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I thought that holding stuff in, or not discussing Sex and Relationships would be a bit more dangerous and an issue for girls, and I guess you solidified that with the thread. Regardless it hits me too and I am sure others so I guess talking about it will be helpful...go figure.

It also occurs to me that on top of the very important conversing with the parents and whatnot, That not having friends to talk about this sort of thing as well, can really be an issue as well. I know that a lot of people feel uncomfortable talking to their parents and friends respectively about this stuff, especially if friends hold a lot of immaturity of some level, like refusing to talk about it because of unpleasantness and that sort of thing.

I know that not talking about Sex ed. or passing or even maintaining a thought of something grossly incorrect about sex ed. can do a lot of harm. Though I wonder if a person who did not talk about sex, not necessarily sex ed. but just talking about sex or relationships, I know of at least 3 people myself is included, that not having somebody to talk to consistently (on a friend level) due to whatever reason that it can be quite damaging. I know that a friend of mine eventually thought after a few years of people she knew not talking about anything of that sort, she just kinda got it in her head that talking about it was unpleasant, rude and whatnot, which I can not believe.

I know that for me at least, not having anyone to talk about it anymore is rather distressing to say the least. I know fact's, but there is something about talking, or discussing facts and opinions that I just find important, as the only time I ever really had that chance for a short while I learned many things I would not know, including facts I just flat out didn't know all while giving opinions and the sort back. It certainly felt different to get that stuff off of my chest, learn about new stuff and just talk so openly about an otherwise avoided topic (by a lot of people) I know it helped me learn a few things and I know for sure it killed some of the shyness I have with that topic for certain.

As long as things are factual, and the intentions aren't to change some body's outlook I really see no down side to openly discussing sex/relationships with friends, it can only help, but so many people (admittedly, not too long ago my self included) have a kind of mental wall trying to avoid talking about it.