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I am having trouble figuring out if I am more of a top or a bottom in a relationship. It seems that I switch without even knowing it. When i'm with a girl i'm more likely to make the first move but i turn cowardly as soon as a bit of force is used. I really like being dominated by guys and kind of have a great turn-on for a kidnapping scenario. I'm trying to figure out that if my guy ever left me what I should answer a girl. Am I to let her lead or should I? I'm really confused.

Is that ever really a concern in a relationship? confused I don't think that question has ever come up with me....
But the I do agree with Esiris, whatever you will be with someone could vary from relationship to relationship.
And there is nothing to say that you can't be both a top/bottom, dom/sub ect.

Yes!

Just to let you know- submissive and bottom are two different things.

A submissive is someone who submits and serves- and a bottom is someone who is acted upon/receiving.

So if a dominate person is a masochist and enjoys being spanked, the submission of their partner may include that partner spanking their Dom. All of this kind of stuff is irrelevant until you reach the age of majority- and that's different from the Age of Consent. The age of consent is the age at which you can legally have sex in certain situations. The age of Majority is the age at which you can legally be considered an adult and are able to make your own legal decisions without your parents or guardians. This is because minors aren't able to consent to certain kinds of sexual acts.