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Colorful Shadows Vice Captain
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 Posted: Sun Mar 06, 2011 5:31 pm
I just had a "fight" with my friend who said she didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I try to be friends with her, but she can get mean, and then get nice. I just figure its PMSing. I need some guidance. Im a teenage girl who can't stop bawling.
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Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 6:11 pm
Ah, can't help you here. Just give time time.
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Posted: Mon Mar 07, 2011 10:18 pm
mmm. sad I'm in a similair situation with my friend. We've been fighting so long now and it's killing me, but everyone thinks I'm happy as usual.
I don't know what advice I can give as I'm still working on this type of thing myself. I guess.....just keep swimming. smile
*hugs.*
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Posted: Thu Mar 10, 2011 8:43 pm
Teen years are so hard. As a teen, you are going through lots of changes and doing so very quickly. It's really confusing, I know, but things will become clearer as you get older.
That being said, sometimes friends have confusing emotions and act out in frustration. All you can do is give them space and be there for them, letting them know that you will listen when they are ready to talk. When that happens, listen with an open mind and both ears. It is said that we have 2 ears and 1 mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we talk.
Crying and acting all upset can make the other person feel guilty and cause them to act out more. Give your friend time, space, and emotional support. She needs that more than your tears.
Good luck to both of the posters here that are encountering this problem. I hope that I have helped you both a little.
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 3:56 pm
I'm also in a similar situation..... My best friend five or more years always would stop talking to me and be all over our other friend so I gave it time but then she did the same thing to our friend and was all over me. Our friend confronted her after this went on for a year or more so she started talking to both of us for a week then did it all over again, so I confronted her as my friend had done before..... we haven't been friends for 4 months or so... I wouldn't mind if there was a reason but the fact that there is none just pisses me off..... It effects me so hard emotionally, sometimes I have to stop what I'm doing and try to compose myself and it doesn't always work..... Emotionally I'm destroyed but I can hide it from my other friends so they dont notice... but it tears me up and I really would love to talk to our school counciller but I dont have the courage to. I can't talk to my other friends while she's around or I get really depressed so I started hanging out with my past friends that I had started drifting from and it turns out she had done it to one of them too and they haven't been friends in years...... I'm so afraid of losing her but it's just not worth the effort and emotional pain so I gave up onn her.
This situation happened when I was younger aswel with two different friends but then we got so sick of her that the two of us hung out together and she went to a bording school anyway....
But yeah.... I'm only 14 and yet I'm full of anger and depression and don't know what to do now..... Thanks for making this form by the way, it was nice to finally get all this out C:
I hope your endings are happier than mine......
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 4:40 pm
well, give her some time. Maybe apologies. Right now, if she's mad, just leave her be. 'Bugging' her will only get her more mad
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Posted: Tue Mar 15, 2011 5:52 pm
_LiL_ImmortaL_AngeL_ I'm also in a similar situation..... My best friend five or more years always would stop talking to me and be all over our other friend so I gave it time but then she did the same thing to our friend and was all over me. Our friend confronted her after this went on for a year or more so she started talking to both of us for a week then did it all over again, so I confronted her as my friend had done before..... we haven't been friends for 4 months or so... I wouldn't mind if there was a reason but the fact that there is none just pisses me off..... It effects me so hard emotionally, sometimes I have to stop what I'm doing and try to compose myself and it doesn't always work..... Emotionally I'm destroyed but I can hide it from my other friends so they dont notice... but it tears me up and I really would love to talk to our school counciller but I dont have the courage to. I can't talk to my other friends while she's around or I get really depressed so I started hanging out with my past friends that I had started drifting from and it turns out she had done it to one of them too and they haven't been friends in years...... I'm so afraid of losing her but it's just not worth the effort and emotional pain so I gave up onn her. This situation happened when I was younger aswel with two different friends but then we got so sick of her that the two of us hung out together and she went to a bording school anyway.... But yeah.... I'm only 14 and yet I'm full of anger and depression and don't know what to do now..... Thanks for making this form by the way, it was nice to finally get all this out C: I hope your endings are happier than mine...... As hard as it seems, talk to the school counselor. He or she is equipped to show you how handle your anger and depression. Ignoring the problem or trying to deal with it on your own will not make it go away or get better. I know I'm only words on a computer screen, but I do care. If you like, PM me. Ask any questions you want and I promise to give honest answers. If I don't know, I'll tell you that I don't know. OK?
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Posted: Wed Mar 16, 2011 11:33 am
Krystal_Blue_Eyez _LiL_ImmortaL_AngeL_ I'm also in a similar situation..... My best friend five or more years always would stop talking to me and be all over our other friend so I gave it time but then she did the same thing to our friend and was all over me. Our friend confronted her after this went on for a year or more so she started talking to both of us for a week then did it all over again, so I confronted her as my friend had done before..... we haven't been friends for 4 months or so... I wouldn't mind if there was a reason but the fact that there is none just pisses me off..... It effects me so hard emotionally, sometimes I have to stop what I'm doing and try to compose myself and it doesn't always work..... Emotionally I'm destroyed but I can hide it from my other friends so they dont notice... but it tears me up and I really would love to talk to our school counciller but I dont have the courage to. I can't talk to my other friends while she's around or I get really depressed so I started hanging out with my past friends that I had started drifting from and it turns out she had done it to one of them too and they haven't been friends in years...... I'm so afraid of losing her but it's just not worth the effort and emotional pain so I gave up onn her. This situation happened when I was younger aswel with two different friends but then we got so sick of her that the two of us hung out together and she went to a bording school anyway.... But yeah.... I'm only 14 and yet I'm full of anger and depression and don't know what to do now..... Thanks for making this form by the way, it was nice to finally get all this out C: I hope your endings are happier than mine...... As hard as it seems, talk to the school counselor. He or she is equipped to show you how handle your anger and depression. Ignoring the problem or trying to deal with it on your own will not make it go away or get better. I know I'm only words on a computer screen, but I do care. If you like, PM me. Ask any questions you want and I promise to give honest answers. If I don't know, I'll tell you that I don't know. OK? Thanks for the support, I just kinda needed to get that out there for once.... I wouldn't know how or where to go to find my school councelor.. but if I ever get really bad I will try with my best effort to open up to my favourite teacher that I trust.... people say she's better to talk to anyway. For now I shall try to move on with it.......
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Colorful Shadows Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue May 03, 2011 2:39 pm
Her Silent Cries well, give her some time. Maybe apologies. Right now, if she's mad, just leave her be. 'Bugging' her will only get her more mad I have given here apologies. But now, she stole one of my good friends. I'm really disliking her..
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Posted: Fri May 06, 2011 4:46 am
Colorful Shadows Her Silent Cries well, give her some time. Maybe apologies. Right now, if she's mad, just leave her be. 'Bugging' her will only get her more mad I have given here apologies. But now, she stole one of my good friends. I'm really disliking her.. Things might get better over time
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Posted: Sun May 08, 2011 10:45 pm
Sometimes, and I hate to say it, we make friends with people who really aren't friends to us. We try, but we are so different we don't get along, even if we're similar, too. It's hard, but sometimes you have to let these people be themselves - apart from you. Sometimes they change and come back, sometimes you change, and it doesn't even have to be a major change. Some people get along and others don't, not because they want to be mean, necessarily, but because they disagree where they need friends to agree. I've had a few friends like this - once we stopped trying to be close, it stopped being so much of a problem. It's weird, but sometimes all it is is some disagreement where it counts. Try giving your friend space - just let them be for a while, and know that it's quite likely not the fault of either of you.
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