sexuality. I knew that I liked girls more than guys but I was still attracted to men. It was only recently that I came out to myself as bisexual. Oh, I see, so it was kind of like trial and error, in a way? I'm happy that you were able to reach a conclusion about all of it ^^ Mislabeling brings up a really good point. Recently, my cousin made this huge coming out thing about being pansexual, and while everyone was incredibly supportive of her, about three months later she was kind of like, "whoops, I'm straight". That's the one thing I've always personally been worried about with coming out, if I end up being not-straight. Have you ever had that sort of issue? Sorry if that's really personal, you don't have to answer that question. But I hope everything goes well for you and your transition, if you haven't already done so.
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 9:12 pm
Vector Hero ElectricWinter85 Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD Oh, I see. So this is sort of like an on-going process. How long have you been going through this, if you don't mind me asking? I hope you're able to figure it all out soon :3 well been going on like the first signs of anything since 2 and a half years ago but more like seriously since a year and 6 months ago about give or take some months or whatever but as of recentlly a little more resolved, no answers but the answers I have idk its kinda like no matter what its not great but dont let my worries bring you down D; for most people its not so bad >.< That does seem like a long process ;-; What kind of things have you been doing to try to figure it out? If that's too personal, it's okay to not answer, don't feel pressured. ^^ I think I understand what you mean, and no worries. I'm sure an answer will come soon, so don't give up :3 I hope you have a lot of support in this. It's no fun to search for it alone D: That's what I've heard from a few people I knew a few years ago. "Oh, I just thought about it, and I was like, 'oh, I guess I'm a lesbian'." I wish it was that easy ;-;
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 9:28 pm
ElectricWinter85 Vector Hero ElectricWinter85 Vector Hero long process, flippity flop and unsureness... still going through some xD Oh, I see. So this is sort of like an on-going process. How long have you been going through this, if you don't mind me asking? I hope you're able to figure it all out soon :3 well been going on like the first signs of anything since 2 and a half years ago but more like seriously since a year and 6 months ago about give or take some months or whatever but as of recentlly a little more resolved, no answers but the answers I have idk its kinda like no matter what its not great but dont let my worries bring you down D; for most people its not so bad >.< That does seem like a long process ;-; What kind of things have you been doing to try to figure it out? If that's too personal, it's okay to not answer, don't feel pressured. ^^ I think I understand what you mean, and no worries. I'm sure an answer will come soon, so don't give up :3 I hope you have a lot of support in this. It's no fun to search for it alone D: That's what I've heard from a few people I knew a few years ago. "Oh, I just thought about it, and I was like, 'oh, I guess I'm a lesbian'." I wish it was that easy ;-; I mean well gaia has helped me figure out alot. And I plan to go to an anime con this summer dressed up all girl like and well see how that goes >.<
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Posted: Sat Jun 15, 2013 10:08 pm
ElectricWinter85 Flickering Hope It was definitely a gradual process for me and mislabeling myself a few times. I'm biologically male and when I first started to figure myself out I actually labelled myself as a gay man. I stuck with that label for a year and a half but something about it never really fit. Before I came out to myself as gay I had been questioning my gender identity and after awhile those thoughts came back so I had to really think about my gender identity seriously. After awhile I learned that I actually was transgender and I was unsure about my sexuality. I knew that I liked girls more than guys but I was still attracted to men. It was only recently that I came out to myself as bisexual. Oh, I see, so it was kind of like trial and error, in a way? I'm happy that you were able to reach a conclusion about all of it ^^ Mislabeling brings up a really good point. Recently, my cousin made this huge coming out thing about being pansexual, and while everyone was incredibly supportive of her, about three months later she was kind of like, "whoops, I'm straight". That's the one thing I've always personally been worried about with coming out, if I end up being not-straight. Have you ever had that sort of issue? Sorry if that's really personal, you don't have to answer that question. But I hope everything goes well for you and your transition, if you haven't already done so.
Coming out is hard and I came out as gay before realizing that I was trans and bi so I had to come out a second time. I have come out to a few people though, including my parents, so most people that I came out to before I've come out to again. It was hard enough the first time though so it's definitely best if you're sure before you come out.
Thanks for the good wishes. I hope things go well for you too. So far things have been going alright but I haven't really done anything in terms of transition yet.
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