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What a great and incredibly relevant question. The answer is simple yet complicated, both short and long. Let me begin in the simplest way I can by just answering your questions as you’ve laid them out.

Short Answers:

Porn? Right or Wrong? My quick response is wrong.
Does it matter? My quick answer is VERY MUCH SO!!!

What do you think about a married man watching it? My short answer is that he shouldn’t be.

What do you think about the fact that it exists? I wish it didn’t.

Now…short answers aside…let me explain why I feel that way.

Much of my response centers around Colossians 3:1-17 so it might be helpful for you to have a Bible handy so you can connect the dots from what I’m saying to that particular passage. You should also know that if I quote something it’s coming from the ESV translation. If you want to read along in that translation I would recommend going to a website like Bible Gateway.

In my Bible Colossians 3 begins with a sub-heading titled “Put on the New Self”. What ensues from there is a list, which Paul is famous for doing. This list instructs us of two things: 1. What we have died from. 2. What we have been born into. Colossians 3 begins with the famous motto “set your mind on the things that are above, not on things that are on the earth.” From that opening remark Paul goes into an intense dissection process that begins with, “For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” What kind of death is Paul referring to? Well, we can obviously eliminate the idea of a physical death in the sense that we might typically think of it. Paul is speaking of a different kind of death. But what exactly? Namely, a death to that which plagues the human condition and all that hinders us from the clear path of righteousness. How does that tie into pornography? Like this: If our instruction is to set our minds on the things that are above, i.e. God’s kingdom, I believe that we can safely glean that pornography is not a part of the “things that are above”. For further evidence of this very thing one need only continue in their reading of Colossians 3. Paul tells us to put to death….strong words…what is earthly in us. But he doesn’t stop there, he get specific. “Sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire and covetousness, which is idolatry.” Pornography is the embodiment of all these things. Pornography often advocates adultery, impurity, evil desire and covetousness. In Porn there is little room or ground for conscience or general morality. This is coming from the mouth of one who has seen much pornography in his day. More times than I care to admit I’ve been guilty of the numerous sins that go hand in hand with pornography. Pornography even helped me engage in two adulterous relationships before I was married. I’ve been entrenched in the pit of sin that is porn and it’s an ever constant struggle that just about every heterosexual male I know struggles through. So in our struggle to be vigilant, steadfast and infants in evil we must die to anything that prohibits us from keeping our minds on things of God’s kingdom. In some ways this is what it means to have a “kingdom” oriented mindset.

As for a husband who watches porn….well that husband needs to be mindful of one very simple scripture: Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” When a husband chooses porn over his wife he is forsaking her. He is, in essence, saying that his wife does not fulfill his needs as a man. In doing so he turns his back on her and fails to honor and love her with a love and sacrifice like that of Christ. This is what happens when husbands forget that their relationship is sacred and profound, mysterious and wonderful (just like Christ’s love for the church).

As far as what I think about the fact that porn exists….I can simply say this: Sin and temptation will always exist in this fallen world. We should never be surprised when we see sin running rampant…if it’s one thing the scriptures show us it’s that generation after generation, even the ones who loved God, are always going to be, at one point or another, guilty of some perversion of God’s way. This is why it’s so important to study the scriptures and understand how, precisely, we are called to stand steadfast against that which is unrighteous.

I could go on and on and on and on about this subject and I would more than love to. It may almost be something better discussed over email but I’m willing to converse in whatever way is most convenient for you. Thanks for bringing this question to bear. It’s definitely important and I would love to keep it going. If you want to email me you can always catch me at chad@bethechurch.com

Thanks Flash.

Sincerely,

Chad Dodson
Assistant Pastor
Oasis Christian Fellowship

thx ya'll....i was looking for a Biblical defense agianst it to prove a friend wrong.