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 Posted: Mon Sep 07, 2009 9:27 am
I know I've already told a few people about this, but er... I'll start with the full story so you guys know exactly what's going on.
When I was in eighth grade, my friend Jessie befriended a boy in our school named Thomas. He always seemed very sad and lonely, seeing as he was a big and intimidating young man and most of the people who knew him were afraid of him. So he started hanging out with our group and kind of became one of us. Thomas was really nice at first...
But I don't know what happened. He just...suddenly went mad or something. He claimed that he had multiple personalities, and he couldn't control them. And he refused to get help for it. According to Thomas, one of his five personalities had killed at least two people. At first, we all thought he was just playing some sick joke, but...He was too serious about it. So a few of us started to get scared.
Then came the harassment. He started groping and getting far too close a lot of us, even after he was asked to stop or was told that we weren't interested. That elevated into him daring to demand kisses, breast-hugs, etc. Those whom he came after always refused. We were going to report him, but were too scared of what he may have done.
I was the last he came after...as a main target. Thomas would always have one key victim for a while and otherwise go after the other girls opportunistically. He went as far as to demand my first kiss, atttempting to find where I live, stalking me around school, and sweet-talking me into dating him. He asked me out not even an hour after I saw him shove his hand down Jessie's pants. He started appearing at places in the mall I fequented. And dragging me along to the local Hot Topic to point out all the skimpy underwear and/or lingerie that he'd have liked to see me in.
Turns out he was in a gang, and his"allies" were using a picture he'd taken of me in Chess club to try to track me. Their network seems pretty limited, since he couldn't get my last name or location, though he found about four other people in our group.
I tried to distance myself from him, and he noticed. He drew and gave me a picture of a blue rose dripping blood... Said he was like the rose, and it was my blood. He also gave my other pal Kassie a demented love poem that he wrote. This really scared us out of our wits.
We came to the decision to ignore what he'd told us about the killings and reported him to the authorities. Thomas was expelled from the school and restraining orders were put in place on the more extreme cases among us.
...And now he's somehow wormed his way back into our district. I see him around every now and then...Even after I've changed my hair and the like, he still recognizes me... He hasn't done anything yet, but I'm still disturbed by Thomas' presence. So much so that I've had nightmares about him lately...
He also made a Gaia account recently... Jessie found his profile after he called and told her, and she informed me. His username is Arthgallo.
...Any brilliant ideas on what we can do? I'm tired of living in fear. I can defend myself if necessary, but...
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Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 6:54 pm
...Um...Is no one going to help me? Is it really hopeless...?
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Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2009 7:31 pm
Simply, ignore him, Exari. You already got a restraining order against him so you should be set. Just ignore him and erase him from your mental history. He can't hurt you because you have friends, parents, and the authorities to protect you. Remember that.
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 9:06 am
I am afraid I must disagree with Mako, ignoring what is quite obviously a very serious situation would be detrimental. He clearly has serious mental issues, though it seems likely that he's just lying about the multiple personalities to excuse his own actions.
He can hurt you, and the only person who can stop that is your good self. Excerise the restraining order to its full effect, and take up martial arts, boxing or self defence of some variety. If he lays his hands on, Break them, because he has no legal right to be within range to even make physical contact with you.
If you don't want to live in fear, do not bury your head in the sand, master your fear instead. Find out everything you can about him, train to defend yourself from possible attack, understand the full power of your restraining order, and by those virtues you will become empowered to defeat both your fear, and this pathetic little man.
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Omnipotent Uncertainties Captain
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 4:27 pm
I agree use that restraining order to it's fullest. You have rights use them.
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Posted: Fri Sep 11, 2009 9:34 pm
Omnipotent Uncertainties I am afraid I must disagree with Mako, ignoring what is quite obviously a very serious situation would be detrimental. He clearly has serious mental issues, though it seems likely that he's just lying about the multiple personalities to excuse his own actions. He can hurt you, and the only person who can stop that is your good self. Excerise the restraining order to its full effect, and take up martial arts, boxing or self defence of some variety. If he lays his hands on, Break them, because he has no legal right to be within range to even make physical contact with you. If you don't want to live in fear, do not bury your head in the sand, master your fear instead. Find out everything you can about him, train to defend yourself from possible attack, understand the full power of your restraining order, and by those virtues you will become empowered to defeat both your fear, and this pathetic little man. Yeah...Yeah, you're right. I'll work to be able to defend myself in any way necessary, and I'll use the restraining order. Scumbags like that aren't worth fearing. I'm seeing about self defense classes that are offered nearby now. If he dares to touch me or my friends, I'll fight back. Fear is a natural human emotion, after all, but it's meant to keep one from harm, not keep them from getting stronger and enjoying a peaceful life. @ Mako: I'll ignore him as long as he keeps well away from me. But if he gets too close, there's no guaranteeing he'll get off in one piece. It'll be his fault for trying to lay a hand on me. @ DenvoPryde: True. I have the rights to both fight back and use that restraining order. The only person who can possibly stop me from taking advantage of that is myself.
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Posted: Tue Sep 15, 2009 2:15 pm
Don't let him take control of your mind with fear, but yes exercise those rights and it might be best to let those authorities know, if they dont already that he's back. I definitely agree with Omni about defense classes, aside from your current problem it's a good investment of time, especially with what's happening in your life now. Wish you the best.
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Posted: Fri Sep 18, 2009 7:18 pm
Thanks. I'll do my best. I'm pretty sure the authorities already know, though. And true, defense is handy whether I'm in this sort of situation or not.
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Posted: Fri Sep 25, 2009 11:34 pm
If your like me and you have long legs that arent prapotionate to your body than you should take up tae-kwon-do cause its about kicking instead of punching. This might help in your search for martial arts.
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Posted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:37 am
Of course I agree about using the restraining order to its highest potential. On the "personal defense" note... While I know it is good to take some defense classes and the like, don't depend on them to save your life should the situation arise. Make sure you stay aware of your surroundings, try not to walk alone, *always* exercize the restraining order, and use the self defense when you have to, but when a guy is so much bigger than you, or has so many more yrs experience in defending himself physically.... you are better off getting the authorieties involved and letting them handle it. Stalking is a crime. (In most states it is no longer a misdeanor but carries harsher punishments).
I was stalked for a long time by this guy.... I still keep an eye out for his car, and drive by his house once in awhile to see if he has a new vehicle or mofe of transportation I didn't know about. Use the justice system as much as you can, and play it safe---
good luck,
celeste
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Posted: Wed Oct 28, 2009 3:16 pm
condo man 45 If your like me and you have long legs that arent prapotionate to your body than you should take up tae-kwon-do cause its about kicking instead of punching. This might help in your search for martial arts. Yeah, my legs are ridiculously long in proportion to my body. I'll keep that in mind, thank you very much for the suggestion. @ celeste: Alright, thanks for the advice. I'll be careful.
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Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 1:16 pm
has anything changed since then?
i was going through the topics and only realized how old this is, but has he tried to talk to you since he showed up?
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Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 3:26 pm
hellabeats has anything changed since then? i was going through the topics and only realized how old this is, but has he tried to talk to you since he showed up? Ah, I really haven't updated this thing in a while! A week or so ago he approached me from behind and tried to hug me. I elbowed him in the stomach and ran off as fast as I could. I've seen the guy around a few times since then, but he hasn't tried anything. I'm beginning to hop he's gotten over it, but you never know...
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