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Some people hear about Muslims having more than one wife. They think, "whoa, Muslims can have a whole bunh of wives??" This is not the case. The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) made it inpermisable to have more than 4 wives. I'll narrarate a hadith from memory the best I can.(this will not be verbatem, but I will tell it the best I can, insha'allah"

A man came to the prophet (S.A.W.). He informed the prophet that, before he came into Islam, he had 7 wives. He wanted to know what he should do, since this was over the prescribed amount of wives one may have. The Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) told him to divorce the other three, and keep four.

If possible, find the actual hadith to read yourself, insha'allah. And may Allah forgive me for any error I may have made in this narrarration. Ameen.

idk..........isnt it sunnah to marry 4 wives...u dont have to it........
when i get married...i kinda hope im the only one...unless i agree to the next three nd he treats us evenly...then it would be fine with me...........but still, it makes me wonder a lot of things.

I know that it's allowed and I read 'bout it but I didn't know that you could only have 4.

And a guy can marry more than once, but he can marry only once if he wants to, right?

I also read stuff in these islamic articals saying how, like... well, it was about women and how they shouldn't be treated badly and stuff, with some hadiths provided i think. I couldn't understand all of it, but I read that, for a women, if her husband dies and if she wants to marry someone else she can be allowed to do so and... I couldn't understand this part, it said something about the wife's property or something...

That's why it is very important for us muslims to learn our beautiful way of life. There is alot of blessings when a man takes in four wives, this is his right and he doesn't need permission nor approval from the wife or wives. If a sister feels that she doesn't want her husband to have two wives, or more she should mentioned this in her marriage contract. She probably is not ready to live this way or whatever, but do know that it is his right, his choice to take up to four wives and that that this is a lawful. Whatever Allah says is lawful is good and clean, and such is the case with polygamy.
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Fair Treatment of Co-Wives

One of the rights that a wife has over her husband is that she and her co-wives should be treated equally in regards to the time spent with them. He can not spend more time with one over the the other"
http://sunnahfollowers.net/ppt/Tawheed/Goodness/Good-37/text9.html

This quranic verse is talking about polygamy:

"And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]."

Quran 4:3

Only take in what you can handle...but if you feel that you can support another wife and insh'Allah children, May Allah bless + guide u and your family both in the good + during hardships ameen! Children are a blessing if they are reared as rightous God-fearing muslims who were taught and blessed by the knowledge, nderstanding and practice in the deen! Taking care of another woman is good too! Providing her with financial means, feeding her, and pleasuring her are all acts of worship as long as they are in accordance to the quran + authentic sunnah and for the woman to do the same for the man is also great too!

What if I wanted 4 husbands?

According to history, the number 11 and 9 of them were he left off when he died. crying

We also understand that the enemies of Islam as a half or Missie Western Orientalists and Christian Zending deliberately making criticisms inferior with regard to the Prophet's marriages. evil

Among critics, is that the Prophet Muhammad PBUH take more than one person is as sensual-sheer lust. stressed

if they want to examine more deeply to find out what is the secret behind the marriage of the Prophet Muhammad, they will know and understand the intelligence would even praised the strategy of the Prophet Muhammad, namely: "political and social motives". smile

At least, there are non-Muslim professor who had the opportunity to learn first-hand about the history and life of the Prophet Muhammad to the conclusion that is different from the conclusion of the non-Muslims.

John L. Esposito, Professor of Religion and Director of the Center for International Studies at the College of the holly cross, says that almost the whole marriage was the Prophet Muhammad's mission of social and political (political and social motives) (Islam The Straight Path, Oxford University Press, 1988 ).

One other non-Muslims, Caesar E. Farah writes as follows: "In the prime of his youth and adult years Muhammad remained thoroughly devoted to Khadijah and would have none other for Consort".