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 Posted: Sat Apr 23, 2011 8:52 am
Alright so I've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 months and it is fun and all, we hug each goodbye everyday, but for some reason it seems like he doesn't like talking to me. His best friend, who is also one of my friends, keeps telling me that is really shy and doesn't think I like him as much as he likes me. I really do like him a lot, but lately what has been bugging me is this girl Erin. She is his "sister". Sounds stupid right? Yeah because his older sister is in the same grade as one of hers and they are best friends. Anyway, she usually talks to him now and then, whatever, that is fine with me. The thing is she has been spending more time talking to him than I do. And it bothers me. I don't want to tell him that because I don't want to seem like a jealous little girl, but I can't help it. I've asked her before if she likes him and she said no. Some of my friends told me that it looks like the two of them are flirting. Does he like her? I have no idea. I would really appreciate some help. Please tell me what to do!!
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Posted: Sat Apr 23, 2011 9:12 am
well... if i were you i'd go and interrupt them ^^ like go and hug/kiss your bf or something^^ besides if he is one of those shy people, you might wanna become the active side of relationship, drag him everywhere, take him to different places, say cute stuff to him, suprise him...
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Colorful Shadows Vice Captain
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Posted: Sat Apr 23, 2011 7:50 pm
Jealousy is apart of our life. We go through it every so often. However, if you don't want to be jealous, don't let it get to you. Jealousy is usually a mental thing, so think of it as something else, like, "If he left me for her then it's his loss." Or "I'm better than her, so it's okay."
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Posted: Tue May 03, 2011 2:06 pm
Growing up, you could say I was Erin. I was the one the boys talked to all the time. What did we talk about? Their girlfriends! Since I was older, the boys thought I could give them advice about their girlfriends or explain what the girl meant by so and so.
Unfortunately, boys and girls are different in the way they see relationships. Girls like to talk about their feelings. Guys normally hate to do that. Guys can feel satisfaction by just being with their girls, no talk necessary. Girls think that guys are ignoring them when the guys aren't talking to them. Try getting him to talk about something that interests him, even if you hate it! Then make sure you really act interested, not bored.
I've been married many years. I know that my husband loves me, even without words. Why? Because guys say "I love you" or "I like you" in many ways. It can be something as simple as brushing your hair back from your face. Or bringing you a cold drink before you ask. Maybe he takes you to the one place you like but he doesn't. A quick hug or kiss when you least expect it. There are a million ways that actions can show love, sometimes better than words.
Good luck. Just don't let the "green eyed monster" (jealousy) kill something that might be good.
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Posted: Tue May 03, 2011 2:10 pm
Try to be more open in a situation like this. Whenever you start to think that they're flirting or she's talking to him more that you, push those thoughts aside. Honestly, if they liked each other/ she liked him, he wouldn't be going out with you, now would he? He likes you a lot, that's been stated. So be proud to call him yours. Don't worry about her, worry about him. He's yours now, so make the best of it.
And as for his friend telling you those things, it all goes back to making the best of what you have. Smile at him, make him feel more comfortable in the relationship. And make sure he knows how much you care. Good luck. =]
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Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 10:55 pm
Well, maybe she is like a sister to him after all. When I'm confused, I go and talk to my sister, and it's weird, but it's less awkward because she's family. Maybe your guy is just more accustomed to talking to her because she's like a big sister to him, and then your job is making him comfortable talking to you. Let him know you'll listen to him, talk about what he likes like Krystal_Blue_Eyez said, because he's probably as awkward and confused about what he feels as you are. Guys just don't like to admit it.
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Posted: Wed Jun 22, 2011 12:45 pm
I think the best thing to do would be to simply have a talk with him. Ask him how he feels about you two being together. Ask him how he feels about his "Sister". My boyfriend of 4 years, when we first started dating, had a friend he saw as a "sister". I got jealous whenever he talked to her or hung out with her, but, it turns out he just needed someone to go to for advice. You know- advice about girls from a girl since guys aren't much help..
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