Okay so there's this guy I found myself attracted to for quite some time. We've been friends for about...8 months now. He's just great. I've never had someone...go to the length he does. Just the fact he texts me every morning means so much to me. I've never, really had any guy treat me nicely. A few months ago I broke it off with my fiancee. He was extremely abusive, for instance if my hair was up, and he didn't like it, he'd just pull the ties out. I was with this guy, Aki for 2 years. We've been best friends for 6 years beforehand. The final straw was when he punches me in the face because "I needed to lose weight" Which I didn't agree with. So he hit me.
The only reason I bring this up is, it's been difficult for me to have feelings for a guy after what Aki did to me. So when this guy and I met and there were sparks, I kinda shied away, until New years when I got a little tipsy and told him that I loved him. He said he felt the same. Which is all well and good, however we got in a discussion today that, kinda shook me up. He told me, He felt that "you're keeping me at an arms distance with all that's going on in your life" When I asked him what he meant, he brought up the fact I never mention how much my mother and I argue.
To me this is a daily occurrence that I see no real point in discussing. I mean I can walk you through it:
1. She makes a comment about my weight
2. I make a comment about hers
3. She calls me a selfish fat c**t and tells me to get the ******** out of her house.
4. I leave the room and lock myself away until she calms down.
So is it really a big deal that I don't tell him about this?
I mean I usually handle stressors on my own. I don't want to bring him down. But he says me keeping it to myself brings him down. I really care for this guy and, don't want to scare him away with my shitty life.
Any input?
The only reason I bring this up is, it's been difficult for me to have feelings for a guy after what Aki did to me. So when this guy and I met and there were sparks, I kinda shied away, until New years when I got a little tipsy and told him that I loved him. He said he felt the same. Which is all well and good, however we got in a discussion today that, kinda shook me up. He told me, He felt that "you're keeping me at an arms distance with all that's going on in your life" When I asked him what he meant, he brought up the fact I never mention how much my mother and I argue.
To me this is a daily occurrence that I see no real point in discussing. I mean I can walk you through it:
1. She makes a comment about my weight
2. I make a comment about hers
3. She calls me a selfish fat c**t and tells me to get the ******** out of her house.
4. I leave the room and lock myself away until she calms down.
So is it really a big deal that I don't tell him about this?
I mean I usually handle stressors on my own. I don't want to bring him down. But he says me keeping it to myself brings him down. I really care for this guy and, don't want to scare him away with my shitty life.
Any input?
