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 Posted: Wed Jul 14, 2010 9:57 pm
I'll try to keep this short. No names will be menioned in this. I have a tendancy to keep all my relationships on gaia. They never seem to last long.
I know this guy- when I met him, he was taken. When I met him on gaia, I knew that he was a good person. Once he broke up with his girlfriend, I helped him out through all of his issues and all because I felt I had been too slient and unkind to him in the past. Then the week I got myself a gaia hubby, the guy I like asked me out. I told him "You're too late. You need to wait." For a long time, he and I were friends for benefits. I know that if my hubby EVER finds out about this, he'll go totally ape-s**t on me! gonk
Then my the guy told me he only wanted to be friends with me.
I was crushed. Broken. Shattered. Sad. I called his phone and cussed him out. Not to mention I screamed at him. His voice always seemed to calm me. His unchanging kindness. What can I do? I don't love my hubby as much as I once felt lust... neutral
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Posted: Wed Jul 14, 2010 10:33 pm
1st: Relationships on Gaia. Wrong.
2nd: That's considered cheating. Also wrong.
3rd: If you 'love' the guy, tell him and your 'hubby.'
4th: You shouldn't be so hurt by online relationships.
5th: If he hurt you that bad, he's not worth it.
Sorry if any of that was rude, but it's all true. ~Miss Ninja~
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 5:57 am
I agree about the online relationships part....they're pointless in the long run.
Relationships/sex are generally based around two things (anthropologically):
Reproduction and Protection.
Seeing as neither of these things is possible over this distance, these relationships are pointless.
On the flipside (I'll pretend like this is a real set of relationships), you're cheating, which is't fair to either of your partners. Make up your mind, tell both of them, and see how they feel.
BTW: If someone helps you cheat, chances are they'll cheat later.
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 10:40 pm
Okay well you dont have to understand this... im just posting for fun . (:
If he hurt you... forget him it might help...
Online relationships are bad.... most of the time they dont last that long.
So Yeeeah
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Posted: Fri Jul 16, 2010 3:29 pm
I can understand how my, or ALL, online relationships don't work.
And yes, I know I cheated. I see what I've done wrong and I just wish there were a way I could fix it all! I feel like a horrible person.
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Posted: Fri Jul 16, 2010 3:42 pm
Well...
At least you know what you did wrong. I suggest getting off of Gaia for a few weeks and seeing how they handle you being gone. Also, get someone in real life. It's better than any online relationship, I guarantee.
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Posted: Wed Aug 11, 2010 8:49 am
Well I don't think there is anything wrong with online relationships...but there are some things that probably need to happen in order for it to work out.
1. Personally, I feel like I would need to meet the person in real life first before starting anything because I would want to make sure I feel the same way...among other things.
2. There are situations where you have to carry on a relationship online...for instance, when your loved one has to go live in another country.
3. If you guys make plans to meet in person at least once a year (three is better)...then it will work out better probably.
4. You can't stay online forever...so at some point there has to be future plans to meet in person and live closer together.
BUT if you are fine with online relationships just staying online and knowing they won't get any farther...then that is fine as well. Whatever relationship you want that makes you happy is great...but the other person has to be on the same page as well.
Oh and I always believed that there are stages of love feeling. At first there is the lust stage...then later it goes away and turns into a happy stage and then later into a more content stage...I think around this time people think that they don't love the person anymore. Normally, it is not that you don't love the person...it is just you got used to them and your love has changed...not gone away.
Anyway, I don't really know what to tell you to do but I hope you figure it out. Do what you think is best.
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Posted: Sat Apr 07, 2012 2:31 am
GigglyNinja 1st: Relationships on Gaia. Wrong.
2nd: That's considered cheating. Also wrong.
3rd: If you 'love' the guy, tell him and your 'hubby.'
4th: You shouldn't be so hurt by online relationships.
5th: If he hurt you that bad, he's not worth it.
Sorry if any of that was rude, but it's all true. ~Miss Ninja~ It's not all true.. you're very stupid.. a high percentage of relationships start online. I found my now husband online and I married him he's laying beside me asleep right now! You can't say something doesn't work when it has worked for a ton of people thus for online dating websites etc. (I didn't meet him on a dating website) and a relationship can hurt no matter where it is.. it's two people connecting.. when a connection is broken it hurts.. if it doesn't hurt you that's fine but you can't say that about all people.. I think you were dropped on your head as a baby... just sayin
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Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2012 10:14 am
well heres a plan that may or may not work but....you should make a mule/another account and mess wit both of them and see which one really does have feelings for you, then go with that one but however if it isn't the one you want then you probably lost a good one and also relationships online is bad however some does last long, i know becuase i've been thru it....if you need more help just message me....and also it's cheating when you are wit someone but while doing "things" with another......sorry i'm not fancy with letterings :3
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Posted: Sat Apr 14, 2012 4:56 am
White_crow2408 I'll try to keep this short. No names will be menioned in this. I have a tendancy to keep all my relationships on gaia. They never seem to last long.
I know this guy- when I met him, he was taken. When I met him on gaia, I knew that he was a good person. Once he broke up with his girlfriend, I helped him out through all of his issues and all because I felt I had been too slient and unkind to him in the past. Then the week I got myself a gaia hubby, the guy I like asked me out. I told him "You're too late. You need to wait." For a long time, he and I were friends for benefits. I know that if my hubby EVER finds out about this, he'll go totally ape-s**t on me! gonk
Then my the guy told me he only wanted to be friends with me.
I was crushed. Broken. Shattered. Sad. I called his phone and cussed him out. Not to mention I screamed at him. His voice always seemed to calm me. His unchanging kindness. What can I do? I don't love my hubby as much as I once felt lust... neutral I wouldn't talk to him. I know this will sound harsh as I do not know the man or boy however, if speaking with him seems to calm you down after he has told you something very hurtful then no I would not recommend to continue the friendship with him as it is bound to happen again. Also aside from the cheating note I would not take an online relationship seriously. Now real life is a different story but online its just well.. online. There are no AIDS here that I am aware of.
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 10:14 pm
You cheated on your current hubby and then get pissed at the guy you cheated with because he stopped cheating with you.
Yerp, it is wrong. You engaged in a monogamous relationship, you broke the rules, you get to now pay the price. Tough cookies.
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Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2012 9:40 am
To all of you who posted... I appreciate the advice. I also understand that I made the wrong move, but that's long been over with. More than a year ago. I feel no more pain from those exes because we don't talk anymore. Now that I'm with someone I know I believe in, love, and would be happy to stay with, I want to close this forum. Thank you. smile
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Posted: Sun Apr 22, 2012 11:48 am
White_crow2408 To all of you who posted... I appreciate the advice. I also understand that I made the wrong move, but that's long been over with. More than a year ago. I feel no more pain from those exes because we don't talk anymore. Now that I'm with someone I know I believe in, love, and would be happy to stay with, I want to close this forum. Thank you. smile that is what we humans do. Make mistakes, learn from them (hopefully!) and move on. Tip to indicate closed topic: Edit your first post, you will have the ability to change the title. Change it to something like "closed" or "done" or whatever you like.
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