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 Posted: Tue May 17, 2011 2:41 pm
...for one guy to make my world so much brighter, so much better, than it has ever been? I've been in unsafe and harsh relationships, but I haven't been this happy in a long time. And the strange part? I have not met him in person yet. Yes, we talk on the phone and on webcam. I know he loves me, and I trust him more than anyone else. We never lie to each other and I hope when we finally meet in person, we'll be happy together.
But the "what ifs" in my head are parading like a maddening marching band that won't stop playing. So, I'll list a few of them here.
What if he and I can't financially support each other once we move in together?
What if he has problems I don't know about yet?
What if he never proposes to me?
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 7:04 pm
It's really easy for one's mind to wander toward a serious future once you've realized how successful a relationship could be. Did your unsafe and harsh relationships in the past make you feel this happy at first? If so, you might want to hold off on these "what ifs" until you meet this man in person. Relationships are all about learning from each other. I wouldn't worry about all the potential ways the relationship could go wrong until you two get to know each other better in person. I know all this advice seems vague, but I hope it helped at least a little bit. Good luck! heart
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 7:16 pm
Well, the recent relationship was more like I was molested. I had pounced on the first sign of affection and when I realized what I chose was wrong, it was already too late. I spent months trying to recover. Every time somebody hit on me, I would burst into tears. So... no. I don't remember being this happy with any other person I have dated. The closest would be my first boyfriend... He never was rude to me, and I was too shy and had no sexual interest in him. But... we went too fast, and that is what broke us up.
And thank you. I always appreciate advice. ^.^
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 7:32 pm
You know, i was in your shoes once. I was in this terrible rut of falling for someone just for them to break my heart. But... during that year of turmoil i met this wonderful woman along the way... and after i met her she became my wall. Everytime my heart was broken she was there for me to lean on and she would fix me up and make me feel better again. About 9 months ago she told me she was in love with me. a week after that, i realized i was in love with her too. because who was it that was always there for me? who was it that, whenever i needed her she would drop what she was doing and come to me rescue and who was the girl i had done the same for? She had been there for me through thick and thin... how couldnt i fall for her? after we started dating my life became brighter. my panic attacks became less frequent and eventually stopped all together. life was good and it still has been. but... i had my doubts like u did... because of the drama and heartbreak these women had put me thru, i was scared that history would repeat itself... But after these happy 8 months I realize how much of a fool i had been to even think that. I laugh at the insecurities i had... and i hope that by now u are laughing at the insecurities u had too smile
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 7:43 pm
Hun... I'm speechless... I just... I love you! heart and... I want to be with you, and nobody else! You think the same, don't you? <333333333333
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 7:47 pm
yes, i do. i love you so much baby! <3333333333
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 7:49 pm
I love you, too. 3nodding heart heart heart
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