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 Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2011 7:03 pm
Hi, everyone.
I'm feeling depressed. The past few days, I have felt like my mom and sister have been working against me. What started these feelings is this:
Lately, my sister has been snapping at me for basically no reason at all; she keeps telling me not to snap at her, even though I hardly ever do. It's when I don't that she yells at me to not snap at her when I even have the nerve to open my mouth.
Today, though, is what really got me feeling depressed. My sister woke me up from a nap to tell me (it was an order, not a request) to get up so we could get stuff for our parents so they could make dinner. I was happy to go, of course, and I said "Okay". My sister, of course, didn't like the way I said "Okay", so she tells me "Don't snap at me!", acting like I meant to do that. I asked her nicely to please not yell at me, and she just glared at me like I was saying something bad. She knows I'm sick, but snapped at me anyway, and still decided to chastise me for something I didn't mean to do; I get like that when I'm this sick, and she knows it. Then, on our way to the store, she got mad at me again when I was quiet the whole time (I also get very quiet when I'm sick, and she knows it, so she shouldn't have been snapping at me for that) And she always does this when my dad's at work; he's been working nights lately, so I dread when he goes to work and I feel defenseless most of the time, because my dad always comes to my defense whenever my mom and sister decide to take stuff out on me for whatever unknown reason they could have for doing that cry I'm just happy that my dad doesn't have to work tonight, so Mom and Sis can't verbally attack me for whatever reason they may have.
I just can't help but feel that my mom is playing favorites with me and my sister. I sometimes feel ignored by my mom when she pays more attention to my sister, showing her stuff that she knows I like, too, but not showing me. And I just feel like my mom views my sister as this perfect daughter or something, being that she never calls my sister out for snapping at me, but calling me out for something I didn't do and then taking my sister's side.
I'm sorry for this post being disorganized if it is; I'm feeling so under the weather that I can't form a coherent thought right now.
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Posted: Sun Dec 04, 2011 9:26 pm
Darling I know exactly how that feels, my younger sister has been doing it to me for years on a slightly larger scale, so I understand completely how you feel. Now honestly how to deal with it depends on you personally. But Here's my advice and a little personal experience that may provide help.
If your dad is the one who defends you, he might have advice or be able to help put a stop to or lessen the verbal attacking. Or try talking to somebody else about it if it gets really bad. If it will make a difference then confront your mother and sister, speak clamly, at first maybe try little things. Sometimes you just gotta prove you won't be a pushover about it.
Also if your mother and sister are looking for reactions don't give them the satisfaction. Like for example your sister starts doing something to annoy you, well just pretend it isn't even if she start doing it to a larger degree pretend you don't care. In my experience she is simply looking for a reaction that will give her reason to snap at you and accuse you further. So if you don't give them the reaction they are looking for eventually it will bore them. Of course don't ignore them either, because that willl also give them what they would consider reason for what they say.
Now your mothers attention may be part of this, I do not know your family well of course but it might be a possibility your sister feels you are a threat to her attention and as such will try to push you down so you won't steal her spotlight, so to speak. Your mother may not always intentionally verbally attack you or mean to not give you attention but it's hard to say.
Just be strong and shrug away the hurtful words, I know how you feel but if you give off that feeling of weakness sometimes it makes things worse. Be strong dear.
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Posted: Mon Dec 05, 2011 5:48 pm
Thank you for this advice; it really helps smile I'll definitely try that.
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Posted: Tue Dec 06, 2011 7:55 pm
No problem ^w^ hope it works out for ya. Let me know either way~
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2011 3:25 pm
I think it worked; I talked to my dad about it, and he told my mom and sis to not verbally attack me anymore. biggrin
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Posted: Thu Dec 08, 2011 3:46 pm
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