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I'm in a delima, and yeah, i'll admit i knew i might run into it,

My Finacé doesnt like this one guy i used to be friends with, and he's kinda got...ODD and an anger issue...
(He's violent, takes only "yes" as answers, and has poor judgement and great street fighting ability as well as a beats-on-his-friends-when-angry rep)

Well recently i recontacted him because i deeply felt i needed to speak with him (Let's just say i felt it was my Faith tugging at me).

he mentioned he needed a job, which, i assume, is why i felt so inclined to talk to him

well in our convo he asked about my GF, and instinctually i said, "GF?...Uh it's Fiancé"

and now that he knows i'm getting married, he wants to be invited...

i did tell him i am not making that choice...that my Fiancé is, and listed my reasons, which revolve around my being considerate of her feelings and opinions about him but didnt include her dislike of him(didnt include that fact because i'm slightly scared of his reaction if it was mentioned, remember ODD and anger issue)

anyways, i wanna come straight with him...i wanna let him know he's got no hope of getting an invite in this year or even in fourty billion years...but how?

well i should probably mention he knows exactly where i live and exactly where to find me at work...so sending texts or emails are no safer than in-person, if anything, they give him time to calculate his move, and that could be, from his rep, pretty bad.

---an example: i told him what day i was gonna get a certain game he saw no value in, and he followed me to gamestop that day, arriving right behind me, wasnt too big a deal but what he scoffed to my mother was a real upset
(he asked my mother, "does he really need that game?", but point is, he followed me when he had time to think his actions over, so i really dont feel safe.)

but as for why he has no hope of getting in, well, my Fiancé, my Best Buddy(and best man), and my Platonic Pal(and my Fiancé's bridesmaid) all dont like him one bit and also our wedding theme is legend of zelda a game he loathingly(and threateningly) despises

but i am fixing to talk to him so i'll reedit my post later

also thanks, (just so you know, it's the same girl that a while back, when we were apart i would hurt from missing her)

well, i had just gotten myself some down time but you'd already replied, but here goes...

i told him how i felt, and how everyone involved felt, somehow, someway, he accepted it as the better option for him to not be there, but i can tell it didnt sit in him well...luckily i'm still in one piece lol

i guess this issue is resolved for now