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 Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2010 7:16 pm
sweatdrop
I need advice. Does anyone feel like helping me out with a problem...?
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Posted: Tue Nov 16, 2010 7:35 pm
what's the problem question
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Yasashii Gin Hime Captain
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Posted: Wed Nov 17, 2010 11:23 am
Tell me and of course. You know I'd help. But I need to know first. sweatdrop
I love your avi Sherlock!
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Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2010 1:14 am
Thanks... I just wanted to see if people wanted to hear it before I actually posted it. I think both of your avis are really cool, btw. 3nodding
So.
I'm gonna preface this by saying that I don't want to sound whiny or anything. But this has been bothering me for a while, and I kinda want to get some advice on it. Well, I got some from some of my friends, but none of it was very useful neutral
Anyways... I'm kinda in love with this chick. We've been friends for a while now, and she's a really nice person. But one thing she does is give me all these mixed signals. I can't tell if she's into me too or if she's just being friendly.
Normally, I wouldn't really let this bother me. The thing is, though, whenever I give her a signal, she doesn't respond at all. And some of these signals have been preeeeetty strong. It'd be one thing if she responded badly, and another thing if she responded well, but no response? I have no clue what she's thinking, all while she keeps being flirty with me.
And it's makin me go crazy.
All my friends tell me to give up, and maybe I should, but for some reason I just can't let go. That's why, even though I don't like to say it unless I mean it, I think I'm in love with her.
So, what does this mean...? What should I do? Am I just being silly?
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Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2010 1:24 am
kokomojeezus Thanks... I just wanted to see if people wanted to hear it before I actually posted it. I think both of your avis are really cool, btw. 3nodding So. I'm gonna preface this by saying that I don't want to sound whiny or anything. But this has been bothering me for a while, and I kinda want to get some advice on it. Well, I got some from some of my friends, but none of it was very useful neutral Anyways... I'm kinda in love with this chick. We've been friends for a while now, and she's a really nice person. But one thing she does is give me all these mixed signals. I can't tell if she's into me too or if she's just being friendly. Normally, I wouldn't really let this bother me. The thing is, though, whenever I give her a signal, she doesn't respond at all. And some of these signals have been preeeeetty strong. It'd be one thing if she responded badly, and another thing if she responded well, but no response? I have no clue what she's thinking, all while she keeps being flirty with me. And it's makin me go crazy. All my friends tell me to give up, and maybe I should, but for some reason I just can't let go. That's why, even though I don't like to say it unless I mean it, I think I'm in love with her. So, what does this mean...? What should I do? Am I just being silly? Perhaps she is interested in you and is purposefully not responding to your signals. Playing hard to get is one of my personal strong points. lol. So I recognize this method well. Of course as I don't know either of you personally, I could be wrong. But I have a sense for these things, and have set up quite a number of people over my years, so I dont think I am. If you don't mind me asking- what where some of the more obvious things you did to let her know?
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Posted: Thu Nov 18, 2010 6:56 pm
I won't go and call myself a match maker because no one really is. There are only a few things I can tell you that will help you to figure out what is going on with her. Girls. I am one but I am unlike the rest so I won't say what she doing is conventional. It's not. If she is ignoring you completely she is doing just that. Ignoring you. Which is kinda mean on her part. She is doing it to (more than likely) get you to stop pursuing her without telling you straight out. I personally just tell men. Because I find it rude to make them hope or wait. Yes. You could very well be in love with her. In that case nothing anyone will say will be good enough advice to suit what your heart wants. It doesn't matter what you really need at this point if you do love her. You aren't being silly. Everyone goes through this. Just know your options and keep your mind as open as your heart because you will get lost in the mix if you don't. Don't give up if you don't want to but don't let yourself obsess so much that you end up losing sight of other things in the process. K? 4laugh kokomojeezus Thanks... I just wanted to see if people wanted to hear it before I actually posted it. I think both of your avis are really cool, btw. 3nodding So. I'm gonna preface this by saying that I don't want to sound whiny or anything. But this has been bothering me for a while, and I kinda want to get some advice on it. Well, I got some from some of my friends, but none of it was very useful neutral Anyways... I'm kinda in love with this chick. We've been friends for a while now, and she's a really nice person. But one thing she does is give me all these mixed signals. I can't tell if she's into me too or if she's just being friendly. Normally, I wouldn't really let this bother me. The thing is, though, whenever I give her a signal, she doesn't respond at all. And some of these signals have been preeeeetty strong. It'd be one thing if she responded badly, and another thing if she responded well, but no response? I have no clue what she's thinking, all while she keeps being flirty with me. And it's makin me go crazy. All my friends tell me to give up, and maybe I should, but for some reason I just can't let go. That's why, even though I don't like to say it unless I mean it, I think I'm in love with her. So, what does this mean...? What should I do? Am I just being silly?
