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 Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 12:30 am
So how do you believe people should react to those that swing a different way?
Is it fair for them to place judgment? Or do they have no right to say anything about what they do not know?
I know this this a subject many of us can talk about. And i really want us to talk. So come speak your mind. If there is one place you don't have to be afraid of being judge its here.
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 10:00 am
I get a nice view of uncensored stupidity and cruelty in high school. There at least, the way people react is highly influenced just by their gender. My gay friend whom I love to death is terrified of his Gym class. He stays out of everyone's way in the locker room but he's still tormented by the other guys. And from the psycological point of view, people say that straight men feel challenged by gay men because they're masculinity is threatened [or something like that] And especially with teens I don't think they're even really thinking about how they react. It's the society they're being brought up in and the people around them that affect the way they see people and react accordingly. I've seen that enough, if I'm walking down the hall with my friend and a group of guys walks by and one of them calls out 'f**' the others have a good laugh at it. But that's just my view of male stupidity and an undeveloped brain...=.= They don't have any right to place judgement but they do it to make themselves feel better, just the way that they would insult anyone else that they deem 'different'.
Girls on the other hand, love my gay friend Julian to death. I think, because they don't feel pressured by the fact that he's a guy and they don't need to show off in front of him. They think it's absolutely wonderful that he's gay [no wonder the whole yaoi fanbase is made up of girls and gay guys] But for a lot of girls, they only like him because he's gay. He becomes almost like a bragging right to them, to tell other girls that they have a gay friend holds a lot of power in my school. Girls don't judge gay guys but they have big issues with lesbian and bi girl. Which would bring me back up to the whole psycology thing, sort of.
Most straight girls just find it disgusting and don't hold back comments because I'd say that most high school girls are just catty bitches and they just think that they're so amazing that they give themselves the right to make themselves 'look better' at other's expense. The other view that girls had, and i actually talked to some of my friends about this before I came out to them. And i got pretty much the same response when I asked them how they felt about gays/lesbians. And they all said pretty much that they're totally accepting and for gay rights and everything and they're totally comfortable with bis or lesbians 'unless they have a crush on me'.
Which is totally normal, i'd think. But my friends aren't the type to really freak out about that type of thing.
Anyway, no one has any right to place judgement on something they know nothing about, but peoples views are so heavily influenced on what their parents say and what they hear and see on TV and in popular culture that they just reiderate what they've heard without having a real solid legitimat reason in the first place.
[[i went totally off topic for almost all of that but i was on a little ranty thing XP]]
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 12:17 pm
No you made valid points and I have to say I quite agree with them. I find it sad when my gay best friend gets hounded because hes flamboyant and doesn't hid his sexuality behind fake style or personality. I find most straight men in general to be pig headed or single minded.
As for straight girls, I hung out with my first two the other day. (I haven't really had many straight girl friends since I came out my junior year of high school.) And well it was kind interesting. I'm not one to hide my sexuality just to make sure someone feels comfortable, so when we got on to the subject of the last person we kissed I was up front and said it was a girl my senor year of high school (More then over a year ago). Both kinda had a look but did really react. It wasn't until later when they were talking about some lez girl they knew that they showed there obvious distaste for girls that like other girls. I at that point I thought..."Wow, and I thought maybe you wouldn't live up to the stereo type and maybe not bash on something you know nothing about."
I don't believe any one has right to place judgment on any one. But sometimes it really can't be helped. If people don't want to learn, they will never accept.
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Posted: Sat Aug 07, 2010 4:57 pm
Okay, from a standpoint of neutrality, your statement is already set up to give a pre-determined, one sided answer, so I'll just rephrase as this:
"What are your thoughts on homosexuality in real life?"
