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 Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 10:09 am
I've been lurking around this guild,
And I've been questioning on whether or not to post this question here. I used a mule to post this same question in the LI,
I didn't get much feedback, though.
So, the situation here;
I have these friends, A, B, C.
Recently, I had met a new friend, D.
Before I begin, I'm a teen mom. So, I'm sure you know, I get a lot of s**t because of it.
My friends, A B and C, had now stopped talking to me, and if they do talk to me, it is only to insult me, or degrade me in some way.
So, D, when I had met him, knew that I was a teen mom. And at first, he was just like the others... Judging me without even knowing my situation, or even knowing me. I couldn't take it anymore, and I broke down and told him all about how people ALWAYS seem to be talking s**t about me, and how I'm really trying hard to be a good mother to my child while everyone's telling me that I'm a terrible person.. I think I may have pulled on his heartstrings after that, and he listened to everything I had to say, and he even told me that he took back everything he said about me.
Now, he's so nice to me. Too nice to me. I felt strange. No one's ever been so nice to me in a long time. I felt wrong, and I told him that I didn't trust his kindness. It felt too weird to me. Then, he called me "broken". He told me it was sad that I was so distrustful over simple and casual kindness... He said that something or someone must've "broke me" to make me so distrustful.
*Everything in bold is for TL;DR
My question here is:
What does he mean by "broken"?
I'm not fragile, I put up with a lot of things. I just don't trust easily... that doesn't mean someone "broke" me, does it?
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 11:05 am
It sounds like he is using the word "broken" to mean something like hurt/abused/abnormal/unhealthy. But people are all different. Some people trust others quickly, others don't. It's usually not a big deal, assuming it's not way on either extreme and causing some serious social issues. So if he's the only one saying that you're weird and have trust issues or whatever, I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. But if it's still bugging you, feel free to talk to him about it, ask him exactly what he meant by it, and remind him that everyone is different.
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 4:04 pm
I agree with Lorien. By "broken", I think he's referring to you not trusting his kindness, which seems like he didn't expect anything in return, that he was just being nice to you for the sake of being nice to you (once you told him about everything). And if you've lost friends and had people give you s**t for being a teen mom, that's understandable.
But as Lorien said, feel free to talk to him about it more, and explain that everyone is different. If you want to take him up on his kindness, hopefully you can learn to just appreciate and enjoy it, without feeling distrustful.
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Posted: Sat Jul 03, 2010 10:26 pm
Breathe in,
When you "break" a horse you basically tame it, it realizes it's place and that the rider is in control. It takes something for the horse to realize that.
But I think basically being "broken" in his terms means you had something affect you before, to make you realize your vulnerable place now. (Not saying your easy to hurt, more like you're a human and we're all vulnerable to pain of some degree)
But yeah basically someone did you wrong before (probably A, B, and C) and it makes you trust people less now.
Nothing wrong with that. Just realize some people are genuinely kind once they see your side of the story. Try and open up to "D", I guess. He seems to be a pretty dandy person.
Btw, your sigpic is totally cute. "Rex" looks uber precious. I wanna snuggle her, lol. 4laugh
Breathe out. [/ color]
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