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 Posted: Thu Jun 24, 2010 8:12 am
okay, so this stuff keeps going on with me and my boyfriend. Like his ex started talking to him, and i was okay with it at first, but then she starts sending him naked pictures and crap while he's with me, and i became angry and jealous, but i dealt til i snapped. He was angry with me and broke up with me. Then we got back together 2 days later. Now there's this other girl, and they kissed while we weren't together, so it shouldn't hurt, but it does.
i talked to my mom who lives in a different state, and she told me about my biological father who can rot for all i care, cause he's a pig. Apparantly they were together and he promised her everything, and they got together, and after the deed was done, she found out that he was cheating on her with 4 other women, so she dumped the creep, and 9 months later, i showed up.
Well, i told me boyfriend last night how i felt about his sex, and how i feel now about this other girl. And he says that they are just friends. I believe that. But this feeling just won't go away.
I don't want to be a psycho obsessive girlfriend, and i feel like i am. I feel like i'm not thinking about him and his needs. I know i think about him all the time, and i know i want him to be happy! but i still feel awful, because...i have no idea. Its like i get these feelings without there being an issue. I've been so confused. I wish i had a girl who was close to me who wasn't just a friend to tell me it was okay and that things would work themselves out. Instead, everyone is telling me to dump him. I'll never want that. And i'll never do it.
No one has listened to the whole thing. They immediately judge my boyfriend as a creep and a liar, and he's not.
It's so annoying to have everyone you thought supported you tell you that your wrong and you have to get rid of someone who makes you walk on clouds when you hear their voice, and swim in a lit up see when you are with them.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 1:44 pm
I know you're looking for the advice of another girl - but would the advice of a spiritual pansexual do?
A part of me would agree with your friends, but then again we are not you. Anything someone tells you is their opinion, not yours. You are the one who has to live with the final decision, not them.
As a person who has been in similar relationships, I would say "trust your heart until you can't" which if it sounds confusing: to me means if you love him, then love him. But realize that if he has been lying and you do discover the truth, it will hurt and at that point you will have to reevaluate your feeling.
But for now you have to decide - does my fears mean more than my love and by the way you talk of him, I would say no. Right now they are just fears. OK he kissed a girl when you were broken up. But has he done anything similar since? If not I would just let go of it, holding on to it is only going to cause turmoil within yourself.
But to sum it all up. As I said, the final decision has to be yours. No one else can decide for you because no one else can truly know how you feel about him.
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Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 8:28 pm
Blind Ragdoll2010 okay, so this stuff keeps going on with me and my boyfriend. Like his ex started talking to him, and i was okay with it at first, but then she starts sending him naked pictures and crap while he's with me, and i became angry and jealous, but i dealt til i snapped. He was angry with me and broke up with me. Then we got back together 2 days later. Now there's this other girl, and they kissed while we weren't together, so it shouldn't hurt, but it does. i talked to my mom who lives in a different state, and she told me about my biological father who can rot for all i care, cause he's a pig. Apparantly they were together and he promised her everything, and they got together, and after the deed was done, she found out that he was cheating on her with 4 other women, so she dumped the creep, and 9 months later, i showed up. Well, i told me boyfriend last night how i felt about his sex, and how i feel now about this other girl. And he says that they are just friends. I believe that. But this feeling just won't go away. I don't want to be a psycho obsessive girlfriend, and i feel like i am. I feel like i'm not thinking about him and his needs. I know i think about him all the time, and i know i want him to be happy! but i still feel awful, because...i have no idea. Its like i get these feelings without there being an issue. I've been so confused. I wish i had a girl who was close to me who wasn't just a friend to tell me it was okay and that things would work themselves out. Instead, everyone is telling me to dump him. I'll never want that. And i'll never do it. No one has listened to the whole thing. They immediately judge my boyfriend as a creep and a liar, and he's not. It's so annoying to have everyone you thought supported you tell you that your wrong and you have to get rid of someone who makes you walk on clouds when you hear their voice, and swim in a lit up see when you are with them. Hun, ill tell you something that i should have listened to long ago and i regret now that i didnt. If the person your with is causing you worry or pain- its not worth it. Theres a point when u have to ask yourself if all this stress will be worth it in the long run- and if you dont feel like you can trust him- theres probably a reason. its not a matter of if your being possesive or anything of the sort- your just trying to make the relationship work. If this guy is being difficult then you deserve better.
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