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 Posted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 6:55 pm
OKAY, I've never told anybody this, but I need to get it off my chest.
I really miss where I used to live. I had awesome friends who lived down the street, and whenever I had a problem they would help. They were the best people in the world, I miss them so much. Their names are Zack, September, T'ana(all 3 siblings), Hatari, Octavia(also siblings), Hasina, and Edris(siblings too).
BEST FRIENDS EVEEER
Every day after school we would go outside and hangout. It was the best year ever. Then I moved.
I only moved a mile away, but that made it worse. All these bad things were happening barely a mile away and I could do nothing to help it. Hatari and Octavia lived in a foster home, their foster parent was rude and had a bratty son who she spoiled. Octavia started stealing things and Hatari had anger issue, but they were still very nice people.
Then when their foster mom was yelling at them Hatari got sick of it. He ran out the door and just kept walking. September tried to follow him but he made her turn around, but when she asked him where he was going he just said "to a friend's house"
Pretty soon the police were there, and September got questioned. They started finding his friends and tracked him down, but it took a day. He walked hours to a city. He was then sent to Juvie. I'm pretty sure his b***h of a foster mom helped him get there.
Then September and Hasina's relationship got out of hand. They had numerous fights so now Edris and Hasina don't talk to September, Zack, or T'ana. Octavia was also sent to another foster home. Hatari is out of juvie now too.
The whole reason why I wanted to post this is because I still blame myself for what happened and feel very bad. Not so long ago I was browsing the videos on my camera and came across a video of everybody at the corner of our street. As always, Hatari was in the center doing something funny. Then he opened his mouth. I expected to hear his voice, but I forgot my camera doesn't take sound. It's been almost a year, I miss so badly.
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Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2011 5:30 pm
Change is a natural part of life. Nothing is ever static and nothing ever remains the same. That is the first thing you have to accept and friendships are one of those things, personalities and people another. The more you try to cling to the idea of this is the way we should act, this is the way we should be, this is the way our lives should go...the more miserable you will make yourself because you're clinging to an illusion, an idea. Yes, yes, I know it's grounded in memory but what is memory really beyond a distorted image that exists in the mind's eye? You may have pictures and videos, but they're from a moment in time that no longer exists.
Stop blaming yourself for your friends' lives changing. The older you get, the more responsible you are for the person you've become. In other words, if a friend has anger issues, there's nothing you would be able to do to ease that, they have to discover it for themselves within themselves. They'd have to find out in their own way the damage their anger causes and have a sincere wish to stop it. Nothing you, as an outside party, do will change that. If a relationship between two people was damaged, there's nothing you, an outside party as well, could do to save it.
If you live the common, average American life you're fast going to find that after you leave home, once you're no longer a teenager, friends will be around less and less. First you'll spend most of your time working. Then you'll have an intimate relationship to foster (And will probably spend quite a bit of time trying to decide which person to foster it with). Then you'll have a family and household to support. It's not that such friendships ended, only they did what they naturally do and evolved, changed as circumstances warranted.
The best you can do is let go, stop dwelling on what was or how it should be and move forward. Things will happen, both good and bad, but that's just the way it is. People will come in and out of your life. No amount of wishful thinking will make the world into anything than what it is. The only person making you miserable is your self.
Not trying to be harsh and say 'Oh you're a horrible person', just telling you what actually is. One cannot awaken themselves to truth and expect to make a real change in their life if they are given only sugary platitudes.
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Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2011 5:33 pm
Lateralus es Helica Change is a natural part of life. Nothing is ever static and nothing ever remains the same. That is the first thing you have to accept and friendships are one of those things, personalities and people another. The more you try to cling to the idea of this is the way we should act, this is the way we should be, this is the way our lives should go...the more miserable you will make yourself because you're clinging to an illusion, an idea. Yes, yes, I know it's grounded in memory but what is memory really beyond a distorted image that exists in the mind's eye? You may have pictures and videos, but they're from a moment in time that no longer exists. Stop blaming yourself for your friends' lives changing. The older you get, the more responsible you are for the person you've become. In other words, if a friend has anger issues, there's nothing you would be able to do to ease that, they have to discover it for themselves within themselves. They'd have to find out in their own way the damage their anger causes and have a sincere wish to stop it. Nothing you, as an outside party, do will change that. If a relationship between two people was damaged, there's nothing you, an outside party as well, could do to save it. If you live the common, average American life you're fast going to find that after you leave home, once you're no longer a teenager, friends will be around less and less. First you'll spend most of your time working. Then you'll have an intimate relationship to foster (And will probably spend quite a bit of time trying to decide which person to foster it with). Then you'll have a family and household to support. It's not that such friendships ended, only they did what they naturally do and evolved, changed as circumstances warranted. The best you can do is let go, stop dwelling on what was or how it should be and move forward. Things will happen, both good and bad, but that's just the way it is. People will come in and out of your life. No amount of wishful thinking will make the world into anything than what it is. The only person making you miserable is your self. Not trying to be harsh and say 'Oh you're a horrible person', just telling you what actually is. One cannot awaken themselves to truth and expect to make a real change in their life if they are given only sugary platitudes. Thanks, that really helped. Are you a guidance counselor or something? Because you give out amazing advice. Thank you so much.