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Yasashii Gin Hime Captain
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Posted: Mon Nov 22, 2010 5:48 pm
XP My bad for not replying in a while. Princess Silver Mists I won't go and call myself a match maker because no one really is. There are only a few things I can tell you that will help you to figure out what is going on with her. Girls. I am one but I am unlike the rest so I won't say what she doing is conventional. It's not. If she is ignoring you completely she is doing just that. Ignoring you. Which is kinda mean on her part. She is doing it to (more than likely) get you to stop pursuing her without telling you straight out. I personally just tell men. Because I find it rude to make them hope or wait. Yes. You could very well be in love with her. In that case nothing anyone will say will be good enough advice to suit what your heart wants. It doesn't matter what you really need at this point if you do love her. You aren't being silly. Everyone goes through this. Just know your options and keep your mind as open as your heart because you will get lost in the mix if you don't. Don't give up if you don't want to but don't let yourself obsess so much that you end up losing sight of other things in the process. K? 4laugh I read your post a while ago, and I've kinda been thinking about it. You could be right about her trying to get me to stop,but then that doesn't explain why she's still so friendly with me otherwise... but then again that could just be me making a big deal out of things that mean nothing sweatdrop crazzydarkgirl16 Perhaps she is interested in you and is purposefully not responding to your signals. Playing hard to get is one of my personal strong points. lol. So I recognize this method well. Of course as I don't know either of you personally, I could be wrong. But I have a sense for these things, and have set up quite a number of people over my years, so I dont think I am. If you don't mind me asking- what where some of the more obvious things you did to let her know? I don't mind smile One of the bigger things would be asking her to our homecoming dance (I'm a senior in high school) after specifically mentioning that I wasn't asking her as a friend. She said yes, and she went with me, but that was about it. I couldn't get to her the night of the dance, or before, or after. emo Also, we have conversations about love in general, and other peoples' relationships, and I try to drop all kinds of hints on her but nothin. I'm starting to think that unless I'm just upfront and tell her, I won't get anywhere xp At this point, its okay if she turns me down, I just want to know, so I can be free. stare
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Posted: Mon Nov 22, 2010 6:32 pm
It is your bad. I should put you on the naughty list. blaugh (Are you 18+? If so go to the 18+ subforum and post on the nice and naughty list.)
