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 Posted: Thu Jul 09, 2009 3:13 am
Welcome to the Problem thread, This is were you can come and Complain about problems that you Have in Real Life. This is not the place to b***h about Fellow Gild members this is for problems in Real Life only.
Weather you need Help or Just want to get something off your chest, Here is were to put I and others will do all we can to help and make you fell better.
So sit on my couch and tell me all about it, I am always a friendly ear and will do my best go give helpful advice.
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Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 11:20 pm
Lucky me...I'm the first one to post. sweatdrop Okay...here it goes. I really just need to vent, because at 2 am, there's no one awake to talk to....
As I've told everyone before, my dog, Buster, is going downhill, and we don't think he has much time left. He barely eats or drinks anything, and it's extremely hard for him to move around at all. Buster has been in the family a few months longer than I have, so this has been really hard on me. I mean, I've literally never known a life without him.
Another thing going on in my life is my parents. I fit into the ever-growing population of divorce kids. My parents separated when I was 12 (three years ago) and my mom brought me and my sister to move into her 'friends' house. Now, this house is only a couple of minutes away from my dad's house, so it wasn't a big move. However, this 'friend' of hers used to always come to the house when my dad wasn't home. My dad travels for his job, so that was a lot. Then, a few months after we moved in here, my mom and David started dating. My parents hadn't even filed the papers for the divorce. And my sister and I knew that this had been going on since before my parents split. Needless to say, we don't really like David all that much. Now they're engaged, and my parents finalized their divorce about a month or two ago. So because my dad isn't home much, I can't really stay with him, and my mom's fiancee tends to piss me off daily. I understand that we live in his house and all, I really do, but every time I try to have a private conversation with my mother, even if he's down the hall on the other side of the house, he'll come and like, stand in the doorway to listen to the private conversation. I can't even talk to my mother privately unless he's not in the house. Along with this, he just tends to find little things to do throughout the day to wear on my nerves. My sister is in college, so she's not here during the school year and she also stays at my dad's most of the time, since she can drive herself back and forth. So I'm all alone here.
Lastly, on my rant, my boyfriend broke up with me for the second time about 15 minutes ago...we got back together during that week I was on vacation, and he decided I wasn't ready to be in a relationship again. Maybe he was right, but it still hurts, ya know?
All of this wearing down on me, and it's just been a very stressful time...Thanks for the ranting thread! sweatdrop If anyone wants to give feedback or advice, I'd gladly listen...
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Posted: Tue Jul 14, 2009 11:58 pm
Aww, Kai....-cuddles- If he broke up with you twice, its Him who isnt ready for the relationship. I cant help about the dog, wish i could, and the fiance thing, ******** TELL HIM Shes YOUR mother and YOU deserve to be able to have that private time with her. Its not fair that he does that.
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 3:53 am
Well Glad my thread idea is tring to be of help. let me see what advice Icna offer you.
Well first off for the dog. I know how you fell, I have never had a time in my life were we did not own a dog. But I have had to deal with a lot of loss form it. As only 1 of our dozen or more dogs dies of natural causes. I am so sorry that yours is sick and can only tell you he will stay in your heart even long after he is gone. love the time you had together and be happy you were able to have him in your life for so long.
Next is the thing about your parents. I my self am adopted, never knew my "real" parents. I love my mother (adopted but I concerned her my real mother) My "Father" on the other hand is a complete a*****e who is not happy unless he knows he has compelty ******** up some one else' day. I no longer live in the house with them but I love across the street. and even to this day every time I talk to him all he wants to do is piss me off. So my advice there is you won't have to stay with him forever, but until then there is little more you can do than just not let him get to you. If he is anything like my "father" than that will piss him off more than anything else you could possibly do.
And finny for the boyfriend, As a guy I can say this he is not worth it. It is clear he does not know what he wants and is trying to put it off on you. I say you need to kick his a** to the curb and never look back. He is the kind that will keep stinging you along as long as he can that way he always has someone to fall back on if another girl doesn't work out. Do not let your self be that girl, I assure you you will not be happy if you do.
And that is my advice to you, I hope it helps some. If you have any questions, comments, complains, or even just want to thank me fell fre to post them and I will address them as best I can.
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 10:22 am
Thanks so much you guys! heart I actually feel a lot better. sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 11:08 am
Nothing about you guys but....my good feeling's gone. They're having him put down today....
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Posted: Wed Jul 15, 2009 11:36 am
I am sorry for that, I have had to put down one of my dogs once...not too long ago. I cired...only able to take something form that he was no longer in pain.
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Posted: Sat Jul 25, 2009 11:47 pm
Yeah this might not be much of a rant but that kind of explains itself as I type this, so here it goes.
Right first of all for people who didn't know as whenever I bring it up some people either go brain dead or just act like there memories suck. I am currently disabled with only one of my hands actually usable for typing on a keyboard, luckily it's my right hand which is the hand I use for most things.
Now onto the problem. In the last week my sleeping schedule has gone to plain s**t for unknown reasons, no matter what I do but I can't sleep, I even took sleep medication and I slept for an hour... one ******** hour! so whenever my body actually helps me and makes me pass out I end up smacking my head off of a table or face planting the floor where I end up sleeping for anything from 2 to 9 hours, you'd think this is good but no I get these extremely vivid dreams of things that I hate or am afraid of(did you hear that Brock-Maister actually admitted he has fears holy s**t run for cover!).