I believe that as long as any emotion is kept in a controlled way, be it straight or gay, it's all good. It's when an out of control burst of 'Look at me! I'm _______!' (could be either "gay" "bi" "******** this hot chick/dude" or "going out with this hot chick/dude" but the fact of the matter is that if I didn't ask I'll probably be 99% not giving a ********. Unless said person was talking about one of my friends, then maybe.) is bestowed upon me out of nowhere is when I get annoyed.
In an entertainment sense, I enjoy watching yuri, as why I joined this guild. IRL, I basically have no problem with how people want to live, just as long as it doesn't annoy me. One's orientation doesn't bother me one bit, but when it is basically shoved in my face on someone's relationship, sexuality, or frustration.. Well, basically as any other person, I would probably get annoyed.
So yeah, basically as always, flaunting your status to the world like it was a big bag of money is basically annoying to any other person, but if you just act natural, which I mean not gay or straight or whatever, but just how someone acts in public, then whatever. Just don't rub it in my face.
Just my take on it, but probably others too whatever they are.
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Posted: Thu Aug 12, 2010 1:42 pm
Well i try not to judge people based off of how they choose to live their life or the color of their skin, but sometimes things just annoy me.
Almost every gay guy that's openly gay usually annoys me just by being around them, im talking about what people think of the typical gay guy (or at least what i do), girly voice......acts like a girl........hangs out with girls, but one guy that i talked to in school who never said he was gay (but met all of my typical gay guy requirements) was actually one of my friends, he was a little weird because........well........you know, but i still liked him (not in that way scream ). Now on the other hand, ive probaly met a few gay guys that havent come out yet (and arent obviously gay) and thought they were fine people, i get along with most people unless their rofl Holes.
Now girls, i dont have much to say about that, i know some bi girls and their open about being bi and their all good friends, i dont think ive met a lesbian that i knew was lesbian but i think i could get along with one (of course i dont know how lesbians think of guys sweatdrop ). Actually there was one girl i knew was lesbian and i hated her (pretty much everyone did), she was some big black burning_eyes girl (im not racist...............well im sorta stereotypical but......) and she thought that she was better than everybody else and was always talking about how she was lesbian (by talking i mean pretty much yelling) and she would always comment in class stressed . Anyways i hated her but im sure most lesbians arent like that (ya i left out black people).
So overall, most openly gay guys annoy me but i dont hate them because their gay. All the bi girls i know are just fine and all my friends, the one girl i knew was lesbian was annoying as the freaking llama dramallama but she was.........well............ burning_eyes . I think its sorta wrong to be gay but its not my choice and i dont really care what other people do, so thats what i think biggrin
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Posted: Sat Sep 11, 2010 9:24 pm
I'm not sure how popular this answer will be but it is in fact the most honest one I think I can give...
I truly believe it is simple human nature to judge other people, no matter how hard you try I don't believe it is possible for anyone not to judge someone else whether it be because of the way you dress (ex. "OMG what a whore!") or the way you live (ex. "Wow... she's gay... weird."). That said, I don't believe judging is the major issue because usually it's as simple as having an opinion and that's not something that can really be helped. I think the issue is tolerance. People will always believe what they believe and can't always help the way they think but what you can help is the way you treat other people and that's where people falter.
I think it's awful that people are so unaccepting in such a modern society and the hatred toward what they deem "imoral" or "beyond the norm" is apalling. But then again, I have friends who don't approve of or understand the way I live but still accept my right as a human being to pursue a soulful connection with another human being be they man or woman. They find me strange but love me for me regardless of that, that's how I believe everyone should be.
Regardless of what you think of a person's orientation/ethnicity/social standings you shouldn't treat them any different then you treat others. People are entitled to their opinions, no matter how mean or ignorant they are you can't stop them from having them, but being an a*****e is the only thing (despite those obvious few) that should be unacceptable in society.
I hope I made enough sense... I tried. ;P
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Posted: Mon Sep 27, 2010 10:48 am
I don't think anyone should judge anyone by the gentinals they like to play with. Straight, bisexual, gay or whatever. We're all the same.
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