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 Posted: Mon Nov 16, 2009 5:04 pm
About 4 week's ago, my gf brokeup with me, she said she just wanted to be freind's because it wasn't the same when we went out and we both liked eachother, I still do. The thing is, she dumped me for a girl, no problem with that, it's just that girl happen's to be my freind, which I had no idea she was bi, I still say hi and such, but my ex just ignore's me like I don't exsist.
I few day's before she went out with my freind, she said, that we could be 'freind's with benefit's', so that had me in a happy mood, but about 3 day's after[by this time she was dating my freind, but the way she talked to me, she didn't seem like she liked her], I tried to kiss her, but she sort of denied it, so I said ''You like her don't you?'' and that's when it all hit the fan. She said ''yeah...'' in a nearvous way, so I just walked off, I figured I'd give her time to clear her head, but now she dosent even speak, she talks to my other freind's, guys and girls alike, but I can't get a word out of her. I don't even think were freind's anymore, but her cousin say's she want's to know how I feel about her, but to me, it doesent make a difference now. I just sit back and watch everything unfold thinking to myself 'WHAT THE HELL HAPPENED?!'. I have no idea what to do, I'm almost about to give up hope. I'd be lying if i said I dont care, actually, I want to get back with her, but I dont even know what the hell is happening.
p.s-before she went out with her, she also stated that she doesent like 'title's' she preffered 'freinds with benefit's', so why did she do what she did?
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Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 2:36 am
I dunno - perhaps she just needs a break? Or maybe she feels guilty for breaking up on such bad terms and all... She needs time to calm down and to think. She might have just had a problem and is confused. I think maybe you should let things be for a while, cause you two are still emotional and you guys might say things you don't mean, because that's something that happens often. See how it goes for a while, and chill, man.
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Posted: Wed Nov 18, 2009 11:30 am
Sweetie, this is why the whole friends with benefits thing basically NEVER works out.
Someone always gets more involved than they were supposed to. In this case, that's you.
And it seems to me she is playing the bad guy. Probably thinks if she acts really cold and awful that your feelings will turn to anger
and thus no longer be feelings of affection. I'm not saying that was a great plan because it's just another kind of game but you're not blameless in this.
If you knew from the get go that she didn't want an actual relationship, why would you even bother? It is pretty apparent that your looking for more than someone
to fool around with.
Plus let's not make light of the fact that this girl is struggling with her sexuality. You say you gave her space to clear her head but in her mind
maybe it seemed like you just walked away. I don't know and you shouldn't ASK because I get the sense that your already crowding her.
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