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Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2011 6:04 pm
This is not your fault, so don't stress yourself over it. I'm not advice-giver or whatnot, but, I miss where I used to live too. When I lived in Pennsylvania, everything was so peaceful. Friends lived down the street, and when I moved away, [much further than a mile] the older brother of my best friend became a PRS [Potential Rape Suspect]. My best friend had gone to the Junior Olympics, but didn't ever tell me if she won or not. We don't talk at all.
All I can say is do something to take your mind off of it. Hang out with your new friends and such.
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Colorful Shadows Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Feb 09, 2011 6:33 pm
Ze Fuzzy Bunny Lateralus es Helica Change is a natural part of life. Nothing is ever static and nothing ever remains the same. That is the first thing you have to accept and friendships are one of those things, personalities and people another. The more you try to cling to the idea of this is the way we should act, this is the way we should be, this is the way our lives should go...the more miserable you will make yourself because you're clinging to an illusion, an idea. Yes, yes, I know it's grounded in memory but what is memory really beyond a distorted image that exists in the mind's eye? You may have pictures and videos, but they're from a moment in time that no longer exists. Stop blaming yourself for your friends' lives changing. The older you get, the more responsible you are for the person you've become. In other words, if a friend has anger issues, there's nothing you would be able to do to ease that, they have to discover it for themselves within themselves. They'd have to find out in their own way the damage their anger causes and have a sincere wish to stop it. Nothing you, as an outside party, do will change that. If a relationship between two people was damaged, there's nothing you, an outside party as well, could do to save it. If you live the common, average American life you're fast going to find that after you leave home, once you're no longer a teenager, friends will be around less and less. First you'll spend most of your time working. Then you'll have an intimate relationship to foster (And will probably spend quite a bit of time trying to decide which person to foster it with). Then you'll have a family and household to support. It's not that such friendships ended, only they did what they naturally do and evolved, changed as circumstances warranted. The best you can do is let go, stop dwelling on what was or how it should be and move forward. Things will happen, both good and bad, but that's just the way it is. People will come in and out of your life. No amount of wishful thinking will make the world into anything than what it is. The only person making you miserable is your self. Not trying to be harsh and say 'Oh you're a horrible person', just telling you what actually is. One cannot awaken themselves to truth and expect to make a real change in their life if they are given only sugary platitudes. Thanks, that really helped. Are you a guidance counselor or something? Because you give out amazing advice. Thank you so much. Just a person that's lived a lot of life, good and bad.
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Posted: Wed Apr 13, 2011 4:37 pm
Ze Fuzzy Bunny OKAY, I've never told anybody this, but I need to get it off my chest.
I really miss where I used to live. I had awesome friends who lived down the street, and whenever I had a problem they would help. They were the best people in the world, I miss them so much. Their names are Zack, September, T'ana(all 3 siblings), Hatari, Octavia(also siblings), Hasina, and Edris(siblings too).
BEST FRIENDS EVEEER
Every day after school we would go outside and hangout. It was the best year ever. Then I moved.
I only moved a mile away, but that made it worse. All these bad things were happening barely a mile away and I could do nothing to help it. Hatari and Octavia lived in a foster home, their foster parent was rude and had a bratty son who she spoiled. Octavia started stealing things and Hatari had anger issue, but they were still very nice people.
Then when their foster mom was yelling at them Hatari got sick of it. He ran out the door and just kept walking. September tried to follow him but he made her turn around, but when she asked him where he was going he just said "to a friend's house"
Pretty soon the police were there, and September got questioned. They started finding his friends and tracked him down, but it took a day. He walked hours to a city. He was then sent to Juvie. I'm pretty sure his b***h of a foster mom helped him get there.
Then September and Hasina's relationship got out of hand. They had numerous fights so now Edris and Hasina don't talk to September, Zack, or T'ana. Octavia was also sent to another foster home. Hatari is out of juvie now too.
The whole reason why I wanted to post this is because I still blame myself for what happened and feel very bad. Not so long ago I was browsing the videos on my camera and came across a video of everybody at the corner of our street. As always, Hatari was in the center doing something funny. Then he opened his mouth. I expected to hear his voice, but I forgot my camera doesn't take sound. It's been almost a year, I miss so badly. I agree with both Later and Colorful.. and keep in mind that friends come and go physically, but stay in your hearts forever.
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