She is friendly because she wants to be nice to you and not seem like a jerk while subtly telling you that she isn't into you that way. Yeah. You should be upfront. It is best. And if she says no. (Sorry if she does.) Move on to someone who will care more. kokomojeezus XP My bad for not replying in a while. Princess Silver Mists I won't go and call myself a match maker because no one really is. There are only a few things I can tell you that will help you to figure out what is going on with her. Girls. I am one but I am unlike the rest so I won't say what she doing is conventional. It's not. If she is ignoring you completely she is doing just that. Ignoring you. Which is kinda mean on her part. She is doing it to (more than likely) get you to stop pursuing her without telling you straight out. I personally just tell men. Because I find it rude to make them hope or wait. Yes. You could very well be in love with her. In that case nothing anyone will say will be good enough advice to suit what your heart wants. It doesn't matter what you really need at this point if you do love her. You aren't being silly. Everyone goes through this. Just know your options and keep your mind as open as your heart because you will get lost in the mix if you don't. Don't give up if you don't want to but don't let yourself obsess so much that you end up losing sight of other things in the process. K? 4laugh I read your post a while ago, and I've kinda been thinking about it. You could be right about her trying to get me to stop,but then that doesn't explain why she's still so friendly with me otherwise... but then again that could just be me making a big deal out of things that mean nothing sweatdrop crazzydarkgirl16 Perhaps she is interested in you and is purposefully not responding to your signals. Playing hard to get is one of my personal strong points. lol. So I recognize this method well. Of course as I don't know either of you personally, I could be wrong. But I have a sense for these things, and have set up quite a number of people over my years, so I dont think I am. If you don't mind me asking- what where some of the more obvious things you did to let her know? I don't mind smile One of the bigger things would be asking her to our homecoming dance (I'm a senior in high school) after specifically mentioning that I wasn't asking her as a friend. She said yes, and she went with me, but that was about it. I couldn't get to her the night of the dance, or before, or after. emo Also, we have conversations about love in general, and other peoples' relationships, and I try to drop all kinds of hints on her but nothin. I'm starting to think that unless I'm just upfront and tell her, I won't get anywhere xp At this point, its okay if she turns me down, I just want to know, so I can be free. stare
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Yasashii Gin Hime Captain
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Posted: Mon Nov 22, 2010 7:54 pm
Princess Silver Mists It is your bad. I should put you on the naughty list. blaugh (Are you 18+? If so go to the 18+ subforum and post on the nice and naughty list.)
She is friendly because she wants to be nice to you and not seem like a jerk while subtly telling you that she isn't into you that way. Yeah. You should be upfront. It is best. And if she says no. (Sorry if she does.) Move on to someone who will care more. For purposes of this guild, I'm 18. ninja (really 16, but w/e.) I think what you said sounds about right... It's realistic at least, which is kinda what I needed xp I'll tell her about it sometime soon. Worst case scenario, she says no, and things will be awkward for a while, but it'll end. She's not the kind of person to keep things weird, and I'll get over it. I'm glad that you didn't straight tell me to give up though. That's what everyone else was telling me and it was getting a little frustrating neutral So thanks for helping me see it another way. I'll let you know what happens down the road? 3nodding
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Posted: Mon Nov 22, 2010 8:02 pm
Okay then. Go check out the Mature Audiences Only subforum for the guild. You should post on the Silver's Naughty List thread. You'll like it I think.
It's what I can think of. Not necessarily right but it's close enough to what I have witnessed before that I can give my advice on it without bias.
Other people say things like that because it is probably in their nature to give up right away. I am not the type to give up easily so I can see a bit further I suppose. So... You're welcome. 4laugh
Yes. I'd like to know what happens. If it doesn't take too much for you to tell about the outcome no matter what it may be.
kokomojeezus Princess Silver Mists It is your bad. I should put you on the naughty list. blaugh (Are you 18+? If so go to the 18+ subforum and post on the nice and naughty list.)
She is friendly because she wants to be nice to you and not seem like a jerk while subtly telling you that she isn't into you that way. Yeah. You should be upfront. It is best. And if she says no. (Sorry if she does.) Move on to someone who will care more. For purposes of this guild, I'm 18. ninja (really 16, but w/e.) I think what you said sounds about right... It's realistic at least, which is kinda what I needed xp I'll tell her about it sometime soon. Worst case scenario, she says no, and things will be awkward for a while, but it'll end. She's not the kind of person to keep things weird, and I'll get over it. I'm glad that you didn't straight tell me to give up though. That's what everyone else was telling me and it was getting a little frustrating neutral So thanks for helping me see it another way. I'll let you know what happens down the road? 3nodding
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Yasashii Gin Hime Captain
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Posted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:54 pm
Dont be to extreme, move slowly to show her your interested, ask her out on a date, bring her flowers randomly just because, and if the opportunity presents it self go for a kiss, if you think you truly "love" this person you will take the time to show and develop a more than friends relationship then proclaim your love.
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Posted: Tue Jul 03, 2012 9:06 pm
At this point you need to have a chat. You'll never know unless you ask.
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Yasashii Gin Hime Captain
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Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2012 4:13 pm
Agreed. The only way to ever really know how someone feels is to ask because it's easy to misinterpret signals. Bidd No Roe At this point you need to have a chat. You'll never know unless you ask.
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