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 Posted: Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:56 pm
I broke up woth him. Over the phone.
I know it's mean, doing it during a call.
I feel like everything in the relationship was always my fault.
I know it wasn't but he always made me feel like it was.
I've been thinking about breaking up with him for a good while now, so I know it was probably the best thing to do.
The final straw was when he called earlier, my mom answered, told him I was just leaving to get some ice cream, and it drove me batty. I told my mom about how I couldn't take everything, his complaining, his neediness, his mood swings, his anything.
It was totally awesome in the beginning, but I honestly just can't deal with how he always needs to be talking to me, or around me, or otherwise he's depressed.
He complained that we never went on dates anymore, but that was because he called me every night(sometimes twice a night), we hang out at every break at school, we have a class together, and we have the same group of friends. It was always complaints, complaints. He complained about his home life, himself, his classes, the internet, his teachers, his friends, skateboarding, jobs, how bored he always was, us, me. He never stopped.
I tried asking for space, but he got depressed and called more. He didn't do anything.
He had a bunch of moodswings all the time. In school he'd be happy, but once he was home, he'd get depressed about everything and call me.
He guilt tripped me. Anytime I wanted something from the relationship, space, time, anything, he'd get depressed and say something like 'I'm sorry, but I just wanted to talk to you...' or something of the like.
I told myself I wasn't going to cry.
Now I'm telling myself that I refuse to take him back. I'll be sticking to that one.
I just can't stop feeling bad, even I know it's not my fault.
I'm totally not ready for the dating scene.
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Posted: Tue Oct 27, 2009 1:35 am
Honestly, some people never do get the hang of dating. From what you've said it wasn't the healthiest relationship, so it's good that you broke it off. That's something you don't want to get sucked into. But as for dating itself, it's a lot of trial and error. You meet someone you think you would get along with, and it turns out that you don't. It happens. My advice is to take a break, enjoy yourself, and try not to worry too much. You have to look out for yourself first.
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Posted: Thu Oct 29, 2009 11:04 pm
I agree with you, Roses. It's not your fault. It was his fault for not giving you the space you needed. He was obsessed with you, in an unhealthy manner, and you are in the right for leaving him. Very few couples are perfect, but there's always that one person out there that you're meant for. Like me, I hope.
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Posted: Fri Oct 30, 2009 8:42 am
Beron - I don't really see it as his fault either. There was some stuff that, yes, he should take the blame for, but with some time to think,
I think the problem was that neither of us were mature enough for a relationship, and everything just started crumbling before either of us got the hint.
Vixen - Yeah. My mom said almost the exact same thing: Look out for number one.
Which is me.
I'm not going to let something like this rain on my parade(or my marks gonk )
The only reason I'm still unhappy about this is because on Friday he went to my friend and told her that it was all my fault, and he knew that it was coming, that I had been doing all the complaining, and how 'betrayed he felt'.
If he tries that again, I swear I'm just going to smack him. Just because all our friends hang out together, doesn't mean he can do that. I need to hope that my friends aren't going to listen to him, because I refuse to 'have to win my friends over'.
I'm not going to let him split up my friends and I.
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