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Okay, so um I've been having quite a few problems back home over here, and I seriously cannot take this much longer. I keep hoping and praying for June to fricken come so I can leave. To be technical and "Legal" I should be hoping for August because that's when I'll be 18 but, no. June I graduate. I'm ******** out of here.

The main problem in our home is money. Now, yes I know there are plenty of other people who have money issues right now, but I'm going to vent on my part of the economy.

»» First off, some background info :: I am a single child, aged 17, living with a single mother who works one job paying about $35k/year. That's pretty average right? Okay so there's no problems there. My Dad, however, lives with his wife and three kids about 45 minutes away from us. He pays child support, I think it's supposed to be like $500/month or something. Idk. Currently, he's trying to take my mom to court to get that lowered. He has only work about 7 weeks this year...He's a sheet metal worker. But I guess my step mom is working or something. I have no idea, I haven't seen my dad in almost nine years.

»» Now. My mom is a traveler and big spender. She likes going on cruises and buying things we don't need because they look cool and yadda yadda yadda. Recently, my car had to be taken to the shop because well the head gasket was shot and now it's going to cost about $1300 to fix it. It went in on Monday. Wed. my mom went out to get her nails done and she just left like twenty minutes ago to get her hair done...Since I don't have a job yet, I can't pay for the repair on the car. BUT the car is still in her name, she bought it, I just fill the gas and drive it, well and care for it obviously. I'd also like to make this known that the head gasket being shot is not something you can exactly control. Something goes wonky with the manufacturing seal and it's an unfortunate occurrence that just happens. How great for me. My mom's car is also going soon.

»» I have been trying to get a job for a while now, but right now I babysit for money on the side. I get paid fairly well too. But since it's only like one to three times a month, it's not exactly reliable for cash flow and therefore I need a steady income. Though, my car is in the shop I'm supposed to go out and turn in applications for jobs...supposed to use my mom's car. BUT one of the places didn't open until 11am today and hello you don't know if the manager is even going to be there so I was going to wait so I could do the turn ins all at once. My mom however needed the car for her hair appointment. So I didn't go because who's to say I wouldn't have gotten an interview, right? So I was filling in my apps at home and my mother saw me doing this but she was still unhappy for some reason...no idea.
Earlier I had asked her if I could go with her to her hair appointment to see if I could maybe get my bangs cut or whatever she said sure. I told her what I would exactly want and then she said, "Well she might charge you for that". And I can't exactly afford anything right now so I decided not to go.

My mom comes into my room and asks "Are you ready? ...Or are you not going?"
Me: "No, I don't think I am."
Mom: "Whatever. I'm so sick of your s**t." [followed by the front door slamming]

After that I called my g'ma and she coming to get me so I can stay the night at her house. I'll still have to see my mom tomorrow because we have a wedding to go to but, ehh I say whatever we'll get over it. Okay. My venting session is over. Any responses, comments, suggestions..? Anything would be appreciated.

I do agree with you. Our Economy does blow. And Parents today are very over-reactive and controlling.

My mom is a major control freak, she will make up any rule she see's fit to be able to boss me around. And right when I turned 18 she made me start paying rent. Which I do while trying to pay for college. And as she says "As long as you live in my house you will follow my rules." I get blamed for everything that goes wrong and even when I prove her wrong in an argument she will do something to compensate for her loss, such as taking the TV away and just doing stupid things. She is also a living contradiction, in my mom's mind there is no room for mistakes, ever ever ever. Everything has to be done perfect the first time. Otherwise she will freak out. Literally. She contradicts herself all the time and thinks she always right, even when proven wrong. One of her biggest contradictions is this. She speaks to me saying that I need to give respect in order to get it. Yet she gives none to me, so I give none in return. I told her she needs to respect me before I respect her and she will go on saying what I said above. I go by a specific moral. "Everyone has my respect until they lose it." Even though I have had a few past events that have given me the mind set that everyone I don't know is an a*****e and I don't like them, I still respect them. And until they lose that respect, they will always have it.

My dad I never talk too, he was very abusive and I actually have a permanent scar on my right hip from when I was 6. My mom finally got the guts to divorce him when I was 10 and I have never talked to him since recently, not a single word has been shared between us until a couple weeks ago when my mom was put in the hospital and I had to go live with him for a week.

He has changed for the better, but first impressions are a major part in someone's opinions. And I still don't like him, even if he isn't abusive anymore. He still drinks, and he still goes in and out of jail. I hate to say it, but I'm happy I don't talk to him. It's a sad fact, but it's true.

After I left we haven't said a word yet. I'm fairly excited to move out but I must say, it's most likely best to stay and deal with your mom till you get a well paying job and finish college if you plan on going, Living on your own is a very big jump in life and I would actually recommend that you and a friend move out together as roommates. Not only will you have some support but you will have someone to relate too.

Just make sure you're prepared before jumping out into the world, it's cruel and harsh and people will scam and hurt you at every turn.