Right the vivid dreams aren't all that bad... well when I finally wake up my mind is filled with those same damn vivid dreams! this is a good and bad thing, not only do I have things I hate running through my damn mind, I can now describe s**t to a degree where you'd believe if I wrote at s**t you could clearly imagine that same piece of s**t in your mind, so what's so bad about this? I can now be a better rper than I was before... oh wait I'm running on 0 actual sleep so my creative and thinking parts of my brain can't come up with a ******** thing.
Now the last part of that problem, if the vivid dreams weren't enough my dogs just had puppies, yeah baby dogs, right everyone knows a fully grown energetic dog can be a real b***h to handle(that pun wasn't intended) but helping dogs raise there children while running on no sleep is going to be a ******** nightmare(so it's gone from sleeping nightmares to living one!), I have to buy them food, watch the smelly shits and learn about caring for pups wow what JOY!.
ok so that isn't the root of this rant, right with no sleep comes migraines and with no sleep and migraines comes a constant stated of brain dead and writers block yet people seem to enjoy sending me PM's telling me to post WHEN I ALREADY MADE IT OBVIOUS that I'm having said problems and I hate someone trying to force me to do something that I like to take at my own pace anyway. I won't name said person(s) because well I don't feel like it, so now that I got off of my chest and I'm too tired to give a flying ******** if I forgotten anything I'll sit back and plead to Satan for help.
Finally yeah sorry for all the swearing, but it's a legitimate word in most dictionaries and it's legal within the confines of the law as long as it's not used in the form of bullying so deal with it.
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 6:21 pm
May I make a suggestion?
(going to say it anyways)
Have you tried writing your dreams and nightmares down? It helps me sometimes if they are recurring ones... Or talking them out with someone?
It doesn't help everyone, but some people. I am even here if you'd like smile
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 7:31 pm
ArtemisChild May I make a suggestion? (going to say it anyways) Have you tried writing your dreams and nightmares down? It helps me sometimes if they are recurring ones... Or talking them out with someone? It doesn't help everyone, but some people. I am even here if you'd like smile everyone I know outside of Gaia other than my fiancee and psychiatrists would just laugh there asses off (yes my city is full of torturous assholes) and I don't want to go see a psychiatrist because I don't want to talk about mental issues while they work up a damn bill. So I guess I'll talk to you about the nightmares because well that's pretty much the same thing as writing them down since I can save chat log or just copy and paste what I type into a word document, so want it here or a PM(thanks for the trying to help too =D)
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 7:42 pm
It doesn't matter where we talk about it as long as you are comfortable doing it. We can even go to IM if you would prefer smile
And no problem, I don't mind helping people, I actually enjoy it smile
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 7:50 pm
ArtemisChild It doesn't matter where we talk about it as long as you are comfortable doing it. We can even go to IM if you would prefer smile And no problem, I don't mind helping people, I actually enjoy it smile Yeah... I'll go with PM's cause then I could break down in virtual tears and keep my dignity XD besides IM annoys the crap out of me, I turn off it's random popping up in my profile and guess what it still does it -_- So time to go vivid on a pm XD
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Posted: Sun Jul 26, 2009 7:54 pm
Lol... I turned off the Gaia IM, I hate it... I stick to yahoo, msn and aim... oh and skype.
I'll see you in PMs then smile
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 12:09 am
Takes a deep breathe. Time to rant.
My brain is about to explode! I've been taking online classes for 2 months now which is practically the whole summer, and now school is about to start in 2 weeks! I'm not a happy person. I haven't been able to relax at all this year. I normally would take advantage of the two weeks off but I have to finish reading the Scarlet Letter and write 9 more journals about it so I can turn it in when school starts. Why must I be such an over achiever, I don't wanna be smart no more, screw this! My brain hurts so bad right now...
Then to top it off I'm not allowed to have a freakin teenage life! I mean I can't even go to the mall let alone down the street without my family assuming I'm up to something. I mean one time I wanted to go for a walk around the neighborhood because I'm new to it, and they wouldn't let me! Going on about something like getting raped, kidnapped, or meeting some boys! I literally had to fight them to let me walk home from school. I'll be 16 in 4 days and I can't even stay after school...There is absolutely no trust none what so ever in this house. I feel like i'm in prison! I'm going crazy; my only escape is this computer. Isn't that sad?! I have to get on the computer in order to talk to people!
AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
Sighs deeply. Okay I'm better now
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Posted: Thu Aug 06, 2009 8:56 am
yah.... Ouch... your parents are worse then mine... Why don't you offer to socialize on their terms? Say you'll do it their way... My mom set in rules for me and as long as I abide by them she is happy to let me do as I please... Tell your parents that you need to branch out and gain some integrity and trust... that you are willing to do it their way if they give you a way... Let them know that they raised you to be a good kid and now is your time to show it. Offer to introduce them to your friends and hang out at your house for a while allowing your parents to begin to trust them... make sure that the friends you bring home are respectable and pretty contained. Offer to hold study groups at your house. The more mature you seem the better... parents aren't too hard to figure out... and remember they do it because they love you and worry about you. If you take away what they think is dangerous (I.e Non-supervised or Ill-supervised time) then they might be a little more giving... see if they will go on walks with you, tell them stuff, talk to them... let them see that you are growing up and let them begin to cope with the fact that you will soon be out of the house... It's really hard for parents... especially for their first or last child... remember this is their first time being your parents just as much as it is your first time being their teenager. hope I helped XD If you can't tell I had to do the same thing... Some parents may be too stubborn or busy... but I believe they would be willing to work on things with you... let them lay down the law and you try to work with it.
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