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Looong rant here.

I got a text from my sister saying that she was going to pick me up at 11:30am. I was sleeping when she sent the text and my phone was on silent because it pisses me off when people call me when I'm sleeping. I wake up and ask why she is picking me up. She says to go walking.

There is a 3 mile trail around a creek, that is where they were walking. I told her no, because my ankle is still messed up and it hurts to walk.

So my mom calls at like 2. I missed the call because I forgot to turn the volume back up on my phone. I waited until 5 to call her back because she works until 4:30.

(Okay let me explain a little more about the situation before I get into the phone call.)

I have tried multiple times to explain to my mom that I get depressed and I have a hard time making myself do things when I get that way. She should know. She was THERE when I was diagnosed with depression!

Earlier this week my mom talked me into finishing that stupid class figuring that I just didn't want to go because I was depressed. She even offered to come with me because she is a bus driver and she has to take 10 hours a year of classroom time. I really appreciated the offer. I thought that that whole thing was over with because I am going to the damn class like she wanted.

I brought my sister with me to class yesterday. Apparently my sister told my mom that I looked bored. It is a boring class, of course I was bored.

(Okay back to the phone call.)

My mom wanted me to go for a walk with her because she wanted to talk to me about some things. (greeeat)

She mentioned my looking bored in class. Of course I was bored, it is is boring class. Then she brings up me saying that I didn't want to go for a walk. I said that I don't see the problem.

Then she gets all mad and says something like "well fine, I just won't say anything anymore." and hangs up on me. WTF!

She called back like 5 minutes later. I don't know why I answered.

Then she starts in on me saying that I am doing absolutely nothing. That I just sit at home and do nothing. She said that it hurts and disappoints her to see what I'm doing. (What, exactly she is talking about I have no idea.) She said that she can't just watch me do this to myself and she can't not have a relationship with me.

Okay, so not having a relationship with me has crossed her mind? WTF am I supposed to say to something like that? She doesn't seem to realize that when I'm depressed criticizing me about EVERYTHING isn't helping. I actually cried like for the rest of the day because of this. I don't think she realizes how hurtful she is being. I am tired of her making me feel like crap for basically everything. When I try to explain how she makes me feel she gets all mad and starts acting like I'm trying to insult her. She says things like "well, fine I'll stop trying to help you" or "I'm going to go and you can call back when you're ready to talk to me". I don't like thinking about my mom being hurt and disappointed by me.

Thank God for my hubby. (Who my mother has told me to be careful or he will leave me. She actually said that.) It took him a long time to calm me down and I kept having crying fits for a few hours, but he just held me and told me that it's okay. He told me to just ignore it when she says these things. He doesn't understand the problem either.

I haven't actually said "******** off" but I have told her to get off her high horse and mind her own business.

The thing is, I know she is trying to help. I don't think she understands how condescending she is being. Also, I really wish she wouldn't approach me the way she does. It is like she expects me to fly off the handle every time she talks to me about anything.

That is how I feel about it too. It seems to me like she thinks I'm not doing anything with my life every time I don't do something that she wants me to do.

Things just worked out where I ended up being a house wife. It is okay with everyone involved, me and my hubby. It is no one elses business. I'm happy, he is happy. You know, not so long ago it wasn't okay to NOT be a house wife.

Damn straight!

Stupid feminists. Women had it made! We didn't have to do any more work than we wanted to. Keeping the house clean isn't very hard if you keep on top of it. I love just hanging out and tidying up here and there. It is SO much better than working.

But no, they had to go and make it unacceptable to do that.

lol